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It is not disrespectful to not say sir or ma m. It is just refreshingly respectful to say it. I dont know how an elder has to EARN respect from a child, the respect is from them having lived and gained knowledge for their years on the earth. But, as I have mentioned, I am a bit spiritual and many of my core values are affected by it. Your elders are not your equal and have earned much more in ways of respect than you have yet learned. I dont know for sure what any other person has done or not done in their life but I give the benefit of the doubt that they have worked hard enough to be still alive and that deserves respect. I teach my kids everyone deserves respect, especially elders, until they show you disrespect.
I think the other side of the spectrum are those who feel noone deserves respect till they earn it. Everyone is different, I just still dont know what a forty , fifty year old person is supposed to be doing to EARN respect from a teenager. |
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Why are parents no longer teaching their children good manners,really most of you younger people have it made,the way I had been raised was to always be respectful to others, especially my elders, I was taught to always refer to my elders by saying yes sir or yes mam, especially to my parents,to show any form of disrespect to others usually meant my rear end getting acquainted with the switch or the belt. I see today young people exhibiting far to much familiarity with their elders, even at the age I am now, I still show the required respect to my elders, I would never even dream of calling them by anything other then MR./MISS. If by request I am asked to use first names then I will do so, people our elders are a vast storehouse of both knowledge and wisdom, especially are senior citizens they are a national treasure and should be treated as such, well this is just my opinion. i've been griping about this to my nieces and nephews.i was raised to show and treat your elders with respect also but my nieces and nephews can bad mouth me and my brother and sister in law don't do crap about it BUT if i say something to them about it,i'm the one that gets chewed out!    
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Why are parents no longer teaching their children good manners,really most of you younger people have it made,the way I had been raised was to always be respectful to others, especially my elders, I was taught to always refer to my elders by saying yes sir or yes mam, especially to my parents,to show any form of disrespect to others usually meant my rear end getting acquainted with the switch or the belt. I see today young people exhibiting far to much familiarity with their elders, even at the age I am now, I still show the required respect to my elders, I would never even dream of calling them by anything other then MR./MISS. If by request I am asked to use first names then I will do so, people our elders are a vast storehouse of both knowledge and wisdom, especially are senior citizens they are a national treasure and should be treated as such, well this is just my opinion. i've been griping about this to my nieces and nephews.i was raised to show and treat your elders with respect also but my nieces and nephews can bad mouth me and my brother and sister in law don't do crap about it BUT if i say something to them about it,i'm the one that gets chewed out! Well, I'm not going to chew you out for giving advice and setting someone straight about somethings.  
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Why are parents no longer teaching their children good manners,really most of you younger people have it made,the way I had been raised was to always be respectful to others, especially my elders, I was taught to always refer to my elders by saying yes sir or yes mam, especially to my parents,to show any form of disrespect to others usually meant my rear end getting acquainted with the switch or the belt. I see today young people exhibiting far to much familiarity with their elders, even at the age I am now, I still show the required respect to my elders, I would never even dream of calling them by anything other then MR./MISS. If by request I am asked to use first names then I will do so, people our elders are a vast storehouse of both knowledge and wisdom, especially are senior citizens they are a national treasure and should be treated as such, well this is just my opinion. i've been griping about this to my nieces and nephews.i was raised to show and treat your elders with respect also but my nieces and nephews can bad mouth me and my brother and sister in law don't do crap about it BUT if i say something to them about it,i'm the one that gets chewed out! Well, I'm not going to chew you out for giving advice and setting someone straight about somethings. what you talking about Willis? 
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Why are parents no longer teaching their children good manners,really most of you younger people have it made,the way I had been raised was to always be respectful to others, especially my elders, I was taught to always refer to my elders by saying yes sir or yes mam, especially to my parents,to show any form of disrespect to others usually meant my rear end getting acquainted with the switch or the belt. I see today young people exhibiting far to much familiarity with their elders, even at the age I am now, I still show the required respect to my elders, I would never even dream of calling them by anything other then MR./MISS. If by request I am asked to use first names then I will do so, people our elders are a vast storehouse of both knowledge and wisdom, especially are senior citizens they are a national treasure and should be treated as such, well this is just my opinion. i've been griping about this to my nieces and nephews.i was raised to show and treat your elders with respect also but my nieces and nephews can bad mouth me and my brother and sister in law don't do crap about it BUT if i say something to them about it,i'm the one that gets chewed out! Well, I'm not going to chew you out for giving advice and setting someone straight about somethings. what you talking about Willis?  You know!! 
