Topic: Marriages now more fragile, more optional
STARTRAVELER's photo
Thu 09/03/09 11:20 PM


Women now adays dont really need a man to be successful. If you think about it. We work, earn our own, own our houses etc. Alot can do handy work or have the money to get it done. The only thing a woman really needs is sex and well, the purple love rod can do that.

The purple love rod never pisses us off, never tells us what to do and never insults us or disappoints us.

I think more women will be marrying their purple love rods....surprised rofl



How do you have a wedding with the purple love rod surprised
Oh I'm not sure you should have asked her that !

munchiebellic's photo
Thu 09/03/09 11:20 PM



I don't think it's just the younger people.... there are a lot of young people who are working on their marriages/relationships. They are struggling to do what they believe is right for them in a changing society. I know of many in my age group who walk out of a 20/30 year marriage also.

:heart:

It happens in all age groups i am sure i was just generalizing for all intensive purposes

PacificStar48's photo
Thu 09/03/09 11:21 PM
I feel bad that the changes have seem to be that the pendelum has swung where roles have reversed and now husbands are getting treated as badly as wives once were and wives are being treated as badly as husbands once were. lol

Ladylid2012's photo
Thu 09/03/09 11:21 PM



Womans rights has caused quite a stir in marriage. Also marriages used to be arranged not to the point of how it is portrayed in movies, but love was not a question. Also women didnt go around having sex as openly as they have progressively in the last 200 years. When man and woman became husband and wife whether arranged or through choice the woman was a virgin or she had only slept with her betrothed. Sex always makes things more complicated. And now more younger people confuse lust for love. And so they get married because the sex is good. But then once the sex is gone they realize that their heart is not in the relationship. So they divorce or worse one of the partners seeks alternative outlets to provide them with that feeling they had at the begining of the relationship. Or the alternative is that because women have become power houses in the work place, some men take the lesser role. And it can become an issue in the household. Some men are bums and refuse to work because the woman makes more money. That can make a man feel inferior to the woman and it adds strain and conflict if the man is not pulling his weigh. Imagine this, the woman works a full time job, comes home to her husband and maybe kids. She has to clean house, tend to the kids needs, and do the shopping and bill paying. All while the husband kicks up his feet and does nothing. That is what the younger society is coming to in general. There are many men who provide for house and home. But a great number are falling into the other category. That i believe is why marriages are so stained plus the added loss of jobs. Its only going to get worse.



I don't think it's just the younger people.... there are a lot of young people who are working on their marriages/relationships. They are struggling to do what they believe is right for them in a changing society. I know of many in my age group who walk out of a 20/30 year marriage also.

:heart:
I agree I never meant to imply age specifics here I just see it as an across the board change for the worse .But then again I said I was an old fashioned romantic ! And Gypsy no closet space for you !Unless there is that cabana girl position yet to be filled !



Well STARTRAVELER, My post wasn't for your comments...but
thank you for responding anyway. :smile: :heart:

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Thu 09/03/09 11:24 PM


Women now adays dont really need a man to be successful. If you think about it. We work, earn our own, own our houses etc. Alot can do handy work or have the money to get it done. The only thing a woman really needs is sex and well, the purple love rod can do that.

The purple love rod never pisses us off, never tells us what to do and never insults us or disappoints us.

I think more women will be marrying their purple love rods....surprised rofl



How do you have a wedding with the purple love rod surprised
Ohhhhhhhhhhhhh everyone would bring their dates....their love rods!!!laugh laugh laugh laugh laugh

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Thu 09/03/09 11:25 PM
ok who woke charles up?????noway laugh scared

