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I'm pretty new here. Please check out my profile and let me know what you think. And let me ask...does it bother you when you look at someone else's profile and they don't have any info? I have checked out those with no pic but just can't find any interest in those who have no bio or 'no answer' listed. This might be weird but I actually pay attention to how things are spelled and how they worded. Yes, we all make little mistakes or type too fast which makes things come out wrong -- but I always double check before I post.
Thank you in advance! |
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Edited by
MisKim323
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Wed 10/07/09 08:05 AM
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The "no pic" thing does bother most...myself included....and not answering a simple question is either a sign that they just don't want to put forth the effort, or they have something to hide...staying away form those....it's a good thing...less chance of falling for a scam...better to be safe than sorry
As far as bad spelling....I try to overlook it...some people in this great big world of ours have reading disabilities and some were not given an education....so to me....that's not a big issue as long as I can understand what they are trying to say....and it's always a good thing to offer to help them with that if they become a close friend |
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And let me ask...does it bother you when you look at someone else's profile and they don't have any info? Actually, I've found that to be the default setting -- I have seen many, many profiles consisting entirely of "I don't know what to write here" and "Anything you want to know, you'll have to ask" and "I'll fill this out later." And most of the profiles that do feature any sort of content merely contain the same dozen or so cliches in different orders. I can't even begin to tell you how many times I've seen "I'm the most unique person you'll ever meet!" followed by the same banal drivel I've just read in the previous 1482 profiles. I have checked out those with no pic but just can't find any interest in those who have no bio or 'no answer' listed. This might be weird but I actually pay attention to how things are spelled and how they worded. Same here. As a writer, spelling and grammar are important to me. We all make typos, but when the profile is utterly incomprehensible, and I have no idea what the person is trying to say, there's little interest being generated there. Curiosity, maybe, but no interest. |
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And most of the profiles that do feature any sort of content merely contain the same dozen or so cliches in different orders. I can't even begin to tell you how many times I've seen "I'm the most unique person you'll ever meet!" followed by the same banal drivel I've just read in the previous 1482 profiles. I have learned that approximately 99% of all women "love to laugh." |
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Ok, I had to go look thanks to Lex and Lewis
 But I agree, no pic and no info, no contact. They either have something to hide or they are just lazy. Whatever it be, I don't want it. Welcome and Good Luck |
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And most of the profiles that do feature any sort of content merely contain the same dozen or so cliches in different orders. I can't even begin to tell you how many times I've seen "I'm the most unique person you'll ever meet!" followed by the same banal drivel I've just read in the previous 1482 profiles. I have learned that approximately 99% of all women "love to laugh." 99.2% are "laid back and easy going." 97.6% love their friends and family. 94.9% like to go out or stay in. 95.5% look good "in jeans or a little black dress." Apparently, the dress is never permitted to be any other color. 93.7% like "long walks on the beach," even if they live in Antarctica or on Mars. 99.9% describe themselves as "unique," then write the exact same profile as everyone else. It may be that the word "unique" has been assigned a new definition and I have not been informed. |
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Thanks guys! I do try to cut a little bit of slack when it comes to writing since I am a part of the texting world (thanks to my teen!). I have a friend with predictive text and sometimes I get the weirdest messages!! But I agree, when the profile is one long sentence or loaded with misspellings I find my eyes begin to glaze...and I exit the page.
Thank you all for the hope and encouragement. I look forward to many online encounters.. |
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Edited by
MelodyGirl
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Wed 10/07/09 01:55 PM
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Thanks guys! I do try to cut a little bit of slack when it comes to writing since I am a part of the texting world (thanks to my teen!). I have a friend with predictive text and sometimes I get the weirdest messages!! But I agree, when the profile is one long sentence or loaded with misspellings I find my eyes begin to glaze...and I exit the page. Thank you all for the hope and encouragement. I look forward to many online encounters..  PLEASE do not contribute to illiteracy by using the excuse that everyone uses text abbreviations!  This is a huge epidemic! I especially take issue with parents using this excuse because they should insist on proper grammar. How will that child assimilate into the workforce with limited skills? Or, how will they matriculate into college with minimal skills? It’s not acceptable and to allow a child to think this is “OK” is not good parenting.I was an intern, at a high school, during my bachelor’s degree in English, and what I witness was a hot mess ... and embarrassing!  I own a business and hire quite a bit. I can tell you those who have poor writing and verbal skills do NOT get hired.  To me, anyone who uses bad grammar, text abbreviations, etc, us just lazy -- and they do not aspire to personal growth. OFF TOPIC rant over -- and doesn't necessarily apply to a social site! Now that I got that out of my system ( ), welcome to Mingle. The forums are a lot of fun. I see that you are open to profile assistance, and I hope you take the middle ground in terms of what works for you.  Have fun!  BTW, that is a really cute MAIN pic you are using!!!!  
