LMFAO!..

I think hostile is the key word in here when most folks think of aggression.

Aggressive action and Aggressive communication are two different things.

Women who act with aggression are ok with whoever they meet their match with.

Might still be better than those who are passive,at least you know what's on their mind.

But if you look at the posted definition...hostile is only one adjective... I never realized that an aggressive woman was such a bad thing...maybe I shouldn't think of it as a compliment anymore...

I've been referred to as aggressive, simply because I know what I want and I go after it. I'm competitive in sports and in business, but I also know where to draw the line and how to be a good sport. You define who you are and I respect other people's opinion but it's not going to condone me for being who I am.

Big,Gawdy arm raslling females love'em

Aggressiveness has a sliding scale. Someone that is aggressive in going after what they want can be a good thing, but being too aggressive can be a real turn off.

People misuse it.. when i looked up the definition of agressive in mirriamwebsters, it included assertive.


However, here is a different definition, and it seems to be more correct.

The other meaning portrayal was made to be defining assertion as being a symptom.



as⋅sert  /əˈsɜrt/ Show Spelled Pronunciation [uh-surt] Show IPA
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–verb (used with object) 1. to state with assurance, confidence, or force; state strongly or positively; affirm; aver: He asserted his innocence of the crime.
2. to maintain or defend (claims, rights, etc.).
3. to state as having existence; affirm; postulate: to assert a first cause as necessary.

—Idiom4. assert oneself, to insist on one's rights, declare one's views forcefully, etc.: The candidate finally asserted himself about property taxes.

Agreed...personally, I would never step on anyone's toes or be ruthless in my endeavors...but I also can't sit & wait for the world to come to me either...

Well if you did you would prolly have a pretty long wait. So the thing is, go after what you want but try not to be an a-- hole about it.

It depends on the woman and the circumstances. I've lived (briefly!) with an agressive woman in the worst sense so the word does hold negative connotations for me.

Assertive, hell yeah! Last thing I want is a milksop doormat. I want someone with their own mind who isn't afraid to show it, someone who can be a partner not a servant and a partner has to be equal.

Raven

Assertiveness is standing up for you rights and saying how you feel without trampling the other's rights or charactor.

Unfortunately, we have to pick and choose.. I mean in the 80s women were really pushing to be seen as an equal to men so much so, that there were many extremes seen in the world of women often.


You would see women being brash, and hostile, and to the point of being overly masculine, in defining women as having to act as a man, or as aggressive as possible in order to be seen as an equal.. with women boasting angrily, and proudly that they could do anything a man could do.

This still exists today.


Alot of people view Gloria Steinem as a agressive militant feminist.. and she herself admits in her journey of strength in life, that she sought that path, and took it with MUCH hostility.

Gloria Steinem later in life she writes had calmed with confidence, and realised that she must be empowered through her femininity, and that traditional roles were acceptable, as a woman grows, understands her strengths, and gains confidence.

She then began to embrace these roles, as she found them to more nurture her own soul.

This is not to say this is every womans destined path, that it gives into the "boys club" mentality, but actually quite the opposite.

It also hurts a woman to assert herself when she has hostile, and militant behavior, just as it would a man, or any other person, and of course, typicly a person of this nature appears to be missing some nessasary tools, which are obvious to others.

In this, it is not to say that traditional roles are only left to child bearing, or housekeeping, but actually, as a teacher of any kind, as many of us are in things we do in life, as an example, but not limited to that.

As women we have natural strengths that we can use well, and display appropriately, as well as men.

They can be the same, different, but the point is, whatever your sex, to use whatever strengths you as a person have naturally or come natural to yourself, as a woman.

You stupid ********s!

Nah...I don't think I'm an azzhole...

earthy

I don't think you are either, but you can be quite assertive when you want to be.

Hey thanks.. im all pooped out.. somebody pass me some sterotypical women stuff and ill be fine.. Im powered by chocolate. *shrugg*

And again, I ask...is that such a bad thing?

We aren't going to get into a discussion on passive aggression are we?