Just sharing a thought or two and hoping for some feedback or debate: I have come to the conclusion that if we always treated each other like we did when we first fell in love, there would never be divorce. Providing, of course, there was initial respect and honesty.

I dunno, ya get sick of that stage after a while...

Like.. eh! get outta my face!

I'm not talking about smothering each other, just the mutual respect and honesty. No-one can live with mushy mushy 24/7.

What you say is true. However....


That last sentence is a biggie. Especially the honesty part. I wonder how many people are truly honest when entering into a relationship/falling in love.

And... A lot may depend on the stage of life you are at when you fall in love. It is difficult to treat each other the same as you did at the beginning when you become parents and/or life throws you curveballs.

It is probably easier for two people that have already passed through the rearing the family stage of life to fall in love and maintain the relationship as if it was new.

Ook, YES then I would agree.. Ive said that part many times. If we had that respect yes, and didnt take eachother for granted.

You make a lot of valid points. I've also come to the conclusion that when people say they want honesty, what it really means is "
Tell me the truth only if it is something I want to hear". Honesty can be good, bad or downright ugly. I've sometimes questioned what the hell does honesty really mean?

Yeah it works for me. It's called the Honey moon phase. But if she had a really bad foot odor. I would have a big problem with that !!!

Honestly, you should just tell her in a respectful way. Otherwise suffer! And if she's worth keeping, suck it up, LOL

it seems that marriage and relationships change people

makes some possessive...

also, some people outgrow their mate and that causes friction when the other isn't willing to accept the changes in there partner...

When we first fall in love, most people are still trying to put only the best side forward and holding back aspects of themselves. The staying power is if we can continue to love the person when the warts start to show.

Loving the imperfect person perfectly?

whether u wan it or not things r gonna change as u guys go deeper in a relation ship.. to me its like discovering ur partner.. some people fall for each other, were as other get bored and roll to the next one.. as far as initial respect goes.. lots of things in the beginning of a relationship are misinterpreted as respect.