Topic: the 4 c's to a real relationship
bedlum1's photo
Tue 09/22/09 07:32 PM
all four together is about tolerance ,acceptance,learning to fit together in a honest way, nothing to do with saying change for me

bedlum1's photo
Tue 09/22/09 07:35 PM


compassion...not just fake interest or what ever shuts you up
communication..like honesty
commitment...you know faithfulness trust
compromise...as in unselfishness a happy medium

but it takes two to do it right. a break down in one leads to problems in the othersflowerforyou flowerforyou


Humans tend to be selfish, poor communicators, and rather lazy. Humanity has no space in its "busy" schedule maintaining its own selfish ideology for a relationship. Most, not all people are ultimately useless. Therefore love cannot exist, not now anyway...maybe once it did.
it does exist just in smaller doses than what used to be..depends on the openness of the individuals

TexasScoundrel's photo
Tue 09/22/09 07:36 PM
Compromise is an agreement that is achieved after everyone involved accepts less than what they wanted at first, or the act of making this agreement.

I am suggesting that in a loving relationship neither person asks for a compromise. But, simply accepts the other person for who they are.

If your man is forgetful no amount of compromise will ever change him because he isn't doing it on purpose. Demanding he change will only make both people unhappy. It's better to accept his forgetfulness and love him for his other qualities.

bedlum1's photo
Tue 09/22/09 07:42 PM

Compromise is an agreement that is achieved after everyone involved accepts less than what they wanted at first, or the act of making this agreement.

I am suggesting that in a loving relationship neither person asks for a compromise. But, simply accepts the other person for who they are.

If your man is forgetful no amount of compromise will ever change him because he isn't doing it on purpose. Demanding he change will only make both people unhappy. It's better to accept his forgetfulness and love him for his other qualities.
nobody said anything about demanding change...said communicate what bothered you honestly..its up to them what they want to do with it...like i said before acceptance and tolerance arent the issue if you do all four of the list it all falls in place

trgirl's photo
Tue 09/22/09 07:43 PM

compassion...not just fake interest or what ever shuts you up
communication..like honesty
commitment...you know faithfulness trust
compromise...as in unselfishness a happy medium

but it takes two to do it right. a break down in one leads to problems in the othersflowerforyou flowerforyou


flowerforyou there should be more men on this planet likr you bedlum!!!

FearandLoathing's photo
Tue 09/22/09 07:44 PM



compassion...not just fake interest or what ever shuts you up
communication..like honesty
commitment...you know faithfulness trust
compromise...as in unselfishness a happy medium

but it takes two to do it right. a break down in one leads to problems in the othersflowerforyou flowerforyou


Humans tend to be selfish, poor communicators, and rather lazy. Humanity has no space in its "busy" schedule maintaining its own selfish ideology for a relationship. Most, not all people are ultimately useless. Therefore love cannot exist, not now anyway...maybe once it did.
it does exist just in smaller doses than what used to be..depends on the openness of the individuals


It is harder today, far more problems in the world...divorce percentage climbs every year, children born to younger and younger families. It's all really lust under the veil of love, most I think just grin and bear it for any number of different reasons...usually children. Either way you look at it almost everyone fails at one or more of those requirements, most fail at communications (honesty), I figure people don't really like honesty it is just something they are trained to say by the other void profiles on internet dating sites.

Actually I think that applies to just about everyone, people expect honesty to be on this high totem of values...so people just say they like it even though they don't.

bedlum1's photo
Tue 09/22/09 07:46 PM
i just know im open enough and have enough compassion to really care what my girls like and dislikes are and if i dont know id want her to let me know "hey that hurt my feelings or i really didnt like that" i appreciate that honesty and personaly like to return it by listening

FearandLoathing's photo
Tue 09/22/09 07:48 PM

i just know im open enough and have enough compassion to really care what my girls like and dislikes are and if i dont know id want her to let me know "hey that hurt my feelings or i really didnt like that" i appreciate that honesty and personaly like to return it by listening


Honesty doesn't exist, happy hunting.

robert1652's photo
Tue 09/22/09 07:51 PM
cooperation
coexistence
compassion
commonsense
consolidation
if you achieved those
congratulations

bedlum1's photo
Tue 09/22/09 07:51 PM




compassion...not just fake interest or what ever shuts you up
communication..like honesty
commitment...you know faithfulness trust
compromise...as in unselfishness a happy medium

but it takes two to do it right. a break down in one leads to problems in the othersflowerforyou flowerforyou


Humans tend to be selfish, poor communicators, and rather lazy. Humanity has no space in its "busy" schedule maintaining its own selfish ideology for a relationship. Most, not all people are ultimately useless. Therefore love cannot exist, not now anyway...maybe once it did.
it does exist just in smaller doses than what used to be..depends on the openness of the individuals


It is harder today, far more problems in the world...divorce percentage climbs every year, children born to younger and younger families. It's all really lust under the veil of love, most I think just grin and bear it for any number of different reasons...usually children. Either way you look at it almost everyone fails at one or more of those requirements, most fail at communications (honesty), I figure people don't really like honesty it is just something they are trained to say by the other void profiles on internet dating sites.

