that's not gonna happen.

Anyone can be predicted after being knowing him (or her). If the person trusts you and let you in his world, then you will be able to predict him. If he stays unpredictable there is a problem of trust between the 2. In this meaning I meant "unpredictable" as unpredictable of doing something that could hurt or make the other feel bad.

Humm but which one is the one that is really insecure the one because they are unpredictable one or the one that don't know how to handle them?

Vicious and dishonest .

Untrustworthy .

No one said anything about the person being nuts. We said it could go either way, is all.

It really depends what Modela meant by "being unpredictable". She needs to define better what way being unpredictable.

Yeah, and I am taking my time....

To me just cause one is unpredictable does not mean what they say or does is not done in spite to hurt anyone. Just that they may say anything at any given time or do something out of the ordinary.

Hell I will say what ever comes to mind at any given time but I don't do it in a hurtful way I'm just honest and one never knows what I will say. does not mean I'm a nut case or out to hurt others.. Normally get a good laugh out of it...But most will tell you you never know what I might say.

Is spontaneous..... unpredictable?

Is changing one's mindset....unpredictable?

What is unpredictable?

And why is it seen as a not good thing?

I think people WANT predictable...they want consistancy, they want safety....they dont want surprising behaviour in another....

"stay the same as I have perceived you to be...or I cannot trust you"....kind of thing.

People get their knickers all twisted when someone is not predictable in their thoughts actions, and behaviours.

And it is fairly obvious, that unpredictable behaviour in the negative is dangerous..

It me 'coz I've known several guys who are in the unpredictable category and I don't want to be around them... They could be violent, possessive and very jealous... Nope, been there...

Those aren't unpredictable guys. Those guys are violent possessive and very jealous.

When a person says unpredictable are they warning you not to be suprised by there future actions? if so then its like walking on egg shells but then unpredictable could mean doing somthing wonderful that you didnt expect...my head hurts now trying to figure it out!! Anna x

Everybody likes to see themselves as unpredictable and different from everybody else. He's just trying to pull a variation on the old "I'm unlike any man you have ever met" line of B>S.

Ditto, to me those are in a totally different type of category.......

They are very nice, thoughtful and kind around me when they are not in their jealous rage.

Okay, do you call them "personality disorder" when they're nice lovey dovey and thoughtful and then the next minute in rage?

and those people called two-face people. But since now you figured it out, they aren't unpredictable, you just gotta distance yourself away from them.

I think maybe he just doesn't care that much usually people will unpredictable things because they have nothing to loose it's like a person can be more aggressive with a wager when he (or she) is playing with house money.. I would need to know more to make a more educated guess like what did he sY it in regards to ps eaither way that type of behavior is scarey to me I do not like uncompassionate people

Can I define unpredictable? With a dictionary yes. Within characteristics probably not.

I like to think of myself as a little unpredictable, because from day to day I do not know what mood I am going to wake up in, nor am I going to be aware of what I can/can't handle.

Life is unpredictable in itself isn't it? So why do we worry about someone saying they are unpredictable? If something bad is going to happen, it will happen (as unfortunate as it may sound), and we often hear someone somewhere saying life is unfair.

> speaking of unpredictable spontenaity now.

I was looking to re-build a potential relationship with an ex of mine. I had given her my word I would not speak to a certain ex of hers. 2.5 years down the line this is from the last time i'd spoken to him. I bumped into him, and held a 5 minute conversation. That put an end to any hopes of relationship reconciliation I might have had the chance to go through. I was honest to my partner at the time, but that was just an example of the spontaneous side of unpredictability (and how it went wrong, by being such a 'male orientated thing to do'. used loosely as a generic belief of my ex, that I acted with no thought to the consequences of my actions.)

I couldn't agree more!