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"But I agree, no pic and no info, no contact. They either have something to hide or they are just lazy. Whatever it be, I don't want it."
I don't know how to do the quote box thing on this site, but above is what TXsSun wrote. I disagree. Personally, I did not post a photo when I joined (extremely recently) for a variety of reasons - none of them include being lazy or having something to hide. I live in a very small, isolated, rural city and I didn't want anyone here who may be online (even if the chance is small) to recognize me. Also, I am actually leery of online dating sites as I've heard and read some pretty negative things about them and hence am not sure just how invested in this I want to be. A third reason, and this I hesitate to say this because I know how it sounds, but the last time I did an online dating site thing and posted my photo, I got every single Tom, Jim and Harry who must be out there responding to me. From what they wrote, they were not really responding to ME or what I had written in my profile, which was quite a bit more detailed than this one - they were responding to my photograph. I'd rather not have to sort through all of that. So those are my reasons for not posting a photo. |
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Edited by
MelodyGirl
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Wed 10/07/09 07:35 PM
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"But I agree, no pic and no info, no contact. They either have something to hide or they are just lazy. Whatever it be, I don't want it." I don't know how to do the quote box thing on this site, but above is what TXsSun wrote. I disagree. Personally, I did not post a photo when I joined (extremely recently) for a variety of reasons - none of them include being lazy or having something to hide. I live in a very small, isolated, rural city and I didn't want anyone here who may be online (even if the chance is small) to recognize me. Also, I am actually leery of online dating sites as I've heard and read some pretty negative things about them and hence am not sure just how invested in this I want to be. A third reason, and this I hesitate to say this because I know how it sounds, but the last time I did an online dating site thing and posted my photo, I got every single Tom, Jim and Harry who must be out there responding to me. From what they wrote, they were not really responding to ME or what I had written in my profile, which was quite a bit more detailed than this one - they were responding to my photograph. I'd rather not have to sort through all of that. So those are my reasons for not posting a photo. Welcome! Why would you care who sees you online? Online dating is quite acceptable and it's no one's business if you are on a legal social site. Don't allow other people to dictate how you live your life. I understand your last reason however. Have fun and good luck in dating!
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Edited by
TxsSun
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Wed 10/07/09 07:58 PM
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Kds1, I said no pic AND no info. Meaning one or other
is fine. I totally understand the privacy issue. But there is nothing wrong with describing yourself and answering the simple questions that Mingle asks. The ones who don't are the ones I was referring too. |
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"But I agree, no pic and no info, no contact. They either have something to hide or they are just lazy. Whatever it be, I don't want it." I don't know how to do the quote box thing on this site, but above is what TXsSun wrote. I disagree. Personally, I did not post a photo when I joined (extremely recently) for a variety of reasons - none of them include being lazy or having something to hide. I live in a very small, isolated, rural city and I didn't want anyone here who may be online (even if the chance is small) to recognize me. Also, I am actually leery of online dating sites as I've heard and read some pretty negative things about them and hence am not sure just how invested in this I want to be. A third reason, and this I hesitate to say this because I know how it sounds, but the last time I did an online dating site thing and posted my photo, I got every single Tom, Jim and Harry who must be out there responding to me. From what they wrote, they were not really responding to ME or what I had written in my profile, which was quite a bit more detailed than this one - they were responding to my photograph. I'd rather not have to sort through all of that. So those are my reasons for not posting a photo. I personally don't have a problem with people not posting a pic. It's an individual decision, people have their own reasons for doing it or not doing it, and it's not my place to judge. Lots of people post lots of pics that are not of them -- a cat, a sunset, a car, whatever. Same thing. They have their reasons. Having said that, I think it's safe to say that probably the majority of people here will be leery of someone without a pic. Let me rephrase that -- a lot of us will be leery of anybody on a dating site, pic or no pic. It just goes with the territory. But some will be notably more leery of the picless. I have seen situations where a person did have pics up, and those pics turned out not to be them at all. So a pic, or even several pics, is still no guarantee. Do what you're comfortable with, and don't be pushed into anything. You're not here to please everybody else. If and when you feel like posting a pic, please feel free to do so. In the meantime, post in the forums and have fun and get to know people. |
