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I broke up with the person I thiught was the one. I did everything right! or so I thiught. She is A very beautiful woman by anyones standards. She was selling herself for drugs. I think about her everyday, every hour. It's killing me. I put my soul into this relationship. It sucks! Got any advice on how to get over this? What did I do? What do I do? I know there are more fish in the sea. Thats A no brainer. Why do people use other people for there own gain and think nothing of it? Whats wrong with some people? Maybe I was'nt good enough? Shoulda, woulda, coulda. Maybe some of you have been through something similar. I just want some advice on how to get over this. If youve ever been in love and fell hard you may know what I mean. It's hard for me. Maybe I'm too sensitive. I even moved in with her. I took A big chance and failed. I guess flowers, breakfast in bead, surprise love notes to her when i was away at work and doting on her was not the thing to do. I'm not unmasculine. I just wanted to make her happy. What A doormat I turned into. All of you out there has been hurt sometime. Whats the easiest way to rid myself of this hurt? The thoughts of times past? I know time heals all wounds, but isn't there an easier way? I hate starting over. It's like i'm climbing the same old mountain. Going past the same old sights. Does it ever get easier? I'm no stranger to hurt. I just promised myself I would never get hurt again. Then here we are. Maybe I should just give up. Life is too short. How have you delt with breakink up? I know friendss help, but they are just friends. They can't fill the need you realy long for. That fealing when at the end of the day when tou realy feal like you belong, you do make A diference, and that you are truely happy. To be in love with the first person you see in the morning and the last person you see at night. I guess thats all I have to say about that. Please- Give me insight, give me advice. Perhaps someone out there may be going throuht the same thing in one way or another. They could benefit from your advice, your knowledge. Wish me luck. I choose the road less traveled alone.
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Okay, I'll answer the first few questions...cause that is all I could really read.
Sleep helped me get over my love lost, and writing. I don't know. Throw your heart in the trash, chances are it will bring nothing but more pain and memories of the same thing over and over again. Glad I could help. |
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I have more room in my garden.
  Glad I could help to. |
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therapy
or you can just start filling your time with enjoying things alone and on your own. you will need to be strong within yourself and learn that you are not responsible for her crap. good luck with that.. oh.. and i couldn't get through it either. page breaks people!! paragraph seperations help too!! |
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therapy or you can just start filling your time with enjoying things alone and on your own. you will need to be strong within yourself and learn that you are not responsible for her crap. good luck with that.. oh.. and i couldn't get through it either. page breaks people!! paragraph seperations help too!! Yes, as you command, Mistress Rockinsocks.   
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Guess I should have never even asked or said anything. I'm outa here!
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Man...you guys are cold...
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Edited by
Winx
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Sun 09/20/09 03:57 PM
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My advice: Naranon meetings and/or online Naranon for families and friends.
You didn't cause it, you can't cure it, and you can't control it. |
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Guess I should have never even asked or said anything. I'm outa here! |
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Edited by
willing2
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Sun 09/20/09 03:57 PM
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Guess I should have never even asked or said anything. I'm outa here! Aw, common Dude. Get some backbone there. You just got here. I got folks nailin' me to th' wall all the time. It ain't a complete day if somebody ain't dissin' me. Now, shaddup an' go get me a beer.
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This break up has nothing to do with what you did or did not do. This woman is NOT herself. She is under the influence of drugs. Drugs are a powerful demon. That make people do and say things that they would not do under normal circumstance.
You have to love this woman from afar and pray for her. I hear what you are saying about wanting and needing love and wanting someone to love. ( I been there done that, I got a t-shirt and a badge) But what I've learn is the NO ONE can love us Like God. If you just sit quietly in HIS presence and listen He can and will love on us. He can teach us how to love ourselves so that we can be ready when Mr or Mrs Right now comes. We can't effectively love others until we know how to love ourselves. I'm not going to tell you that I have completely arrived to the place where I am satisfied with being single, that would be a lie. But I chose to believe that in God's timing my mate will either find me or He will place a peace in me about being single. Right now, I am just searching for friends. I know your pain, I feel your pain, you are not alone in this, But go to God. Find a bible believing church and rest in knowing that He knows and wants to heal your pain. Good luck |
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You've done all that you can! Getting over it will take time thats all. As far as any anger goes, never take it out of yourself or some poor sap in society. I suggest the local gun range, there's just something about watching something getting filled with holes to ease the angst. You may find you will always love her, but in time you will see you are no longer in love with her. You ultimately deserve the same kind of consideration and affection you bestowed upon her; if she can't reciprocate that then its time to move on. It isn't easy or fun but in the end; "What doesn't kill us makes us stronger and a little wiser too." Don't build any walls around the heart; thats exactly whats wrong with the world as a whole. Don't follow in the mold everyone else has made, break that S.O.B. Best of luck!