Actually I think that applies to just about everyone, people expect honesty to be on this high totem of values...so people just say they like it even though they don't.
lol i guess im from a different planet then...i got heavily into quantum physics and ever since im honest with every one. not brutaly honest but respectfuly honest. and i find im happier now than when i was going about my day tellin all the little white lies to people everyday it's created a freedom for me

bedlum1's photo
Tue 09/22/09 07:52 PM


compassion...not just fake interest or what ever shuts you up
communication..like honesty
commitment...you know faithfulness trust
compromise...as in unselfishness a happy medium

but it takes two to do it right. a break down in one leads to problems in the othersflowerforyou flowerforyou


flowerforyou there should be more men on this planet likr you bedlum!!!
thank you sweetheartflowerforyou flowerforyou flowerforyou

bedlum1's photo
Tue 09/22/09 07:53 PM

cooperation
coexistence
compassion
commonsense
consolidation
if you achieved those
congratulations
nicedrinker drinker

robert1652's photo
Tue 09/22/09 07:55 PM


cooperation
coexistence
compassion
commonsense
consolidation
if you achieved those
congratulations
nicedrinker drinker
I take a bow

TexasScoundrel's photo
Tue 09/22/09 08:09 PM
Your four Cs are making a loving relationship into some kind of business deal. Love doesn't work that way.

Jess642's photo
Tue 09/22/09 08:13 PM




compassion...not just fake interest or what ever shuts you up
communication..like honesty
commitment...you know faithfulness trust
compromise...as in unselfishness a happy medium

but it takes two to do it right. a break down in one leads to problems in the othersflowerforyou flowerforyou


Humans tend to be selfish, poor communicators, and rather lazy. Humanity has no space in its "busy" schedule maintaining its own selfish ideology for a relationship. Most, not all people are ultimately useless. Therefore love cannot exist, not now anyway...maybe once it did.
it does exist just in smaller doses than what used to be..depends on the openness of the individuals


It is harder today, far more problems in the world...divorce percentage climbs every year, children born to younger and younger families. It's all really lust under the veil of love, most I think just grin and bear it for any number of different reasons...usually children. Either way you look at it almost everyone fails at one or more of those requirements, most fail at communications (honesty), I figure people don't really like honesty it is just something they are trained to say by the other void profiles on internet dating sites.

Actually I think that applies to just about everyone, people expect honesty to be on this high totem of values...so people just say they like it even though they don't.



Not all, Fear.

Not all....


and Love is here.... it never went anywhere....it's just humans created a contrived version of it.


Some of us remember how to...:wink:




bedlum1's photo
Tue 09/22/09 08:36 PM
Edited by bedlum1 on Tue 09/22/09 08:40 PM

Your four Cs are making a loving relationship into some kind of business deal. Love doesn't work that way.
guess you dont understand it then ...sorry.... no deals no bargains just open honesty...love does work that way its patient understanding honest open forgiving tolerant...make a list and take each of the c's and put the traits related to them next to them maybe you'll get it then

TexasScoundrel's photo
Tue 09/22/09 08:45 PM
Maybe you're right. Maybe I don't understand. But, I'm a quick learner. Please, educate me.

robert1652's photo
Tue 09/22/09 08:58 PM

Your four Cs are making a loving relationship into some kind of business deal. Love doesn't work that way.

1 There is no compassion in business so that completely takes us away from business
2 If you learn to coexist then little things become insignificant. There is a difference between coexisting and compromising
and if you don't know the difference then I suggest you look elsewhere as i don't intend to start classes.
3 Cooperation of the two people is the opposite of confrontation. In order to achieve goals in life together you need that which in part is the "goodwill" of the pair
4 As for consolidation this is if people are going to move in and how they are going to organize their individual asserts so that the net effect maximizes the benefit to one another.

If you understand and achieve this then congratulations and if not condolences
Amen

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Tue 09/22/09 09:03 PM
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Wed 09/23/09 12:08 AM
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