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"Marriage has changed more in the last 35 years than in the previous 3,500 years according to noted author and historian Stephanie Coontz. As individuals and as a society, we are still trying to sort out the consequences of these changes and how to cope with them.
For thousands of years, marriage was a NOT about love and mutual respect but about property, power and male dominance. It was only 200 years ago that love began to be central to the definition of marriage, and only 100 years ago that we began the long march to equality between men and women. ....marriage has become fairer and more fulfilling than in the past, but also more optional and fragile". |
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but but Jacob loved Rachel many a year ago
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but but Jacob loved Rachel many a year ago Agree there are many love stories from literature and this case the bible, but I think the author is right we are now in new territory and look at the divorce rates!! |
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Maybe the marriages lasted longer when they were a marriage of convenience or an arranged marriage..there was a reason to stay together that was determined before the marriage took place. Hummmm You have me thinking about this now daytime.
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Womans rights has caused quite a stir in marriage. Also marriages used to be arranged not to the point of how it is portrayed in movies, but love was not a question. Also women didnt go around having sex as openly as they have progressively in the last 200 years. When man and woman became husband and wife whether arranged or through choice the woman was a virgin or she had only slept with her betrothed. Sex always makes things more complicated. And now more younger people confuse lust for love. And so they get married because the sex is good. But then once the sex is gone they realize that their heart is not in the relationship. So they divorce or worse one of the partners seeks alternative outlets to provide them with that feeling they had at the begining of the relationship. Or the alternative is that because women have become power houses in the work place, some men take the lesser role. And it can become an issue in the household. Some men are bums and refuse to work because the woman makes more money. That can make a man feel inferior to the woman and it adds strain and conflict if the man is not pulling his weigh. Imagine this, the woman works a full time job, comes home to her husband and maybe kids. She has to clean house, tend to the kids needs, and do the shopping and bill paying. All while the husband kicks up his feet and does nothing. That is what the younger society is coming to in general. There are many men who provide for house and home. But a great number are falling into the other category. That i believe is why marriages are so stained plus the added loss of jobs. Its only going to get worse.
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Damn I fell so encouraged now !
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Damn I fell so encouraged now ! Sorry I thought the article would give more insight into what people are experiencing and wondering why me???? It is just a food for thought type of post |
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Womans rights has caused quite a stir in marriage. Also marriages used to be arranged not to the point of how it is portrayed in movies, but love was not a question. Also women didnt go around having sex as openly as they have progressively in the last 200 years. When man and woman became husband and wife whether arranged or through choice the woman was a virgin or she had only slept with her betrothed. Sex always makes things more complicated. And now more younger people confuse lust for love. And so they get married because the sex is good. But then once the sex is gone they realize that their heart is not in the relationship. So they divorce or worse one of the partners seeks alternative outlets to provide them with that feeling they had at the begining of the relationship. Or the alternative is that because women have become power houses in the work place, some men take the lesser role. And it can become an issue in the household. Some men are bums and refuse to work because the woman makes more money. That can make a man feel inferior to the woman and it adds strain and conflict if the man is not pulling his weigh. Imagine this, the woman works a full time job, comes home to her husband and maybe kids. She has to clean house, tend to the kids needs, and do the shopping and bill paying. All while the husband kicks up his feet and does nothing. That is what the younger society is coming to in general. There are many men who provide for house and home. But a great number are falling into the other category. That i believe is why marriages are so stained plus the added loss of jobs. Its only going to get worse. Hi Munchie, Yes I have known some women (co-workers) like this that support the whole family. It's sad they always look frazzled and tired. |
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Damn I fell so encouraged now ! Sorry I thought the article would give more insight into what people are experiencing and wondering why me???? It is just a food for thought type of post |
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I was lucky. I had a great marriage. First and only one, (so far) for both of us. I was raised in a strict upbringing and my Mother taught me a few things that have served me well. This is one change I don't like.
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With families and communities tied together by marriage, the pull was stronger, and reinforced by families to stay together too.