STARTRAVELER's photo
Thu 09/03/09 11:26 PM
oops




Womans rights has caused quite a stir in marriage. Also marriages used to be arranged not to the point of how it is portrayed in movies, but love was not a question. Also women didnt go around having sex as openly as they have progressively in the last 200 years. When man and woman became husband and wife whether arranged or through choice the woman was a virgin or she had only slept with her betrothed. Sex always makes things more complicated. And now more younger people confuse lust for love. And so they get married because the sex is good. But then once the sex is gone they realize that their heart is not in the relationship. So they divorce or worse one of the partners seeks alternative outlets to provide them with that feeling they had at the begining of the relationship. Or the alternative is that because women have become power houses in the work place, some men take the lesser role. And it can become an issue in the household. Some men are bums and refuse to work because the woman makes more money. That can make a man feel inferior to the woman and it adds strain and conflict if the man is not pulling his weigh. Imagine this, the woman works a full time job, comes home to her husband and maybe kids. She has to clean house, tend to the kids needs, and do the shopping and bill paying. All while the husband kicks up his feet and does nothing. That is what the younger society is coming to in general. There are many men who provide for house and home. But a great number are falling into the other category. That i believe is why marriages are so stained plus the added loss of jobs. Its only going to get worse.



I don't think it's just the younger people.... there are a lot of young people who are working on their marriages/relationships. They are struggling to do what they believe is right for them in a changing society. I know of many in my age group who walk out of a 20/30 year marriage also.

:heart:
I agree I never meant to imply age specifics here I just see it as an across the board change for the worse .But then again I said I was an old fashioned romantic ! And Gypsy no closet space for you !Unless there is that cabana girl position yet to be filled !



Well STARTRAVELER, My post wasn't for your comments...but
thank you for responding anyway. :smile: :heart:
oops Sorry Lady ! Getting late My bad !

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Thu 09/03/09 11:26 PM
There are so many post on the forums about marriages and relationships that are very fragile as we speak. It is a crazy time right now, alot of confusion with male/female relationships. I am also confusedwhat

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Thu 09/03/09 11:49 PM
I want to get married so we can share the emptying of the cat poop out of the cat box.surprised

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Thu 09/03/09 11:53 PM

I want to get married so we can share the emptying of the cat poop out of the cat box.surprised



rofl rofl rofl rofl

PacificStar48's photo
Thu 09/03/09 11:54 PM
It seems like some people forget to treat each other like people once they get married. Sad because if you treat your mate well and you are lucky enough they treat you well life can be really awesome.

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Thu 09/03/09 11:57 PM
Well.......it is about SHARING!!!pitchfork

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Fri 09/04/09 12:01 AM

It seems like some people forget to treat each other like people once they get married. Sad because if you treat your mate well and you are lucky enough they treat you well life can be really awesome.


Yeap I think so many people are looking for this type of relationship. I agree it would be awesome. It just seems that so few how to do this !!!!!sad2

Ladylid2012's photo
Fri 09/04/09 12:10 AM

oops




Womans rights has caused quite a stir in marriage. Also marriages used to be arranged not to the point of how it is portrayed in movies, but love was not a question. Also women didnt go around having sex as openly as they have progressively in the last 200 years. When man and woman became husband and wife whether arranged or through choice the woman was a virgin or she had only slept with her betrothed. Sex always makes things more complicated. And now more younger people confuse lust for love. And so they get married because the sex is good. But then once the sex is gone they realize that their heart is not in the relationship. So they divorce or worse one of the partners seeks alternative outlets to provide them with that feeling they had at the begining of the relationship. Or the alternative is that because women have become power houses in the work place, some men take the lesser role. And it can become an issue in the household. Some men are bums and refuse to work because the woman makes more money. That can make a man feel inferior to the woman and it adds strain and conflict if the man is not pulling his weigh. Imagine this, the woman works a full time job, comes home to her husband and maybe kids. She has to clean house, tend to the kids needs, and do the shopping and bill paying. All while the husband kicks up his feet and does nothing. That is what the younger society is coming to in general. There are many men who provide for house and home. But a great number are falling into the other category. That i believe is why marriages are so stained plus the added loss of jobs. Its only going to get worse.



I don't think it's just the younger people.... there are a lot of young people who are working on their marriages/relationships. They are struggling to do what they believe is right for them in a changing society. I know of many in my age group who walk out of a 20/30 year marriage also.

:heart:
I agree I never meant to imply age specifics here I just see it as an across the board change for the worse .But then again I said I was an old fashioned romantic ! And Gypsy no closet space for you !Unless there is that cabana girl position yet to be filled !



