There's someone I'm interested in. We've been getting along great until this past weekend when her ex (and father of her daughter) died in a tragic car accident.

I've stepped back to give her time to grieve, and take care of her daughter. I just don't know when to step back in...

How long do I wait? I want to be there for her, but then again I don't want to come across intrusive.

Let her know you are there to support in any way she needs and allow her to tell you what that is.

My condolences for her loss...

thanks

teddy.......that depends on the situation, but i'd just walk away until she comes back....

considering you said, "We've been getting along great until this past weekend" and then said the ex passed away. I mean, if you were getting along great, you should be there to console her already.


So, in my opinion....something is bad news there and you're just going to get hurt. I would run away as quickly as possible

2 weeks.

2 weeks = 14 days













*edited for clarity*




and what im saying is this..............if you think anyone can stop talkin to a woman for 2 weeks....then he may as well just do what i said, and run lol

I'm already consoling, I'm just wondering about when to continue dating... and perhaps I misphrased earlier, it's not that we've not been getting along well this past weekend, it's just we haven't spent as much time together as before...

Just let her know your there for her

Let her come back to you

Greiving is a personal thing


Tammy

I am going to assume you didnt explain well...cuz why would you? That is a "touchy" subject. No doubt...eh?

Well tell ya what man...I would just let her run this. You know what I mean?

You do what you're doing now. And one day she'll start holding you again and doin the "stuff". Ya know what I mean, know what I mean?

See Tammy and I are kinda saying the same thing...

She'll let you know when she is ready to date again, no one here can really give you a timetable.
Even though it was her 'ex', they had a history together, a child together. That child's father has died, and she needs to be there for her too.

Thanks all for the advice... basically everyones saying the same thing, let her tell me when it's time lol... guess I just need to be patient eh?

Well like I said to MichiganMan up there.....I know how you feel Teddy, because being patient is hard. Cuz this is where it can get rough. If the lady "pushes you away" you could turn into something you dont want to.

Which is why you're asking us, "when?" I think thats why you are.

Thats why I'd be concerned........cuz if you wait too long...she'll be like...

Well, okay anyways...I'm done with the half empty look at things...but ya, you need to step up and take control eventually too.

Which is why I say...keep doing your thing.

Bad news is I dunno what your thing is

Always be there and ready to give support but wait for her to make the first move, when you do not know the person to well it is always better not to rush things and wait for a sign.

I would not suggest "making a date" until at least a week or two after the funeral itself; this gives her time to figure out how she feels and wants to react to his death, as well as giving her time to spend with her child and help the child as well.

HOWEVER, I would keep calling her regularly if yuo did so prior to the accident, and just ask how she's doing, maybe offer to watch the child for her while she helps take care of some more particular arrangements that she may not wnat the child involved in. And if yuo notice her having a real difficult time with handling something, maybe suggest getting some coffee, or a bite to eat for a few minutes, just to get some fresh air and relax; nothing serious and nothing very long. Just long enough for her to grab your shoulder if she needs to, or get some much needed oxygen.

But whatever you do, do NOT stop ALL contact with her, as that will hurt her and the relationship in the end. fer a little while, you will be able to see when she is ready to go back to living in the present, so to speak, and then you can start suggesting longer "dates" and such.