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Guess I should have never even asked or said anything. I'm outa here! the internet can be a cold place...and some of the yahoos on this site can be particularly sarcastic....bc most have had someone rip their heart out and played badminton with it... time helps....getting involved whether it be friends, family, socially, volunteering...don't cloister yourself away... |
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Time is the best healer. You know in your heart that you did nothing wrong. Learn from the experience and move on. Take some time away from dating to get over her and over the hurt she caused you. Then when you feel ready, go for it again. The only way to never get hurt again is to never try again. Best of luck, it'll get better with time.
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It sounds like he set himself up for this honestly. We all know you can't change people.
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Hi Paul
Well, The only way you will get over her is to move on. people break up all the time. Find a new hobbie. No offense but all you did was break up. When you lose a loved one like i did then you can be unhappy. I was married 20 years and this spring she died of cancer. That is real pain ! There are plenty of nice women out there. Just take your time. honest66 |
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I broke up with the person I thiught was the one. I did everything right! or so I thiught. She is A very beautiful woman by anyones standards. She was selling herself for drugs. I think about her everyday, every hour. It's killing me. I put my soul into this relationship. It sucks! Got any advice on how to get over this? What did I do? What do I do? I know there are more fish in the sea. Thats A no brainer. Why do people use other people for there own gain and think nothing of it? Whats wrong with some people? Maybe I was'nt good enough? Shoulda, woulda, coulda. Maybe some of you have been through something similar. I just want some advice on how to get over this. If youve ever been in love and fell hard you may know what I mean. It's hard for me. Maybe I'm too sensitive. I even moved in with her. I took A big chance and failed. I guess flowers, breakfast in bead, surprise love notes to her when i was away at work and doting on her was not the thing to do. I'm not unmasculine. I just wanted to make her happy. What A doormat I turned into. All of you out there has been hurt sometime. Whats the easiest way to rid myself of this hurt? The thoughts of times past? I know time heals all wounds, but isn't there an easier way? I hate starting over. It's like i'm climbing the same old mountain. Going past the same old sights. Does it ever get easier? I'm no stranger to hurt. I just promised myself I would never get hurt again. Then here we are. Maybe I should just give up. Life is too short. How have you delt with breakink up? I know friendss help, but they are just friends. They can't fill the need you realy long for. That fealing when at the end of the day when tou realy feal like you belong, you do make A diference, and that you are truely happy. To be in love with the first person you see in the morning and the last person you see at night. I guess thats all I have to say about that. Please- Give me insight, give me advice. Perhaps someone out there may be going throuht the same thing in one way or another. They could benefit from your advice, your knowledge. Wish me luck. I choose the road less traveled alone. Wow! This person is hurting and some of the responses from people are so insensitive and sarcastic.... I am floored by some of the cold-hearted responses... I guess by reading at some of insensitive responses on here. It shows who you really are in real life and it help us on our option to weed you out and or crossed you out of our friends list. Honestly, I don't have time for people who are rude, mean and plain bully. The displayed behavior truly reflex the personality of who you are.... Man, All he really wants from you (who he thinks cared and think of him as friend) is an ensight on how to get over on this predicament he is in and expect some positive advices... that's it! |
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Edited by
willing2
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Sun 09/20/09 04:38 PM
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I broke up with the person I thiught was the one. I did everything right! or so I thiught. She is A very beautiful woman by anyones standards. She was selling herself for drugs. I think about her everyday, every hour. It's killing me. I put my soul into this relationship. It sucks! Got any advice on how to get over this? What did I do? What do I do? I know there are more fish in the sea. Thats A no brainer. Why do people use other people for there own gain and think nothing of it? Whats wrong with some people? Maybe I was'nt good enough? Shoulda, woulda, coulda. Maybe some of you have been through something similar. I just want some advice on how to get over this. If youve ever been in love and fell hard you may know what I mean. It's hard for me. Maybe I'm too sensitive. I even moved in with her. I took A big chance and failed. I guess flowers, breakfast in bead, surprise love notes to her when i was away at work and doting on her was not the thing to do. I'm not unmasculine. I just wanted to make her happy. What A doormat I turned into. All of you out there has been hurt sometime. Whats the easiest way to rid myself of this hurt? The thoughts of times past? I know time heals all wounds, but isn't there an easier way? I hate starting over. It's like i'm climbing the same old mountain. Going past the same old sights. Does it ever get easier? I'm no stranger to hurt. I just promised myself I would never get hurt again. Then here we are. Maybe I should just give up. Life is too short. How have you delt with breakink up? I know friendss help, but they are just friends. They can't fill the need you realy long for. That fealing when at the end of the day when tou realy feal like you belong, you do make A diference, and that you are truely happy. To be in love with the first person you see in the morning and the last person you see at night. I guess thats all I have to say about that. Please- Give me insight, give me advice. Perhaps someone out there may be going throuht the same thing in one way or another. They could benefit from your advice, your knowledge. Wish me luck. I choose the road less traveled alone. Wow! This person is hurting and some of the responses from people are so insensitive and sarcastic.... I am floored by some of the cold-hearted responses... I guess by reading at some of insensitive responses on here. It shows who you really are in real life and it help us on our option to weed you out and or crossed you out of our friends list. Honestly, I don't have time for people who are rude, mean and plain bully. The displayed behavior truly reflex the personality of who you are.... Man, All he really wants from you (who he thinks cared and think of him as friend) is an ensight on how to get over on this predicament he is in and expect some positive advices... that's it! Sowwy, Ms Modela He was just too easy. It was in the General section. I never go to this one. Too depressing. Sowwy Paul. PLEASE, shaddup and go git me a beer. Da'  made me do it!