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Why are parents no longer teaching their children good manners,really most of you younger people have it made,the way I had been raised was to always be respectful to others, especially my elders, I was taught to always refer to my elders by saying yes sir or yes mam, especially to my parents,to show any form of disrespect to others usually meant my rear end getting acquainted with the switch or the belt. I see today young people exhibiting far to much familiarity with their elders, even at the age I am now, I still show the required respect to my elders, I would never even dream of calling them by anything other then MR./MISS. If by request I am asked to use first names then I will do so, people our elders are a vast storehouse of both knowledge and wisdom, especially are senior citizens they are a national treasure and should be treated as such, well this is just my opinion. i've been griping about this to my nieces and nephews.i was raised to show and treat your elders with respect also but my nieces and nephews can bad mouth me and my brother and sister in law don't do crap about it BUT if i say something to them about it,i'm the one that gets chewed out! Well, I'm not going to chew you out for giving advice and setting someone straight about somethings. what you talking about Willis? You know!! oooh ok,yeah i know now
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Edited by
Jess642
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Thu 09/10/09 01:25 AM
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It is not disrespectful to not say sir or ma m. It is just refreshingly respectful to say it. I dont know how an elder has to EARN respect from a child, the respect is from them having lived and gained knowledge for their years on the earth. But, as I have mentioned, I am a bit spiritual and many of my core values are affected by it. Your elders are not your equal and have earned much more in ways of respect than you have yet learned. I dont know for sure what any other person has done or not done in their life but I give the benefit of the doubt that they have worked hard enough to be still alive and that deserves respect. I teach my kids everyone deserves respect, especially elders, until they show you disrespect. I think the other side of the spectrum are those who feel noone deserves respect till they earn it. Everyone is different, I just still dont know what a forty , fifty year old person is supposed to be doing to EARN respect from a teenager. By valueing the individuality and the wisdom of the child.... such as this young person....a 12 year old girl who spoke at the global conference on environment and climate change... http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cgIXr-qxXck for as long as we choose to see young people as 'less'....we are not showing respect...and therefore do not deserve it in return. |
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for as long as we chose to see young people as 'less'....we are not showing respect...and therefore do not deserve it in return.
young people ARE less,, less experienced, less educated, less responsible. That is why we protect them. If they were equal that would not be the case, they could protect themself. My children are no less valuable than I am but they certainly have not and could not possibly have done as much in 3 or 15 years of life to earn respect as I have done in 40. To say that people have differences, children different from adults, or men different from women, is not saying they are less, just different. Children are not equal to me,, we are very different. I have been through already the stages in life they have yet to experience. They have plenty to teach me as well, no doubt, but nearly as much as they have to learn. |
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for as long as we chose to see young people as 'less'....we are not showing respect...and therefore do not deserve it in return. young people ARE less,, less experienced, less educated, less responsible. That is why we protect them. If they were equal that would not be the case, they could protect themself. My children are no less valuable than I am but they certainly have not and could not possibly have done as much in 3 or 15 years of life to earn respect as I have done in 40. To say that people have differences, children different from adults, or men different from women, is not saying they are less, just different. Children are not equal to me,, we are very different. I have been through already the stages in life they have yet to experience. They have plenty to teach me as well, no doubt, but nearly as much as they have to learn. The age on your driver's license does not equate respect due.... I know more 12 year old's with more wisdom than many many many 40 year olds, myself included... When we see someone as less for any reason, no matter how justified we feel it is.... we are not respecting the person... |
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What happened to the old people that are respectful to younger people? It is hard to respect elders when they put themselves in a position where respect is not deserved. I'm like auburngirl only I was very respectful when a 21 year old from Roumenblatfer or somewhere wrote to me and said, "u r sixy. can we kuddle an get movys?" |
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The age on your driver's license does not equate respect due.... I know more 12 year old's with more wisdom than many many many 40 year olds, myself included...
When we see someone as less for any reason, no matter how justified we feel it is.... we are not respecting the person... Maybe I just have a different definition of respect and wisdom. I see respect as 'The state of being regarded with honor or esteem.' I do not feel respect for my children nor disrespect. I do not honor them ( i reserve that mostly for spouse and parents). I love them plane and simple. Perhaps when they are adults who are able to take care of themselves, accomplish things on their own , and maybe even look after others, I will feel respect. In the mean time, I still can't view them as equal or I wouldnt feel the need to bust my hump loving and caring for them, Id ask them to do it for themself. I see wisdom as 'The ability to discern or judge what is true, right, or lasting; insight.' This is one of those things that make most children children, their lack of wisdom. As even the law suggests, a child is not yet capable legally of deciding for themself what is right or lasting or true. They still legally dont have the ability to discern many things which is why they cant enter into contracts. Many children are exceptional and even wise, but the larger majority are still very dependent and have much to learn before they gain the insight to be wiser than their adult counterparts. |
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Each to their own....we see things very differently.
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we don't hardly respect--we just get even--
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Guess depending on one's individual life experiences one can either deem it that respect is earned or given freely.
Overly simplifying things - let's treat each other how we want to be treated, sounds like the solution to me. 
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What happened to the old people that are respectful to younger people? It is hard to respect elders when they put themselves in a position where respect is not deserved. I'm like auburngirl only I was very respectful when a 21 year old from Roumenblatfer or somewhere wrote to me and said, "u r sixy. can we kuddle an get movys?" Yeah I did good didn't I?! He was 76 yrs old!!!!! 
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What happened to the old people that are respectful to younger people? It is hard to respect elders when they put themselves in a position where respect is not deserved. I'm like auburngirl only I was very respectful when a 21 year old from Roumenblatfer or somewhere wrote to me and said, "u r sixy. can we kuddle an get movys?" Yeah I did good didn't I?! He was 76 yrs old!!!!! Only 76? Who, where, when?? 
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