Topic: the 4 c's to a real relationship
CatsLoveMe's photo
Wed 09/23/09 12:56 AM
My 4:

1. Comittment
2. Comprimise
3. Comedy
4. Consoling

bedlum1's photo
Wed 09/23/09 03:30 AM

My 4:

1. Comittment
2. Comprimise
3. Comedy
4. Consoling
lollaugh

bedlum1's photo
Wed 09/23/09 03:31 AM

Maybe you're right. Maybe I don't understand. But, I'm a quick learner. Please, educate me.
make that list of traits that your talking of of and see if they fit

bedlum1's photo
Wed 09/23/09 11:53 AM
for example:

compassion= tolerance, patience, understanding,empathy,sympathy(not pity)
commitment=faithfulness,loyalty, integrity &perseverance
communication= honesty,open mindedness,attentiveness
compromise=fair mindedness,unselfishness,

those are just a few, fill in the others that fit the right categories and see what you get...go ahead give it a tryflowerforyou flowerforyou

no photo
Wed 09/23/09 01:39 PM
crackers
cheese
chilled wine
condoms

bz_island_babe86's photo
Wed 09/23/09 02:19 PM
most ppl have forgotten that its nice to be important but its more important to be nice, so where are all the nice guys ???????????? i feel like im totally alone in the search for committment and understanding im a compromising person but i dont want that to be a one sided thing most of the time its like that though lol

bz_island_babe86's photo
Wed 09/23/09 02:23 PM
i agree

bedlum1's photo
Wed 09/23/09 03:22 PM

i agree
LOL nicelaugh flowerforyou hang in there its not a fairy tale

no photo
Wed 09/23/09 04:15 PM
1- Cum
2- Caress
3- Cons
4- Creeping

Monier's photo
Wed 09/23/09 04:19 PM

compassion...not just fake interest or what ever shuts you up
communication..like honesty
commitment...you know faithfulness trust
compromise...as in unselfishness a happy medium

but it takes two to do it right. a break down in one leads to problems in the othersflowerforyou flowerforyou


I have similiar 4 C's, but that's just because I'm me

Creativity
Civility
Candor
Coherence

no photo
Wed 09/23/09 04:51 PM
and u need to be conscious too..:smile:

motowndowntown's photo
Wed 09/23/09 05:01 PM
# 5 Condiments.....


on a really good sandwich.

bedlum1's photo
Wed 09/23/09 05:18 PM

# 5 Condiments.....


on a really good sandwich.
more like whipped cream and chocolate syrup...yum.....and fun

redhead44613's photo
Wed 09/23/09 08:40 PM
flowers we got it!!

Quietman_2009's photo
Wed 09/23/09 09:31 PM
Edited by Quietman_2009 on Wed 09/23/09 09:32 PM
you left out my favorite C

consummation

bedlum1's photo
Thu 09/24/09 10:04 AM

you left out my favorite C

consummation
the deal sealer...lol

no photo
Thu 09/24/09 10:59 AM
Edited by Gypsy41 on Thu 09/24/09 11:00 AM
Cranberry juice

cuddles

campbells soup

c * o * c * k




















fighting!pitchfork




PacificStar48's photo
Thu 09/24/09 12:00 PM

I feel the most important thing i a relationship is acceptance. You must accept your S/O for who they are. If you can do that one thing everything else is easy.


I often find that people who say I must accept them as they are use that as an excuse to do exactly as they please wheater it is at the expense of others or me. That bully mentality doesn't make for a good relationship.

In a healthy relationship sometimes you have to try to do things that are not exactly what you have in mind or who you are but doing it in an open spirit as a gift to your S/O. Often it can turn out to be fun and you can find out why they enjoy it so much afterall.

If it is done in a poor spirit or half heartedly then it is a selfish insult to the S/O and breaks down the relationship.

bedlum1's photo
Thu 09/24/09 12:17 PM


I feel the most important thing i a relationship is acceptance. You must accept your S/O for who they are. If you can do that one thing everything else is easy.


I often find that people who say I must accept them as they are use that as an excuse to do exactly as they please wheater it is at the expense of others or me. That bully mentality doesn't make for a good relationship.

In a healthy relationship sometimes you have to try to do things that are not exactly what you have in mind or who you are but doing it in an open spirit as a gift to your S/O. Often it can turn out to be fun and you can find out why they enjoy it so much afterall.

If it is done in a poor spirit or half heartedly then it is a selfish insult to the S/O and breaks down the relationship.
HENCE THE FOUR..nice reply

PacificStar48's photo
Thu 09/24/09 12:31 PM

compassion...not just fake interest or what ever shuts you up
communication..like honesty
commitment...you know faithfulness trust
compromise...as in unselfishness a happy medium

but it takes two to do it right. a break down in one leads to problems in the othersflowerforyou flowerforyou


I think I would add courtesy. It implys a lot but the core of it is that you treat the other with respect and kindness.

I think many people will see any of the C's as being weak or making themself vunerable. To some extent that is true because it does require a certain level of a "C" that is not listed; Confidence;that the person you love actually finds you loveable and will not abuse your effort to be compassionate, communicate, compromise, and be committed to the relationship.