so here's a question for anyone that maybe someone can answer for me....Ive just got out of a realtionship for a year where he treated me bad an he constantly lied to me about anything an everything that he did. Now ive decided to go back to dating women who i know i can trust because women tend to be more honest then men. So here's the question...Should I be his friend if he asks me to be or wat should i do if he changes an i see it an he wants me back??? Plz let me know because im confused about him

So he lied to you for years and treated you like crap? Nope... wouldn't be his friend.

the best i could tell you is to do what your heart tells you, if it tells you that you cannot trust him no matter what, then go with it. There is no sense in going through life thinking of the what ifs, and could have beens. you will just make yourself crazy by doing that. And dont give up on all men, dont judge us by our worse specimens.... just my opinion take it with any grain of salt you'd like.

Why in the world would u want to be friends with someone like him?

"women tend to be more honest then men."

Sorry I had to do it.

But on subject no, if he treated you like that he would make for a very bad friend. You don't need someone like that.

Why would you be his friend? Don't let him keep on emotionally abusing you! Walk away and don't look back! He does not deserve you.

I would just make him buy me stuff!!!

I am with you Gypsy!

Hummmmm sounds to me one should step back and think what they just said. First of all why would you consider going back to and abusive relationship. Second of all you will find you may be in for a rude awakening thinking a woman will be all up and honest with you more then a man and will not treat you bad..... They are nooooooooooo different when it comes to that......at least by what I have heard and seen...........take time to find yourself and not go into another relationship till your ready to.

Friends don't treat each other like "Crap" nor do they Lie to each other. So how can you be a friend to him.

Take a step back and think about it.

i know how you feel
i was in a relationship for 3yrs(he died almost 3yrs ago)
he had a very kind heart but the problem was he was verbale absusive
everyone saw that, it just took me awhile.. the reason he was that way was because his step dad and his mom were the same way.. my actions started to change and he ask me to go see a counselor i went to please him and the counslor even pointed out it wasent me that had the problem it was him.. i broke up with him 4times and the 4th was the last.. we did still talk and a week before he died i saw him online but i didnt talk to him.... he holds alot of memory.. and i know hes around me in spirit as i can hear his voice every so often..not only was he verable abusive he also would critize my spelling and he would piss me off more, he knew i didnt like it.. as i kept saying no one is perfect

If you are spirtual i say ask god for an anwser for peace of mind about the situation i say forgive him for his wrong doings because no one in the world is perfect and without sin and one way or another you've hurt someone. so i say forgive you don't have to be his bestfriend just do the right thing

No one gender is more honest than the other, either you're a liar or you're not, it has nothing to do with whether you're a male or a female, so if that's the only reason you're going back to women, I think you're going to be in for a rude awakening. As for being his friend, yeah, when my "friends" treat me like crap, they don't deserve that title anymore.

Never look back on the past...Always go forward. He was your past so the best thing is to let him go. You don't need all that heartache and drama

If you want more of the same from him, yes be his friend.

In the name of Sisterhood I want to understand. See, men have a unit and women have a hoo-ha. Men usually have short hair and usually women wear their hair more fluffy. Men have testosterone and women have estrogen. Generally, men fix things and make loud noises when they watch sports and women generally can make up a beautiful platter of crackers, cheeseball & veggies. So when you say this guy is acting up and you're thinking about going back to women it's a little like me saying, "This sewing machine breaks thread! I think I'll join a volleyball league."

Dear Girl,
With friends like him you would not need enemies. Get as far away from this toxic person and your thinking will hopfully get clearer.
If you want to be with a woman then be with a woman for the right reasons not that they just are not a man than you do not know how to deal with.
Sounds like you need to give yourself a vacation from the whole relationships thing for a while. Sort out how you feel and what will make you happy and start putting your life back together.
Start with trying to make friends that are friends and not complicated by sexual or financial entanglements.
You are young focus on developeing career skills and getting and education so you have the power to take care of yourself. The more sucessful you make yourself the more choices you will have for not only having real friends but for having real fun.
Sorry for your Pain. Set good boundries and life will get better soon. Good luck...