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Do you think that people are really in love; or are they in love with the idea of Love itself and being in love?
If you were to ask others, if they were truly honest they will admit that they are in Love with Love. I’ve encountered on several occasions in my past and had to confront this issue. Be it they enjoy the romance, the hot infatuation, the mind blowing energy and surges of happiness that comes from being in love... Maybe they really unbeknownst to thyself searching for someone to attach their emotions to. All of the aforementioned I would consider being in love with love and not another person. Can we really tell the difference? Or are we sucked into the rose tinted world of love and bliss even with the wrong person... Blinded by pleasures or insecurities of not having to deal with being alone or god forbid single people will stay in state of avoidance or denial. Infatuation is not Love, Lust is not love Love is Trust and Understanding. When there is a real connection with someone that constantly isn’t threatened either by past, present or future... A solid relationship not one with tons of ups and downs continually based on whether or not they call, write or show up on time. True love is always there... Always real... always caring.... it is unconditional. Have you been a victim or do you stand above the majority and see clearly thru the rosy fog, deaf from the sirens glorious, seductive songs?? Or perhaps you want to live within these walls of illusion? |
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I noticed, when I was younger, that many people, myself included, could be susceptible to that societal expectation which demands that you be with someone.
There is a sort of inertia behind the concept; as wehn my mother would say things like "You don't understand now, but you will when you get older and get married and have kids." It was as if there truly were no other alternatives. The script was a fait accompli. As time went on, and I managed to stumble into one horrendous relationship after another, I gradually came to realize that this expectation had a serious downside. There was a point where I finally accepted the reality -- despite societal expectations, despite norms and inertia and traditional "thinking" (I use the term loosely), for some of us it just makes more sense not to bother with the whole thing. When there is really no one even remotely compatible out there, it gives you a chance to look at "love" from, perhaps, a more detached perspective. Today, it seems to me that this "romantic ideal" which pervades our culture may, in fact, be doing more harm than good. People have been saying to me, for some time now, "I can't believe you're still single." It's because they're trapped in that you-have-to-be-with-somebody mindset. I can't live like that, especially when there's no one out there I want to be with. |
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It is true that society has set up a rule that we have to be in love with someone but I have found that true love lies within ourselves I have also found that not going with the NORM that true love is everywhere I truly LOVE all my friends,and my family that kind of love comes from the soul of my being. I have spent most of my life trying to find love and after having my daughters I realized that my true love is in being a mother a daughter a sister and a friend, and in being a single mother I have found that I am truly in love with my children, the desire to not be alone is still there, and that's were the IDEA of LOVE stands it is not wanting be alone as we grow old, I still would love to find that true love in a man, but I don't want just love I want a friend that I can love and who will love me in the same way as a friend and partner not that mushy love that we think is love just like I have said true love lies within each of us, It's how we put that love to use. As a person. Each time I say to a friend I LOVE YOU I mean it cause that is true love caring for each other even with all their faults. So if you want true love look to your friends and family and within yourself give it freely and you shall receive it 10 fold.
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Do you think that people are really in love; or are they in love with the idea of Love itself and being in love? If you were to ask others, if they were truly honest they will admit that they are in Love with Love. I’ve encountered on several occasions in my past and had to confront this issue. Be it they enjoy the romance, the hot infatuation, the mind blowing energy and surges of happiness that comes from being in love... Maybe they really unbeknownst to thyself searching for someone to attach their emotions to. All of the aforementioned I would consider being in love with love and not another person. Can we really tell the difference? Or are we sucked into the rose tinted world of love and bliss even with the wrong person... Blinded by pleasures or insecurities of not having to deal with being alone or god forbid single people will stay in state of avoidance or denial. Infatuation is not Love, Lust is not love Love is Trust and Understanding. When there is a real connection with someone that constantly isn’t threatened either by past, present or future... A solid relationship not one with tons of ups and downs continually based on whether or not they call, write or show up on time. True love is always there... Always real... always caring.... it is unconditional. Have you been a victim or do you stand above the majority and see clearly thru the rosy fog, deaf from the sirens glorious, seductive songs?? Or perhaps you want to live within these walls of illusion?  A lot of people THINK that they have to be with someone to be fullfilled in life.
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do i wha wha wha?
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Edited by
darinlee
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Sat 10/03/09 01:32 PM
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I noticed, when I was younger, that many people, myself included, could be susceptible to that societal expectation which demands that you be with someone. There is a sort of inertia behind the concept; as wehn my mother would say things like "You don't understand now, but you will when you get older and get married and have kids." It was as if there truly were no other alternatives. The script was a fait accompli. As time went on, and I managed to stumble into one horrendous relationship after another, I gradually came to realize that this expectation had a serious downside. There was a point where I finally accepted the reality -- despite societal expectations, despite norms and inertia and traditional "thinking" (I use the term loosely), for some of us it just makes more sense not to bother with the whole thing. When there is really no one even remotely compatible out there, it gives you a chance to look at "love" from, perhaps, a more detached perspective. Today, it seems to me that this "romantic ideal" which pervades our culture may, in fact, be doing more harm than good. People have been saying to me, for some time now, "I can't believe you're still single." It's because they're trapped in that you-have-to-be-with-somebody mindset. I can't live like that, especially when there's no one out there I want to be with. IT SOUNDS GOOD!!! |
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HEHEHEHE!!!!!!!
