You stand up a date. Yeah it hurts, but it can be expected sometimes.

But when you stand up a friend?

WTF?

If someone goes out of there way to be your friend and make plans with you and support or help you and you stand them up, it shows more on your character than if you were on a date and stood them up.

I mean think about what it screams.


"Do not even think of making plans with me or trying to get to know me cause I willingly stand up my own friends, so you have no chance."

Some people.

Geesh...

Next time I bother taking time out of my extremely busy schedule to make friends with someone, it better be f*cking G-d Himself sitting there waiting for me to bring the picnic lunch.

No more going out of my way to make friends with humans.

:cry

This is not ment in any harm, but when i read the first part of your post. You said when somone goes out of there way? Why would you do that? A friend doesn't expecrt you to be anyone or anything but you. And if you find yourself going out of your way for one person all the time. UM, there somthing wrong here knowing your upset. Or your putting expectations on the friendship and your the one just hurting yourself.

threaten him

I understand how MirrorMirror feels. I've been friends with this girl for awhile and we used to spend a lot of time together. In the time we spent together we admitted to one another that we are attracted to one another, but still continued to hang out; not acting on anything yet, just enjoying one another's company. Now, all of a sudden, she's fallen off the face of the earth. We haven't spoken in a month - ever since she agreed to go on vacation with me and then canceled via voicemail just before we were to leave. I suppose I'm luckier since I at least got a voicemail, however, it sucked going alone after anticipating having someone else there. And on top of that, she doesn't return my call and offer an type of explination. I can't decide if I should give her one last call or just bag it. It's been over a month since I got the voicemail. Any advice?

man i never stand up friends
but on occasions i have gotten **** faced and forgot
but they usualy call and i invite them over after apologizing a billion times
then get them **** faced

Wow

I have nothing to say to that but for "Wow"

Sometimes.....you have to ask yourself, "Am I smothering them?"

Its not always the other person's fault.

I have a friend who is always "making plans" with me which is fine if I had the time and energy and money to do all these things she wants me to do. She actually gets mad when I say no sometimes because I need time to myself.

Maybe this person felt smothered and gave you a big hint? Not necessarily on their character but to give you a clue.

Actually, it was he that made the plans.

well then I would rethink the friendship. Keep him at a distance.

I already did. I emailed him and said sorry, but I can not have a friendship with someone who lacks the common decency and manners to text or call if they will be late or absent.

I think you need an Oreo. Here you go! Sorry about what happened to you, that stinks.

thanks! I love Oreos! Yum!

Awwwwww, now that's a friend! Sometimes it needs no more than an oreo.