Ok I have had a profile on this site and a couple others for awhile now. Well over a year. You would think there would be more contact. I get a whole lot of profile views and no messages. Not that I want to start a conversation with the shallow minded people but a hello would be nice.
They must be shallow minded people because they look and not so much as a message. You can't tell a person's personality by a photograph. I have sent many messages out there with no response. I am beginning to think no one here is interested in meeting decent people.
I call this the fish bowl effect. Everyone looks in the fish bowl but no one even tries to interact. Anybody have any answers as to why?
Need a little help understanding what the problem is.

I'm not sure what to tell you, because I'd rather that 99.9% of the men on this site didn't email me, so if I were you, I'd be overjoyed, but then again I'm not here for dating. So.. have you tried emailing the ones who view you? Do you have common interests with the men that you're emailing? Many people look and don't say anything, women do it too.

Sometimes I just view profiles because I'm bored (in stealth mode, of course) but I have no interest in the person I'm viewing. Sometimes the pic looks interesting and the profile isn't, or you saw them on the forums and want to learn more about them, or the pic was so small, you viewed the profile to see a bigger image, it could be anything. Just because you looked, doesn't mean you want to talk, you know?

Good luck anyway, many people have had success on this site, if you're really serious, just hang in there, and keep posting on the forums, that's how many people meet each other.

So let me ask you this... if you're in a crowded store and you look at someone... do you always walk over and say hello?

Hmmmm, sometimes that happens, and some will "mutual match" with me but never contact. And I've written to men who say on their profile they are looking for a KIND, NICE, decent woman and they don't write back, so they are just players as they obviously aren't KIND, NICE or decent men. So I don't bother anymore.
But, I do get plenty of emails, some from the desirable pile, some not. I've made lovely friends here for sure, especially from participating in the forums. I've met plenty of men from here, but mostly losers, liars and whackos. So, it's a lot of sorting.
And, I looked at your profile. Honestly, there's a pattern of your head on your hand in each one. You are also looking for a friend and more guys are on here looking for more, like dating or a relationship. And then, you say SO LITTLE about yourself or what you want in this friendship relationship. So, there may be lots of superficial men on here, but if they read your profile, they sure couldn't dig any deeper than superficial as it is now.
I don't know what your other site profiles are like, but this one says almost nothing except you rest your head on your hand a lot. Not trying to be mean. Just saying what I'm seeing.
Best wishes and hope to see you in the forums more!!

i look at people profiles just to see what they have to say most of the time usually its a crappy profile with no effort.

Oddly enough. Yes I do. I am a very sociable person. Have always been. Very outgoing.

Hey look, there's Nemo!!

So if this is the case why not say something to the person so they may be able to fix the problem. Most people have no clue what to do or how to write about themselves. They need a little constructive criticism.

lol if they dont want to put time an effort in to making more then a sentence then im not going to bother with them im just here to talk to people anyway.

I would say some of it is that you are not looking for the same thing they are. You know there are several reasons folks are on these sites. Intimate encounter, just friends, etc....

Also, shyness plays into the equation. Or they have sent out endless mails with no responses so they are not doing it anymore.

It can go on and on.

I prefer not to assume that I know anything about why they look and do not contact. I figure it is not for me to know. If they want the contact they will make it happen.

Maybe because you think they are shallow? I look at profiles all the time, doesn't mean I'm going to e-mail every single one of them with a "Hi, sorry, I'm not interested". Plenty of people here interested in meeting decent people, but plenty of differing definitions of 'decent'. You can't tell a lot about a person from a picture...but maybe they are actually reading your profile and deciding they are not interested?

Honestly...

I don't think it's really a "problem" unless you allow yourself to perceive it as one.

There are a lot of people on this site, a lot of profiles.

Lots of people look at mine. Some write, most don't. If it's not a friend or someone I know from the forums, I will sometimes look at theirs, just to see who they are.

Most of the time, I don't see any common ground and there really isn't any need I can see to do any followup.

It's like if I go to Wal-Mart to buy socks. I'm not going to buy every kind I look at. I'm looking for certain features, and the ones I buy will be the ones that have those features.

Doesn't mean there's anything wrong with the other socks. They're just not what I'm looking for.

just an "uninformed" opinion...

because your profile is listed as "looking for friendship" and you are wearing a ring on your wedding band finger in your pics?...



I dunno about the other sites, have not seen them...

I will massage oops message you every day
but you are too far away
That is the problem

OMG that is so cute.

This is a terrible American habit if they are not interested they don't contact
It is also this way in the world of business they never return the call unless they are interested

Nemo's dad and Dori

Where is Dr. Watson?

That right there would put the whoooooooooa on anyone........