It's like me with radio talk show hosts. I DO NOT want to see them. Spoils the whole thing.

True....I used to listen to a station where this guy had the most amazing voice. I was like omg, he sounds sooooo dreamy....So then he did a commercial and.... it was awful. He was nothing like his voice, it was tragic....

I think many women are cautious (as they should be) about meeting people online. Maybe you are simple observing the act of caution when women want to chat over a number of days.

I couldn't agree more.

i've found that most of my attraction comes from a build-up of the 'getting-to-know-you' stage.

it's VERY seldom that someone comes along and i am immediately physically attracted to him, without having exchanged more than a few words.

that, to me, seems to be one of the biggest problems with online dating: you meet a guy for a date, he expects an immediate spark, doesn't get it (from me at least) since my interest grows over time, so he assumes i'm not that into him and doesn't call/write back.

i much prefer to converse with someone over the course of a few weeks rather than meeting them right away.

if you're single and social then go ahead and get to know
somebody new. might be fun, educational, wild, and/or pleasant...

if they have that elusive je ne sais quoi...

I think it can be a lot more fun taking your time before meeting. It's also precautionary. Like giving the person rope to hang themselves with. I know how this sound's.........not good. But, if they are looking for a quickie, it eventually come's out. Then again, I've met guy's right off the bat. One in particular still lives in my heart, though I'll never see him again. (I moved). So, It really just depends on the mood I'm in at the moment. Guess I don't live by a set rule. Overall though, I've found that the sooner I meet them, the less likely it is to become anything that I want to develop further.

I feel the same way. Many times, a guy will ask to meet right away and I've let them know that I like to get to know someone a bit before meeting. I never hear from them again.

That's why I always enjoyed it while I worked in radio. I had the perfect face for it.

For me if the person has caught my interest right away then there is no time limit. But if my instinct tells me other then I will wait.

If she can tell me the physical properties of the water balloon, then she can meet me. I am all about stimulating the mind....well....I stimulate other things too........but.......

Where we going lets go ........

I think time helps in many ways. Time exposes "fronts" and exposes the inner soul. The more time you spend exchanging the written word, the better you are going to know the person. More people are suitable as friends than lovers anyway.

Make friends and maybe meet your lover. It's a win win.

Jump on every opportunity as fast as possible and get bad results; this doesn't seem too logical to me. One of those might have been the "one" had the time been taken to develop friendship.

Its a safety issue, so it takes quite a while, and pretty ,much a long time getting to know them on the phone.

Could you imagine dating back in the early 1900's. I mean, calling the switchboard operator to get you in touch with you telephone bf/gf (via long distance) was probably not what Mr. Bell had in mind.

Never did the online thing before,two yr. long distance he was the biggest player ever

Okay but Rush Limbaugh and Howard Stern have bad faces and bad radio personalities!