Topic: Hypothetical
Derekkye's photo
Wed 09/09/09 10:04 PM
Say your wife is nine months pregnant and you are out of town on business. Now say your wife is in need of groceries, but she is unable to go to the store because of limited mobility, and doesn't really know anybody in town because she is relatively new to the town. (As are you) So you call a supposedly good friend of yours who lives in that town and ask him to do you a favour and go to the store and buy some groceries and deliver them to your wife who would re-imburse him when he drops them off. Now assume this person has all the time in the world (unemployed), and for no reason at all says no. Would you continue to consider this a good friend of yours? I haven't spoken to my so called friend since he refused to do something similar to this. He hasn't called me either.

Jess642's photo
Wed 09/09/09 10:09 PM
You got your answer...


No.


Fair weather friend perhaps....like the polystyrene peanuts in the packing box...they are only good for light entertainment....and have no real substance to them at all...


Why is it so difficult to figure out?

The guy was not prepared to help you and your missus out, when you needed him to.

That is not a friend...unless he was infectious, contagious, in the middle of great sex in a torrid affair, handcuffed to a chair by a gang of marauding housewives...

you asked in need...he said no.

Derekkye's photo
Wed 09/09/09 10:13 PM
yea...seems like a no brainer - it's been over five months now and it isn't something I expect to get over - he's history

JustAGuy2112's photo
Wed 09/09/09 10:13 PM
Polystyrene peanuts suck.

Now bubble wrap rocks!!! lol

earthytaurus76's photo
Wed 09/09/09 10:13 PM
Wow, i started to think, is this an ex?

Was she a witch?

And then I thought.. well she WAS pregnant.


I dunno, id go with the feeling you had when you were pissed in the first place.


Noone can be THAT hard up for friends.

msharmony's photo
Wed 09/09/09 10:15 PM

Say your wife is nine months pregnant and you are out of town on business. Now say your wife is in need of groceries, but she is unable to go to the store because of limited mobility, and doesn't really know anybody in town because she is relatively new to the town. (As are you) So you call a supposedly good friend of yours who lives in that town and ask him to do you a favour and go to the store and buy some groceries and deliver them to your wife who would re-imburse him when he drops them off. Now assume this person has all the time in the world (unemployed), and for no reason at all says no. Would you continue to consider this a good friend of yours? I haven't spoken to my so called friend since he refused to do something similar to this. He hasn't called me either.


Well, if we are assuming he has no reason,, than obviously he is not my friend. But I hope I would actually have verified what his reason was before jumping to that assumption.What were the circumstances that with limited mobility, my wife wasn't left with enough groceries in the house? Alot of things to consider and without knowing more about the history between involved in this friendship, it would be hard to say. Sometimes people tire of being there for the other person an excessive amount.

Winx's photo
Wed 09/09/09 10:19 PM
I'm wondering if he didn't want to be alone with the wife while the husband was gone.

longhairbiker's photo
Wed 09/09/09 10:19 PM
Been there done that. Gone. Good riddance.

earthytaurus76's photo
Wed 09/09/09 10:21 PM

I'm wondering if he didn't want to be alone with the wife while the husband was gone.


I thought that too winx! Thats kinda why i refuse to babysit peoples kids.

I worked at a preschool that had webcams all over in the classroom, and that was actually the only condition i would work under.

Dragoness's photo
Wed 09/09/09 10:21 PM

Say your wife is nine months pregnant and you are out of town on business. Now say your wife is in need of groceries, but she is unable to go to the store because of limited mobility, and doesn't really know anybody in town because she is relatively new to the town. (As are you) So you call a supposedly good friend of yours who lives in that town and ask him to do you a favour and go to the store and buy some groceries and deliver them to your wife who would re-imburse him when he drops them off. Now assume this person has all the time in the world (unemployed), and for no reason at all says no. Would you continue to consider this a good friend of yours? I haven't spoken to my so called friend since he refused to do something similar to this. He hasn't called me either.


Believe it or not our friends are not at our beck and call all day every day. If he said no, he did not have to have a reason, it wasn't your business.

I would have wanted to know why she was so low on groceries if it was a planned out of town and it is not like the pregnancy was a sudden condition.


Are you technically blaming him for a shortcoming of yours here?

Just an observation of course.

Derekkye's photo
Wed 09/09/09 10:25 PM


Say your wife is nine months pregnant and you are out of town on business. Now say your wife is in need of groceries, but she is unable to go to the store because of limited mobility, and doesn't really know anybody in town because she is relatively new to the town. (As are you) So you call a supposedly good friend of yours who lives in that town and ask him to do you a favour and go to the store and buy some groceries and deliver them to your wife who would re-imburse him when he drops them off. Now assume this person has all the time in the world (unemployed), and for no reason at all says no. Would you continue to consider this a good friend of yours? I haven't spoken to my so called friend since he refused to do something similar to this. He hasn't called me either.


Believe it or not our friends are not at our beck and call all day every day. If he said no, he did not have to have a reason, it wasn't your business.

I would have wanted to know why she was so low on groceries if it was a planned out of town and it is not like the pregnancy was a sudden condition.


Are you technically blaming him for a shortcoming of yours here?

Just an observation of course.


She thought she'd be able to go, but circumstances change. In actuality she was my niece and not my wife. She actually asked him because I was not available. I told her to ask him, as he was a friend of mine. He turned her down. What justifiable reason could there possibly be??? None me thinks.

Voluptuous's photo
Wed 09/09/09 10:39 PM
I wouldn't keep him around.

I'm wondering if something 'happened' between him and your wife...?
Maybe he is uncomfortable around her?

Rockmybobbysocks's photo
Wed 09/09/09 10:39 PM
i figured he's not that good of a friend and write him off.

i'd be like thanks for being a Dbag.

and move on.

Jess642's photo
Wed 09/09/09 10:43 PM
Goood Lawd!!!!!!!!


How difficult is this?

A guy asks a mate to pick up some groceries for his neice who is heavily pregnant...if he had no money to buy them, he could have said so, and collected the money, and fuel money, from the neice then bought the groceries, dropped them off... and done...good friend, helps out a mate, who is away.


If he was creeped out at the thought the baby might show it's little face, he could have said so.... if he had no money to purchase the groceries first, he could have said so...if he was just too busy doing something else he could have said so...


he didn't...or this thread would not exist.

He wasn't a friend, he was an acquaintance.


tallaght_guy's photo
Wed 09/09/09 11:59 PM
in that situation i would consider him no friend at all