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Edited by
Mr_Music
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Sun 09/27/09 09:50 AM
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Isn't it ironic that so many women whine and complain that they're "only looked at because of their looks", or they're "treated like an object....why can't men like me for ME??", etc., ad nauseum. But let a GUY have a physical discrepancy, and suddenly he's "beneath" them. Double-standard, anyone? Look, teeth are important..that's just the way it is. Were not talking about a limp, a bad arm or a big scar here were talking about no front teeth. If I'm with someone and they have an incident where they lose teeth..well that's one thing..Or fake teeth..no biggie.. But a first meeting, a toothless smile..no. I'm betting 99.9% of the people on here feel that way, whether they say it or not.. It's not about being "beneath"....it about what is attractive to one. I like a nice smile, I find it attractive..without teeth that wouldn't be there.. So why don't you just come right out and say it then? You're more impressed with someone's physical appearance rather than their personality. [/quot] That's not true, personality is important to me..more than you will ever know...first impressions are important whether we like it or not. His personality would have to be spectacular for me to be able to look past no teeth.. I call "bullsh!t" |
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thats okay
I feel the same way about women with big azzes |
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Isn't it ironic that so many women whine and complain that they're "only looked at because of their looks", or they're "treated like an object....why can't men like me for ME??", etc., ad nauseum. But let a GUY have a physical discrepancy, and suddenly he's "beneath" them. Double-standard, anyone? Look, teeth are important..that's just the way it is. Were not talking about a limp, a bad arm or a big scar here were talking about no front teeth. If I'm with someone and they have an incident where they lose teeth..well that's one thing..Or fake teeth..no biggie.. But a first meeting, a toothless smile..no. I'm betting 99.9% of the people on here feel that way, whether they say it or not.. It's not about being "beneath"....it about what is attractive to one. I like a nice smile, I find it attractive..without teeth that wouldn't be there.. So why don't you just come right out and say it then? You're more impressed with someone's physical appearance rather than their personality. [/quot] That's not true, personality is important to me..more than you will ever know...first impressions are important whether we like it or not. His personality would have to be spectacular for me to be able to look past no teeth.. I call "bullsh!t" wouldn't expect anything other than that from you... |
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Edited by
Mr_Music
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Sun 09/27/09 09:57 AM
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I'm not the one who's backpedaling.
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talked to a guy for a few weeks, slowly building anticipation to meet him, turns out he has no teeth! WTF?? just a thought, maybe he could have said something sooner. or maybe I should have asked. it turned out to be a deal-breaker for me. how about it then? 
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I prefer women with no teeth.....
 Sorry, couldnt resist..... |
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Seems like most of the posts here are saying she is wrong... because she has a preference... a nice smile, she never said he had to have "real" teeth or not, just some teeth... Most people do have some sort of preference... not too heavy, not too skinny, long hair, short hair, blonde, brunette, etc. It is normal and I'm sure many people have overlooked people who did not or do not fit their physical criteria in the beginning.
Also she stated he said he lost them in a fight...and she is right, grown men getting into fights??? Is a serious issue. Violence in any form is a major red flag in my book. Yes, teeth are expensive, and for him to have said it was not a priority... well, if he had said perhaps he was working on getting them, etc., one could give a benefit of doubt than in that situation. As for the scenario of a married couple, and the wife having fallen on the stairway and broken her teeth, that is a little bit different than this... a married couple are usually already in a committed relationship, and that goes with the territory at that point. So if the husband left because of that, YES, he is an azz... She has only been chatting or talking at this point, and is not in a committed relationship, and the guy told her he wasn't doing anything about his mouth. She does not need to get involved any further if she is not comfortable with it. |
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Some people appear to be assuming he lost his teeth in a fight as a grown adult, when indeed, NOTHING was ever mentioned as to WHEN he lost them in said fight. It could have been when he was a child. Indeed, he may not have even started the fight in the first place. None of us can make those assumptions, because the facts were never presented to us.
