im soon gonna be a single mom in january was woundering if i could get sum advice from other single parents

hi
im a single parent, i had my daughter at 19, her dad wasent really around much, which is no big deal. she 26yrs old now
and i had my son 4yrs later i was with his dad for 2yrs off and on before we got married he even claimed my daughter as his.. we werent even together for our 1st annerversary for i had put up with his crap to long...

I raised 3 boys alone.. long road ahead for you. Love your baby and don't be afraid to ask for help if ya get overwhelmed.

Best to you

im scared about being a single parent the dad said hed be in the babys ife but i dont belive him he has 3 kids this is his 4th (1st is with x gf other 2 are with his wife that passed now me) and he has ditched me before in going to doc apt and when i was bleeding and at the hospital

this baby right now means everything to me my famliy made me chosse between them and my child i chose my child

Remember, to make time for yourself.....having others around you to give you a break on a regular bases for overnights, works wonders! You will be fine, they grow up leave and then come back again, LOL!!!!

What kind of advice do you want?

This is what I have to give off the top of my head...

Have your family be involved...especially if boy, have male relatives be around. If no family involvement, sign child up for local organizations... rec center, big brothers big sisters etc.

If you are going to date, don't bring the person around until you are sure they will be a constant in your life. Children become attached and when things don't work out, it affects them.

Love yourself and your child. And know that you can do it on your own. It is tough, but you can.

Don't talk bad about the baby's father, but tell your child the truth.

Always put your kid first

i dont have anything to say bad about him he is a good guy and would never do that to my child my mom did that to me bout my dad and i have my uncle and cuzions and my dad around for it only ones who wont be apart is my mom and grandma

he's a good guy AND he ditched you while you were bleeding from the pregnancy?

i guess we have different ideas about what constitutes 'good folk'.

i'd make sure his name was on the birth certificate and then i'd ensure he pays child support towards raising the baby, whether he chooses to help in the upbringing or not.

what had happen was he desided not to answer his phone he answer when he wants then he found out i was in the hospital the he becamed worred before i found out i was pregnate he was a good guy guess he got scared when he found out i dont know he never told me this week is the longest he has talked to me in 2 and a half months ony found out in june i was pregnat got pregnat in april

You are becoming a mom & dad !You will make it through. Yes,Always put you child first.As if anyone had to tell you that!
But don't forget you are important too.It is so easy to put your all into raising your child.That we forget ourself.
Good luck! to you.

if you want to talk just email me

i'm a single mom to three kids and it took a lot of mistakes, but i finally realized that regardless of what anyone thinks, i made a beautiful wonderful little girl and that fact alone makes my body sacred and special. And when I don't feel like I'm worth much, I remember that and don't allow ANYONE to treat me with anything less than awe and total respect. It might be a lonely road with this attitude, but I'm happy with my kids and I am peace with myself. That is much better than waking up with a hangover in some strange guy's (or the wrong guy's) bed, just to keep from being alone.

I agree. You can do it!

But I also believe that the child support issue is important and agree it should be approached. Even if someone is scared, or angry, or whatever emotion, excuse, reason, etc. is keeping them away, regardless, they have the responsibility to help with the support of the child. I find it to be important. JMO.

I'm a single mom of 2. I wish you all the best!!!

If I could go back and do anything different it would be to calm the hell down and enjoy more of the moments..


<-----------That is one my babies.. 25 years old. Time goes by do fast, next thing ya know..all grown up.

All ive got to say is, im a single father of two. My boys mom lives down south of where i live and right now, my parents are taking care of them cuz i cant be there. Their mom sees them every now and then. But she left after she had our youngest, she decided that she didnt want the responsibility of one kid let alone TWO. You gotta have your family around no matter what because, to tell you the truth, thats all you will have in this world is your family! You dont have to have a significant other to get by, do it on your own to prove it to yourself that you can do it. I had to........

Nice you have that option...I left mine and payed daycare so I could work.

Perhaps you could consider the following options if you find it to hard.

1) Abortion
2) Adoption
3) Foster Care

AS I said there are a multitude of support people out there for single mothers, who dont use protection and risk HIV.

Or you could have the baby and be a mother and get on with it, without needing help as most mothers do.

well im in the marines, and i get sent all over the place, im not home as often as i would like to be, im just glad that my kids are takin care of.