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Edited by
STARTRAVELER
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Thu 09/03/09 10:59 PM
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I was lucky. I had a great marriage. First and only one, (so far) for both of us. I was raised in a strict upbringing and my Mother taught me a few things that have served me well. This is one change I don't like. |
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The purple love rod killed the sexual revolution!!!
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The purple love rod killed the sexual revolution!!! |
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Women now adays dont really need a man to be successful. If you think about it. We work, earn our own, own our houses etc. Alot can do handy work or have the money to get it done. The only thing a woman really needs is sex and well, the purple love rod can do that.
The purple love rod never pisses us off, never tells us what to do and never insults us or disappoints us. I think more women will be marrying their purple love rods.... |
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Well damn have fun with all that ! I'll just keep my closet space then !
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Womans rights has caused quite a stir in marriage. Also marriages used to be arranged not to the point of how it is portrayed in movies, but love was not a question. Also women didnt go around having sex as openly as they have progressively in the last 200 years. When man and woman became husband and wife whether arranged or through choice the woman was a virgin or she had only slept with her betrothed. Sex always makes things more complicated. And now more younger people confuse lust for love. And so they get married because the sex is good. But then once the sex is gone they realize that their heart is not in the relationship. So they divorce or worse one of the partners seeks alternative outlets to provide them with that feeling they had at the begining of the relationship. Or the alternative is that because women have become power houses in the work place, some men take the lesser role. And it can become an issue in the household. Some men are bums and refuse to work because the woman makes more money. That can make a man feel inferior to the woman and it adds strain and conflict if the man is not pulling his weigh. Imagine this, the woman works a full time job, comes home to her husband and maybe kids. She has to clean house, tend to the kids needs, and do the shopping and bill paying. All while the husband kicks up his feet and does nothing. That is what the younger society is coming to in general. There are many men who provide for house and home. But a great number are falling into the other category. That i believe is why marriages are so stained plus the added loss of jobs. Its only going to get worse. I don't think it's just the younger people.... there are a lot of young people who are working on their marriages/relationships. They are struggling to do what they believe is right for them in a changing society. I know of many in my age group who walk out of a 20/30 year marriage also. |
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WE do however want your closet space!!!
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Womans rights has caused quite a stir in marriage. Also marriages used to be arranged not to the point of how it is portrayed in movies, but love was not a question. Also women didnt go around having sex as openly as they have progressively in the last 200 years. When man and woman became husband and wife whether arranged or through choice the woman was a virgin or she had only slept with her betrothed. Sex always makes things more complicated. And now more younger people confuse lust for love. And so they get married because the sex is good. But then once the sex is gone they realize that their heart is not in the relationship. So they divorce or worse one of the partners seeks alternative outlets to provide them with that feeling they had at the begining of the relationship. Or the alternative is that because women have become power houses in the work place, some men take the lesser role. And it can become an issue in the household. Some men are bums and refuse to work because the woman makes more money. That can make a man feel inferior to the woman and it adds strain and conflict if the man is not pulling his weigh. Imagine this, the woman works a full time job, comes home to her husband and maybe kids. She has to clean house, tend to the kids needs, and do the shopping and bill paying. All while the husband kicks up his feet and does nothing. That is what the younger society is coming to in general. There are many men who provide for house and home. But a great number are falling into the other category. That i believe is why marriages are so stained plus the added loss of jobs. Its only going to get worse. I don't think it's just the younger people.... there are a lot of young people who are working on their marriages/relationships. They are struggling to do what they believe is right for them in a changing society. I know of many in my age group who walk out of a 20/30 year marriage also. |
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Women now adays dont really need a man to be successful. If you think about it. We work, earn our own, own our houses etc. Alot can do handy work or have the money to get it done. The only thing a woman really needs is sex and well, the purple love rod can do that. The purple love rod never pisses us off, never tells us what to do and never insults us or disappoints us. I think more women will be marrying their purple love rods.... How do you have a wedding with the purple love rod |
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