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THATS FUNNY!!!
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I believe:
True love is for sure within us and the confines of your family, close friends and of course your children. Being a single mother I am not defined technically of being alone. I always have her with me always will I love her more than life itself and quoting her from yrs ago; “I love you more than the whole country and mom I love you more than the whole universe.” And in truth I am happy just the two of us. Everything happens for a reason and I feel completely at peace knowing that I was to be a mother with or without love from a man beside me. I also believe you truly have to love yourself to be able to love others, and through and through I have found inner peace and happiness with who I am and what I am about... having gone through this transition maybe now I can be blessed with meeting people of the same like mind. I embrace the life I have and do not feel bad that I haven’t found the right one for me... and I’m more then contented with being single or alone for long time if not a life time. I have the bug of independence and free spirit and have yet to discover a man strong enough and understanding enough to be with me in this journey of life. I dont let the pressure from family or friends or the public normailty of having to be with someone to feel complete... I dont think anyone can complete you I think if anything they should compliment you and your life. Interesting feedback thus far thanks guys for appeasing my curiosity on the subject! Keep it coming personal experiences welcome! |
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do i wha wha wha? 
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Love and sex are overrated.
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I believe: True love is for sure within us and the confines of your family, close friends and of course your children. Being a single mother I am not defined technically of being alone. I always have her with me always will I love her more than life itself and quoting her from yrs ago; “I love you more than the whole country and mom I love you more than the whole universe.” And in truth I am happy just the two of us. Everything happens for a reason and I feel completely at peace knowing that I was to be a mother with or without love from a man beside me. I also believe you truly have to love yourself to be able to love others, and through and through I have found inner peace and happiness with who I am and what I am about... having gone through this transition maybe now I can be blessed with meeting people of the same like mind. I embrace the life I have and do not feel bad that I haven’t found the right one for me... and I’m more then contented with being single or alone for long time if not a life time. I have the bug of independence and free spirit and have yet to discover a man strong enough and understanding enough to be with me in this journey of life. I dont let the pressure from family or friends or the public normailty of having to be with someone to feel complete... I dont think anyone can complete you I think if anything they should compliment you and your life. Interesting feedback thus far thanks guys for appeasing my curiosity on the subject! Keep it coming personal experiences welcome!  Well said, and I totally agree with you
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Love and sex are overrated.  yeah kind of Its because real love is different than tv/movie love.
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I believe that most people have no idea what Love is. That's a terrible thing to say I know, but as I look around and look at relationships and marriages, what I see mostly is that people tend to get comfortable with each other and are "content enough". I'm not sure I myself know what Love is, but I know I'll know it when it's here. I've been single since my son was 13 months old, he is now 26. I've never regretted raising him alone, and have never felt alone because of him. I would die for him...is that Love, you bet it is, albeit a mother's love. In my mind, that is what we are supposed to have when we are in love. Total committment, total trust, totally natural and totally selfless. When I feel that then I will know I have found true love. Otherwise, I will not compromise (been there, done that, it doesn't work, not for me)...and maybe that means I remain single for the rest of this lifetime. If so, that is what is meant for me. I am happy anyway.
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Like I told every man in my life
I only felt pure love when I gave birth and bonded with my daughters They are the only human beings I would die for!!! 
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I'm so far away of the idea of love that when there is a love scene in a movie, that's when I go to take my bathroom break or grab something to eat. Let alone me involved in it.
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I'm so far away of the idea of love that when there is a love scene in a movie, that's when I go to take my bathroom break or grab something to eat. Let alone me involved in it. hahhahaha too funny you really do that?? cute a bit sad but cute! Thanks for the responses again guys enjoying them very much so!
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I think people fall in love all the time. I know I have, more than once. Never with someone who reciprocated long enough to really enjoy life, but I'm not dead yet. At least as far as I can determine, not being trained medically.
The problem with the in-love feeling, is that it has no ties to practical considerations of any kind. People who get themselves into trouble over it, do so because they have told themselves, or believed from movies and stories, that the feeling of love is a magic, mystical message from the infinite, insisting they act on it. In my experience and observation, it should be treated as a stand-alone experience, similar to the wonderful feeling you can get from an exceptionally beautiful pattern of clouds in a sunset, etc. It's a wonderful feeling, that you should NOT try to act on, until you come down off of it, and think through carefully. Love for your children, or for causes, or for the wonderful potential for grace and insight that can be found in the manipulation of a rich language, are a different kind of love feeling altogether. It is felt in a different part of the mind, and tends to last much longer, and run much deeper. Thankfully it is also much more readily amenable to logical response from the person feeling it. Thus, the species endures. |
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Love and sex are overrated. yeah kind of Its because real love is different than tv/movie love. I agree |
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Edited by
Riding_Dubz
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Mon 10/05/09 03:22 PM
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money talks chicks walk ..and guys where sol..
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