Well STARTRAVELER, My post wasn't for your comments...but
thank you for responding anyway. :smile: :heart:
oops Sorry Lady ! Getting late My bad !



laugh laugh No, no my bad!

Ladylid2012's photo
Fri 09/04/09 12:21 AM


It seems like some people forget to treat each other like people once they get married. Sad because if you treat your mate well and you are lucky enough they treat you well life can be really awesome.


Yeap I think so many people are looking for this type of relationship. I agree it would be awesome. It just seems that so few how to do this !!!!!sad2


The euphoria that comes with falling in love wears off and the feeling changes...some mistake that from the beginning. Maybe some get to relaxed and don't try anymore, get to complacent, then one feels neglected and misunderstandings start...

In a perfect world the first feelings of falling in love wouldn't change..

Your right dayime, so few know how to do this. :heart:

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Fri 09/04/09 12:35 AM

"Marriage has changed more in the last 35 years than in the previous 3,500 years according to noted author and historian Stephanie Coontz. As individuals and as a society, we are still trying to sort out the consequences of these changes and how to cope with them.
For thousands of years, marriage was a NOT about love and mutual respect but about property, power and male dominance. It was only 200 years ago that love began to be central to the definition of marriage, and only 100 years ago that we began the long march to equality between men and women. ....marriage has become fairer and more fulfilling than in the past, but also more optional and fragile".



Ladylid, I think the authors statement that marriage has become more optional could mean that once someone does not like the situation anymore they opt for divorce and move on to in many cases to another marriage, sometimes they move on again to yet another. Getting married now has lost meaning, I have even heard the term "starter marriage"....I fine that term odd. Kind of like a starter house??

PacificStar48's photo
Fri 09/04/09 12:41 AM


"Marriage has changed more in the last 35 years than in the previous 3,500 years according to noted author and historian Stephanie Coontz. As individuals and as a society, we are still trying to sort out the consequences of these changes and how to cope with them.
For thousands of years, marriage was a NOT about love and mutual respect but about property, power and male dominance. It was only 200 years ago that love began to be central to the definition of marriage, and only 100 years ago that we began the long march to equality between men and women. ....marriage has become fairer and more fulfilling than in the past, but also more optional and fragile".


Some seem to think they can automatically get a do-over when they get a little money under their belt. Sadly it seems they just trade in for a younger model.

Ladylid, I think the authors statement that marriage has become more optional could mean that once someone does not like the situation anymore they opt for divorce and move on to in many cases to another marriage, sometimes they move on again to yet another. Getting married now has lost meaning, I have even heard the term "starter marriage"....I fine that term odd. Kind of like a starter house??

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Fri 09/04/09 12:46 AM



"Marriage has changed more in the last 35 years than in the previous 3,500 years according to noted author and historian Stephanie Coontz. As individuals and as a society, we are still trying to sort out the consequences of these changes and how to cope with them.
For thousands of years, marriage was a NOT about love and mutual respect but about property, power and male dominance. It was only 200 years ago that love began to be central to the definition of marriage, and only 100 years ago that we began the long march to equality between men and women. ....marriage has become fairer and more fulfilling than in the past, but also more optional and fragile".


Some seem to think they can automatically get a do-over when they get a little money under their belt. Sadly it seems they just trade in for a younger model.

Ladylid, I think the authors statement that marriage has become more optional could mean that once someone does not like the situation anymore they opt for divorce and move on to in many cases to another marriage, sometimes they move on again to yet another. Getting married now has lost meaning, I have even heard the term "starter marriage"....I fine that term odd. Kind of like a starter house??




Oh no, "trade you in for a younger model" that does sound bad. Wow, never thought of it that way.

Ladylid2012's photo
Fri 09/04/09 12:50 AM
Do you think that happens a lot.. daytime, star48?
I mean we hear about that..he left me for a younger woman, but I don't really see it happening...

Bandii's photo
Fri 09/04/09 12:55 AM
Who needs a piece of paper? Is all that marriage is these days and a way to get money.

Ask Britney rofl