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"But I agree, no pic and no info, no contact. They either have something to hide or they are just lazy. Whatever it be, I don't want it." I don't know how to do the quote box thing on this site, but above is what TXsSun wrote. I disagree. Personally, I did not post a photo when I joined (extremely recently) for a variety of reasons - none of them include being lazy or having something to hide. I live in a very small, isolated, rural city and I didn't want anyone here who may be online (even if the chance is small) to recognize me. Also, I am actually leery of online dating sites as I've heard and read some pretty negative things about them and hence am not sure just how invested in this I want to be. A third reason, and this I hesitate to say this because I know how it sounds, but the last time I did an online dating site thing and posted my photo, I got every single Tom, Jim and Harry who must be out there responding to me. From what they wrote, they were not really responding to ME or what I had written in my profile, which was quite a bit more detailed than this one - they were responding to my photograph. I'd rather not have to sort through all of that. So those are my reasons for not posting a photo. I personally don't have a problem with people not posting a pic. It's an individual decision, people have their own reasons for doing it or not doing it, and it's not my place to judge. Lots of people post lots of pics that are not of them -- a cat, a sunset, a car, whatever. Same thing. They have their reasons. Having said that, I think it's safe to say that probably the majority of people here will be leery of someone without a pic. Let me rephrase that -- a lot of us will be leery of anybody on a dating site, pic or no pic. It just goes with the territory. But some will be notably more leery of the picless. I have seen situations where a person did have pics up, and those pics turned out not to be them at all. So a pic, or even several pics, is still no guarantee. Do what you're comfortable with, and don't be pushed into anything. You're not here to please everybody else. If and when you feel like posting a pic, please feel free to do so. In the meantime, post in the forums and have fun and get to know people. I've met 2 people without pics. One was exactly as she described. The other was so far off from her description, I swore I would never take the chance again. Negativity always wins out. |
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PLEASE do not contribute to illiteracy by using the excuse that everyone uses text abbreviations! This is a huge epidemic! I especially take issue with parents using this excuse because they should insist on proper grammar. How will that child assimilate into the workforce with limited skills? Or, how will they matriculate into college with minimal skills? It’s not acceptable and to allow a child to think this is “OK” is not good parenting.I was an intern, at a high school, during my bachelor’s degree in English, and what I witness was a hot mess ... and embarrassing! I own a business and hire quite a bit. I can tell you those who have poor writing and verbal skills do NOT get hired. To me, anyone who uses bad grammar, text abbreviations, etc, us just lazy -- and they do not aspire to personal growth. OFF TOPIC rant over -- and doesn't necessarily apply to a social site! Thank God for people like you, Melody. |
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welcome...yes i like a pic. sad but true...someones looks are the start of attraction. i like mystery but thats too much. knowing what someone looks like helps put the whole "getting to know someone" together
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I dont get the No picture profiles what is there to hide? and if you cant be honest and open why join in the 1st place? sadly i am finding out there are also lot of sick people here to who are as real as i am the Queen of England!
Annax
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No pic = I don't even look at the profile. These days anyone can get a pic of themselves in about 2 seconds. Camera phones are everywhere. That's how I got many of my pics. You take a pic, then text it to your email. done. I saw someone talking on here with a donkey for a pic, if that was the only pic (I did not check) it goes to the no pic catergory. Maybe a little lower since thay show that they understand they should be puting something there. You are trying to date. Sorry, but the way the world has always been is visusal attraction generally comes first...
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