"...had a masectomy due to cancer recently...would you totally freak out if you went there with a woman and found she had only 1 boob."

First off, that must be traumatic, and I can only imagine what you had to deal with.

But as for dating, I think it can be treated as any other surgery. If you have any surgery, for any reason, and it leaves you looking very different from everyone else, then why not look for common, safe procedures to correct the results of the surgery? My understanding is that a great many women who underwent this procedure get a breast implant, and the result usually looks great.

For me, this wouldn't matter. I don't care if a woman I am dating has one (or two) breast implants.

It merely is important to me that she has breasts - I like women to look like women, just like women like men to look like men.

Robert

To tell you the truth beind bald is much more tramatic, than the masectomy.

(God I sound so shallow, and vain)

I have really nice wigs, but they are really hot, and uncomfortable....

but mostly.... I really miss getting my hair pulled.

you know what sugarpie? there are always choices but remember... you are no less a woman and you are still the hottest woman in this damned place!

so whether you choose to date or not.. you'll always be chased :)

and besides... what man can't accept you as you are? one you don't need in your life. :D

stay strong sugarpie.

you're very loved here. :D

(Would you totally freak out if you went there with a woman and found she had only 1 boob?)


-As long as she told me and didn't make me find out while we were just about to make love,,,then I wouldn't have any problem at all with it..



When I was a teenager I dated a beautiful woman for two years that only had one hand..

It never bothered me at all... She was drop dead gorgeous but just happened to have one hand... I didn't feel bad about it either that she only had one hand... She could write with her other hand in cursive backwards better then I could forward... ha! -no kidding!

Roberta -you are one gorgeous woman!
with a heart as big as Texas to match!

Never forget that!

when i was 19 i dated a guy who was deaf. holy god he was hot. and a fantastic musician. he lost his hearing a few years before and now listened to music by the thump of the bass. i absolutely loved being with him.

wow...

i wonder what would have happened if he hadn't moved away.

I have other personal issues that are difficult to tell a new potential lover. What I know is that if he can't handle it then he is not the right man for me. Kinda makes the elimination process a bit easier. Funny thing is - they are all ok with my stuff! Go figure, guess a lot of us have physical baggage and mature men/women don't judge based on it.

Long live you and your healthy self!!!!

Wow...

you guys are always the thing that bails me out when im in trouble!

Your words have really made me think alot differently of myself, as always...

THANK YOU FOR BEING THERE FOR ME...I LOVE YOU ALL!

Not long ago there was a special on about a woman that had a mastectomy she choose not to have the reconstructive surgery she did in fact have a tattoo put on the side where she had one breast removed it was actually and amazing story....

Right now, im just trying to stay alive..so im not thinking of any reconsruction as of yet.

I think the tatoo idea sounds wayyyyyyyyyyyy cooler!

I actually hadent given that thought, till now.

I KNOW!!!!! ILL GET "MINGLE" TATTOOED ACROSS IT!!!!

Hahahahahahaha...JK.

Roberta.....

I am in the process of having a tat done that involves all my chest area and winds around my waist then onto my left leg ending just below the knee..I'm not a candidate for bilateral reconstructive surgery and so decided to do something in regards to the tat that is my journey with BC.....There are some really wonderful ideas for this if you google body art....

Keep rockin..!!

ro,i still wuv's ya hun !
and earth,

Thanks my friend....

Oh man...Chevy love is some good love!!

Thanks babe!

Fuzuckin A!!! You Go Girl!!! I want pictures when its done...

it sounds Hoooooooooooooooot!

The pic that I have up is along the idea that I am going to have done....It's going to take awhile but I'm worth it....

Oh Yeah!!!

Your gonna rock even harder now baby-girl!!!

After years of dealing with the responses of people to a less than visable difference I have found that if you force the telling it makes you come off as a flag waveing advocate/neuraotic or both that most people can't wait to get away from fast enough.

Wearing a small lapel pin on my my cap or purse it was usually noticed by people who were trying to get to know me. When they would comment about it, usually later than sooner I would smile and ask them what their three questions were of the great Karnac. Keeping answers short and specific to the question. Now days most conditions can be researched on line so it is really more about addressing how it affect them.

Being educated and thinking it through before I get caught off guard helped have a more acceptable upbeat answer. What Doctors and most social workers are clueless about usually support groups can give you practical experience with humor and acceptance.

Most often in good personal relationships the desire to not hurt me as a partner physically or mentally and not likeing the feeling of helplessness have been central. Coping with that things are pretty normal.