Topic: I need someone to talk to for real....
BonnyMiss's photo
Sat 08/22/09 03:50 AM
Fire away, mind you, I am not promising the answer I will give will be the right one for you.

14shadesOfgray's photo
Sat 08/22/09 03:51 AM
How come you look at a women, for example...her profile/or her body actions. You read it/read them...and you say to yourself, okay...I can do that. You talk to her. You're like, okay things are going good.

(I am switching the generalities above to just me personally)

And how come once I get comfortable...and assume I have shown them, "who I really am" and expect some kind of response back, I do not get one???

I have had this happen to me several times, with several DIFFERENT types of women


14shadesOfgray's photo
Sat 08/22/09 03:54 AM
Edited by 14shadesOfgray on Sat 08/22/09 03:57 AM
k im deleting that...

just bc i am smart

BonnyMiss's photo
Sat 08/22/09 03:58 AM

How come you look at a women, for example...her profile/or her body actions. You read it/read them...and you say to yourself, okay...I can do that. You talk to her. You're like, okay things are going good.

(I am switching the generalities above to just me personally)

And how come once I get comfortable...and assume I have shown them, "who I really am" and expect some kind of response back, I do not get one???

I have had this happen to me several times, with several DIFFERENT types of women




Most people are not consistent in their personal representation, and 'ham' up their profile to suit the occasion. It is a matter of they adopt to fit your personality so-to-speak.There is also the pleasure of anonymity when using the internet,there is the other element of they've moved on having found "better" pastures to graze in..........

vanislandgirl's photo
Sat 08/22/09 03:58 AM
do you know who you "actually"know??

14shadesOfgray's photo
Sat 08/22/09 03:59 AM
Ya know why I can't find my "soulmate" or, hell..a date?

Cuz I am your idealist perfect man

That's right!! I said it!

I am perfect and nobody who goes out with me believes it is true...so they all think I am lying and am full of it and it is all some big shame and I am going to pull the rug out from them.

If it only happened to me once...

I could deal...

BUT it happens every single time!

14shadesOfgray's photo
Sat 08/22/09 04:00 AM

do you know who you "actually"know??



what does that mean!?


see??? this is what I am talkin about!! lolollaugh

I LOVE WOMEN! flowerforyou

BonnyMiss's photo
Sat 08/22/09 04:01 AM

Ya know why I can't find my "soulmate" or, hell..a date?

Cuz I am your idealist perfect man

That's right!! I said it!

I am perfect and nobody who goes out with me believes it is true...so they all think I am lying and am full of it and it is all some big shame and I am going to pull the rug out from them.

If it only happened to me once...

I could deal...

BUT it happens every single time!


Some women cannot deal with a "good guy" and much prefer the "bad boy" types because they are convinced they can retrain them.

14shadesOfgray's photo
Sat 08/22/09 04:02 AM

Most people are not consistent in their personal representation, and 'ham' up their profile to suit the occasion. It is a matter of they adopt to fit your personality so-to-speak.There is also the pleasure of anonymity when using the internet,there is the other element of they've moved on having found "better" pastures to graze in..........


no clue what ure talkin about

ure generalizing with "just online"

I am talkin about ppl I meet in real life too

And I dunno how many profiles you've looked at.....but I have seen people here in Ohio with profiles that say things like.."I am new at this and I just left my husband if you're interested say Hi."


and that better pastures thing? Are you implying that the people I see all find somebody better than me? Wow that is hard to believe........but I guess it sorta makes sense....

vanislandgirl's photo
Sat 08/22/09 04:04 AM
maybe cuzz what one thinks she wants and what one wants are two totally different things....

14shadesOfgray's photo
Sat 08/22/09 04:05 AM
Okay and that makes absolutely NO SENSE

vanislandgirl's photo
Sat 08/22/09 04:06 AM
or maybe needs

14shadesOfgray's photo
Sat 08/22/09 04:06 AM
Edited by 14shadesOfgray on Sat 08/22/09 04:08 AM
so what gives a woman the right to mess a mans head?


BonnyMiss's photo
Sat 08/22/09 04:07 AM


no clue what ure talkin about

ure generalizing with "just online"

I am talkin about ppl I meet in real life too

And I dunno how many profiles you've looked at.....but I have seen people here in Ohio with profiles that say things like.."I am new at this and I just left my husband if you're interested say Hi."


and that better pastures thing? Are you implying that the people I see all find somebody better than me? Wow that is hard to believe........but I guess it sorta makes sense....


I was speaking in the online sense, seeing that I have never met you, I cannot pass judgement about you.Yes, I was generalizing, I have become good at it being on this site for nearly two years.In real life however, I find some the same principles applies.

14shadesOfgray's photo
Sat 08/22/09 04:08 AM
Okay

So you have not answered my question

Neither of you have

14shadesOfgray's photo
Sat 08/22/09 04:09 AM
new question



What gives a woman the right to mess with men's heads?

no photo
Sat 08/22/09 04:10 AM

How come you look at a women, for example...her profile/or her body actions. You read it/read them...and you say to yourself, okay...I can do that. You talk to her. You're like, okay things are going good.

(I am switching the generalities above to just me personally)

And how come once I get comfortable...and assume I have shown them, "who I really am" and expect some kind of response back, I do not get one???

I have had this happen to me several times, with several DIFFERENT types of women




Part of the problem here is you are expecting too much. You are putting things into terms of what you can get out of the experience. Put something into terms of what you can GIVE in the experience and you might be more pleased with the results. Try working hard on finding out "who they really are" instead of making them know who you really are. Basically, get your head out of your arse and quit thinking it's all about you. A woman who knows that you sincerely care about who they are and what they think will have a hard time not responding. Just an idea........and no, I'm not bashing you Billy. Just playing devils advocate.

BonnyMiss's photo
Sat 08/22/09 04:11 AM

so what gives a woman the right to mess a mans head?




No one has the right to decieve another, it is an unkind act.It is a great pity that many do not remember this when they set out to decieve. I have to get some shopping, I will be back later, meanwhile, don't let anyone confuse you. waving

vanislandgirl's photo
Sat 08/22/09 04:12 AM
cuz we're messed up too??....lol

14shadesOfgray's photo
Sat 08/22/09 04:13 AM
Edited by 14shadesOfgray on Sat 08/22/09 04:16 AM


Part of the problem here is you are expecting too much. You are putting things into terms of what you can get out of the experience. Put something into terms of what you can GIVE in the experience and you might be more pleased with the results. Try working hard on finding out "who they really are" instead of making them know who you really are. Basically, get your head out of your arse and quit thinking it's all about you. A woman who knows that you sincerely care about who they are and what they think will have a hard time not responding. Just an idea........and no, I'm not bashing you Billy. Just playing devils advocate.



Okay

Devils advocate back at you...

It is all about me.

If it wasnt, I would still be with the ex

And if thats the case. These girls who are playing head games?

They can go on their way...and I do not care about them

And that is me sticking my head up anyones arse, I don't care. I am proud to say that.

I will NOT stoop down to the level of that EVER again. I did enough of that with my ex, my previous ex and the ex before that.

If I cannot meet a girl who can respect me and my views...then I am happy single.




Hi heather flowerforyou


And not just my views, but my feelings - my opinions - my likes - my disliikes and all of that!

Hi again heather flowerforyou

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