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Seems like most of the posts here are saying she is wrong... because she has a preference... a nice smile, she never said he had to have "real" teeth or not, just some teeth... Most people do have some sort of preference... not too heavy, not too skinny, long hair, short hair, blonde, brunette, etc. It is normal and I'm sure many people have overlooked people who did not or do not fit their physical criteria in the beginning. Also she stated he said he lost them in a fight...and she is right, grown men getting into fights??? Is a serious issue. Violence in any form is a major red flag in my book. Yes, teeth are expensive, and for him to have said it was not a priority... well, if he had said perhaps he was working on getting them, etc., one could give a benefit of doubt than in that situation. As for the scenario of a married couple, and the wife having fallen on the stairway and broken her teeth, that is a little bit different than this... a married couple are usually already in a committed relationship, and that goes with the territory at that point. So if the husband left because of that, YES, he is an azz... She has only been chatting or talking at this point, and is not in a committed relationship, and the guy told her he wasn't doing anything about his mouth. She does not need to get involved any further if she is not comfortable with it. Well I can see from your response that "teeth or no teeth" are not really an issue for you. She made it sound from her first post that having teeth does matter and she would have nothing to do with it from her subsequent posts. My point with the story is that a relationship is what really matters, not teeth. As far as the fighting, well that is a totally different issue and has nothing to do with her original question about "teeth" |
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Opinions are like A$$holes... everyone has one.... Who cares????
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Seems like most of the posts here are saying she is wrong... because she has a preference... a nice smile, she never said he had to have "real" teeth or not, just some teeth... Most people do have some sort of preference... not too heavy, not too skinny, long hair, short hair, blonde, brunette, etc. It is normal and I'm sure many people have overlooked people who did not or do not fit their physical criteria in the beginning. Also she stated he said he lost them in a fight...and she is right, grown men getting into fights??? Is a serious issue. Violence in any form is a major red flag in my book. Yes, teeth are expensive, and for him to have said it was not a priority... well, if he had said perhaps he was working on getting them, etc., one could give a benefit of doubt than in that situation. As for the scenario of a married couple, and the wife having fallen on the stairway and broken her teeth, that is a little bit different than this... a married couple are usually already in a committed relationship, and that goes with the territory at that point. So if the husband left because of that, YES, he is an azz... She has only been chatting or talking at this point, and is not in a committed relationship, and the guy told her he wasn't doing anything about his mouth. She does not need to get involved any further if she is not comfortable with it. Well I can see from your response that "teeth or no teeth" are not really an issue for you. She made it sound from her first post that having teeth does matter and she would have nothing to do with it from her subsequent posts. My point with the story is that a relationship is what really matters, not teeth. As far as the fighting, well that is a totally different issue and has nothing to do with her original question about "teeth" Yes, you are correct... the relationship is what matters... however at this point of the game for her, she still has a choice whether she wants a relationship or not with this individual. When one is contemplating on entering into a relationship, all of the pros and cons will reveal themselves... and yes, teeth was the subject, but than again, the reasons for an individual having none, would factor into the decision also. |
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This is sad. I'll say this much. My Dad had to have every tooth in his head pulled when he returned from Germany in WWII. He was in a German prison camp and they fed him on dirty dishes with dirty utensils. He contracted what was called Trench Mouth. Had all his teeth pulled, had to wait six weeks for his gums to heal to be fitted for his false teeth. I am so glad my Mother didn't say, gosh I can't see you for the next six weeks until your false teeth are made," OR sorry, "I don't want to date you any more because if we get married and you take your teeth out at night, that will just gross me out."