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Edited by
FearandLoathing
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Sun 09/20/09 06:04 PM
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I broke up with the person I thiught was the one. I did everything right! or so I thiught. She is A very beautiful woman by anyones standards. She was selling herself for drugs. I think about her everyday, every hour. It's killing me. I put my soul into this relationship. It sucks! Got any advice on how to get over this? What did I do? What do I do? I know there are more fish in the sea. Thats A no brainer. Why do people use other people for there own gain and think nothing of it? Whats wrong with some people? Maybe I was'nt good enough? Shoulda, woulda, coulda. Maybe some of you have been through something similar. I just want some advice on how to get over this. If youve ever been in love and fell hard you may know what I mean. It's hard for me. Maybe I'm too sensitive. I even moved in with her. I took A big chance and failed. I guess flowers, breakfast in bead, surprise love notes to her when i was away at work and doting on her was not the thing to do. I'm not unmasculine. I just wanted to make her happy. What A doormat I turned into. All of you out there has been hurt sometime. Whats the easiest way to rid myself of this hurt? The thoughts of times past? I know time heals all wounds, but isn't there an easier way? I hate starting over. It's like i'm climbing the same old mountain. Going past the same old sights. Does it ever get easier? I'm no stranger to hurt. I just promised myself I would never get hurt again. Then here we are. Maybe I should just give up. Life is too short. How have you delt with breakink up? I know friendss help, but they are just friends. They can't fill the need you realy long for. That fealing when at the end of the day when tou realy feal like you belong, you do make A diference, and that you are truely happy. To be in love with the first person you see in the morning and the last person you see at night. I guess thats all I have to say about that. Please- Give me insight, give me advice. Perhaps someone out there may be going throuht the same thing in one way or another. They could benefit from your advice, your knowledge. Wish me luck. I choose the road less traveled alone. Wow! This person is hurting and some of the responses from people are so insensitive and sarcastic.... I am floored by some of the cold-hearted responses... I guess by reading at some of insensitive responses on here. It shows who you really are in real life and it help us on our option to weed you out and or crossed you out of our friends list. Honestly, I don't have time for people who are rude, mean and plain bully. The displayed behavior truly reflex the personality of who you are.... Man, All he really wants from you (who he thinks cared and think of him as friend) is an ensight on how to get over on this predicament he is in and expect some positive advices... that's it! I gave him advice, I just couldn't read the entire paragraph he wrote...my eyes started doing that squinting thing and it hurt. |
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You are human and a feeling, sensitive man. Beleive it or not, all the good advice here will help you get through it. It does take time. I found blaming the other didn't help me feel better...for a short time it did yet when we are angry it's got to do with us, not them. That goes for anything including the anger you experienced from some of the replies. We feel like we failed, did something wrong, we're the failure but it all boils down to the fact that you can't control/change anothers behavior, thoughts, etc. I think you will meet a woman who will appreciate that. Walking can be very therapuetic...for me it clears my neg. emotions away and I can see where I did wrong and where he made his mistakes. The first thing you might want to try is be a little easier on yourself. You did your best, and it sounded great. Addiction is a hard disease and no one can control it or "fix" it in another. Love can't heal it- although it may shed some light on the other that they are able to be loved and someone cares enough about them to want them sober from what ever their vice is. She wasn't ready- thats not your 'fault'. I also write and feel better about it. Writing down things that would never send (altho intened to) and waiting til the next day- I can be objective when calmer and see where I need to work on my feelings. I was in a relationship for 14 years and got rejected because of a mascetomy from my husband! That hurt but looking back I see where alot more than that was wrong. Deciding to take it as lessons...has helped. I'm still a little gunshy about his rejection thinking others will do the same (and some do- yet thats THEIR problem, not mine) and you will find this out. Don't get cynical or shut down. Time does heal all wounds- and men like you are needed more here than others. Contact me anytime if you want to just talk. (not wallow
Good luck my dear.
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