I think it depends on the individuals involved and their level of
commitment to each other and to making the relationship work. Never say
never... :)

That's a great article. How ever in real life it is so difficult to
make all those things happen that are required to make a long distance
relationship work. KT u made a great point about the first step is the
comittment to meet each other. Without that it is practically
impossible to get the relationship off the ground. You can have all the
love, trust and whatever else that article mentioned 3 pages ago but
without ever meeting there is no relationship. I'm sure I could come up
with a lot more to say but that is my bottom line. No meeting/no
relationship.

well I have a relationship...

even without meeting him...

My whole marriage has been a long distant relationship

as it sits right now

I'm in Texas...He's in Africa...for at least another year and 2 months

we've been married 20 years so it does WORK!!

just stating my opinion but if you haven't met the other person you only
know what they are willing to tell you.

Congrats on being able to maintain a marriage with that kind of distance
between you. Best wishes to you in the future.

Thanks Tom for the article.

Seven months ago I would have said never....no way....uh uh..
but...never say never

yes it is hard but so is life...the 18 hour time difference is a
challenge and you learn to live with little sleep.

At the beginning doubts are there but once you except that maybe...just
maybe...you have a chance at something good..remove the doubt and go
with the flow.

I am picking up my passport today and will be on my way to America in
two months time.Am I scared? No... because we were friends for about 5
months and shared our thoughts..hopes and dreams.Because of our strong
friendship we will have a wonderful time doing all the things we talk
about daily.

The hard part is waiting for those two months to pass.

I didnt say that the relationship is not real until you meet. It is
REAL before you meet. When I said I love you...I meant it. I loved
Chris before I met him. Meeting is needed for the relationship to go
any farther (In my opinion). It is a big commitment and you need to see
if the physical attraction is there & natural chemistry, etc. Never
meeting doesn't make the relationship null & void. Like I said before I
loved Chris before I met him.

I guess I'm developing multiple LDR's.
Is this a Dis-Order?
Is there a cure?

Hi Harry

Multiple mmmmmmm does that make you a cyber gigolo

How is the rsi going from all that typing

I understand what you're saying KT, but a relationship can't hang in
limbo waiting to meet forever either otherwise it can't blossom.
Without the opportunity to blossom it will wither and die. At least
that is my experience.

That IS the trouble with most LDRs. Its not easy to just drop what your
doing , get the $$, and get the time to go 1,000 miles or more....(even
though youd REALLY REALLY LOVE TO) to be there ASAP. It requires alot
of Patience & Waiting.

Hi Rivame

A gigglego maybe
Still not sure what RSI is

TT is right...it does take time and patience...a lot of it.

Music why do you call it limbo?

To me it is time used to get to know each other more. There is something
new I learn about him every day and that is never time
wasted

If you have patience and belief, then I believe anything in life can
work. Sometimes you have to take the rough and the smooth. If the smooth
way works out, then congratulations are in order. If it's the rough
option, then you just have to accept it and move on.
If it hurts then that is a fact of life you have to live with.
Hopefully anyone who suffers this fate is able to move on and not bear
any malice, and whoever they are, that they can still remain
friends.

BS, if you never meet then it is all smoke & mirrors.
You have to have some kind of physical contact to keep things going. All
of this virtual stuff is BS (opinion). FOr all this virtual stuff, give
it 10yrs. If it survives, I'll pay $100.00,

Sorry puter cut me off.
Be real or be still,
dreams are magnificant, but won't keep you together.


I am a MAJOR REALIST.


Wanna bet????

Music..Thanks

But to be fair..I didn't meet my husband off the internet..he was in a
neighboring town...he joined the Marine Corps 2 months after we met...

we wrote letters and spoke on the phone during bootcamp and his training
classes...I would say through those letters we got to know each others
souls (inner self) and thoughts..we knew we were a match and married
while he was on leave...

For most of the 20 years..not ALL by any means has he spent away from
home..but alot of overseas tours..mainly a year or 7 months at a time..

The kids and I have adapted so well without him that when he does come
home...he disrupts our daily routine and we have no idea what to do with
him...to put it nicely..he's in the way when he's here...*lol*

He retired from the Marines and took a job over seas for fast cash so we
could remoldel a house...he comes home about every 4 months for 2
weeks...

we talk mainly through yahoo everyday...and a phone call once a week...

There are times i really wish he was here..like today when I discovered
water behind the washing machine....grrrrrr...*lol*

Hey old sage I will take that bet, I have found the lady of my dreams
right here on JSH, and she is damn sure worth 100.00n to me. LAMom is my
sweetheart, and yes we have been real careful, we talk every night via
IM and telephone, and yes this woman has taken my heart. I don't give it
easily either. So keep your wallet full, in ten yrs I am coming to
collect

<~~~~~Very happy for Bucket and LAMom

So that is proof that SOME LDRs can work.
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