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This is sad. I'll say this much. My Dad had to have every tooth in his head pulled when he returned from Germany in WWII. He was in a German prison camp and they fed him on dirty dishes with dirty utensils. He contracted what was called Trench Mouth. Had all his teeth pulled, had to wait six weeks for his gums to heal to be fitted for his false teeth. I am so glad my Mother didn't say, gosh I can't see you for the next six weeks until your false teeth are made," OR sorry, "I don't want to date you any more because if we get married and you take your teeth out at night, that will just gross me out." no one is referring to leaving a partner because some thing happens and they loose their teeth... I think most would feel the way you do.. The op is referring to a first time meeting..being put off bu no teeth. |
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i don't think it's shallow to not date someone because they have no teeth.
i tend to think that shallow would be if you fell in love with him and were involved in a long-term relationship and then he lost all his teeth and you dumped him solely for that reason. there's a big difference in my opinion. |
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This is sad. I'll say this much. My Dad had to have every tooth in his head pulled when he returned from Germany in WWII. He was in a German prison camp and they fed him on dirty dishes with dirty utensils. He contracted what was called Trench Mouth. Had all his teeth pulled, had to wait six weeks for his gums to heal to be fitted for his false teeth. I am so glad my Mother didn't say, gosh I can't see you for the next six weeks until your false teeth are made," OR sorry, "I don't want to date you any more because if we get married and you take your teeth out at night, that will just gross me out." Oh, my goodness me. Everybody settle down. We have mob rule here. If the guy said to anniepie, "Please excuse my appearance. Ya see, I just got back from Afghanistan and I was in a cave and I ate a bat and he ate my teeth." I KNOW anniepie would thank him for his service to our country and go dancing with him. But to say he was in a cotton pickin' FIGHT! |
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Let's say, gentlemen, that you go to pick up your blind date. She comes out and there's barf on her dress and she just didn't clean it up but she was going to go out with you anyway. I mean...
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Edited by
msharmony
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Sun 09/27/09 11:56 AM
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talked to a guy for a few weeks, slowly building anticipation to meet him, turns out he has no teeth! WTF?? just a thought, maybe he could have said something sooner. or maybe I should have asked. it turned out to be a deal-breaker for me. Glad Im not the only one. Hygiene is a big make or break issue for me. That includes ,, teeth that have been taken care of and are still present. And , at least at my age, a person who may have had some misfortune with their teeth should still have had the wherewithall to correct it somehow. Dentists can do amazing things these days. I can think someone is the cows milk, but if it hurts me to look at them,, it wont work, and looks is not far up on my priorities,, just requires that im not disgusted or turned off at the sight or smell of a person. |
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Depends on what it is your are looking for I guess??? You might change your profile to include if you have no teeth place do not reply
  Good luck on your dating ventures
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Edited by
MelodyGirl
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Sun 09/27/09 12:08 PM
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LOL... "Maybe you should have asked?!" No... I mean, how does one even begin to think "BTW, you seem great. I was just wondering if you have any teeth, as that may present a problem." How would you even have known to ask in the first place?! BTW...I'm big on a nice smile, too. Having standards, such as a teeth-requirement, doesn't make you shallow. I can't help but wonder, is this a joke? I mean...who doesn't have teeth these days?! Ask for pictures up front. Always! I asked all the usual questions.......ever been in jail, tattoos (ie, met a guy once with a huge white power tat on his back.....omg), creepy religious affiliations, ect. Even did background checks..... We had exchanged multiple pics, but none was of him smiling. Until one.....I asked if he had a broken tooth, it was hard to tell from the pic, but I asked anyway. Glad I did. He doesn't have false teeth, just no teeth, lost them in a fight. He told me they were too expensive, and it wasn't a priority to him. Which brought up another red flag.....grown men in fights??? Seriously, aren't we getting a bit old for that? Teeth are a priority to me, I love a man's smile. You brought up a very good point! A grown man in a fight is ridiculous. I assume that is what you meant when you said, "lost them in a fight." No teeth would be a deal breaker for me. I don't think you are shallow. If a big, white smile is important then don't feel badly for this situation. People are entitled to their opinions and deal breakers. The issue of already being with someone -- and assuming already in love -- is not the same comparison when asking, "would you leave them if ...." |
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Edited by
TJ_777
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Sun 09/27/09 12:08 PM
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No ...it doesn't
There are plenty of deal breakers! Everybody has them. That just happens to be 1 for you. She likes what she likes! |
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