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All ive got to say is, im a single father of two. My boys mom lives down south of where i live and right now, my parents are taking care of them cuz i cant be there. Their mom sees them every now and then. But she left after she had our youngest, she decided that she didnt want the responsibility of one kid let alone TWO. You gotta have your family around no matter what because, to tell you the truth, thats all you will have in this world is your family! You dont have to have a significant other to get by, do it on your own to prove it to yourself that you can do it. I had to........ Nice you have that option...I left mine and payed daycare so I could work. well im in the marines, and i get sent all over the place, im not home as often as i would like to be, im just glad that my kids are takin care of. yea, good your parents are there...good for you, good for your kids.  |
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Unprotected sex is not good, sorry to see you are another statistic though but condoms and the pill could have prevented that from happening. Sad so many people have kids when they are kids themselves but will they listen. NO WOW...  She is much more than "another statistic"... maybe you were an unplanned baby. I was even though my parents were married. 
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Two sides to every story people, I would love to hear the man's side, before I wrap someone up in cotton wool and go there there.
Takes two to tango so I am always told, so before we get to ahead of ourselves let's consider that she could have tried to trap the guy in order to get a free ride in life, and also worth considering how many guys bring up kids on there own. So lets not be quick to rush around with sympathy and cups of coffee and open cheque books, best think before you leap. Bet the woman in USA who had 6 kids is reaping the rewards for healthcare and television add's and advertising, me been around to long to feel sorry for people who had options but chose not to use them. |
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Perhaps you could consider the following options if you find it to hard. 1) Abortion 2) Adoption 3) Foster Care AS I said there are a multitude of support people out there for single mothers, who dont use protection and risk HIV. Or you could have the baby and be a mother and get on with it, without needing help as most mothers do. She said that she was keeping the baby. Also, it's August and it's due in January. That makes choice #1 not even a consideration. What does this mean? "without needing help as most mothers do". |
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Two sides to every story people, I would love to hear the man's side, before I wrap someone up in cotton wool and go there there. Takes two to tango so I am always told, so before we get to ahead of ourselves let's consider that she could have tried to trap the guy in order to get a free ride in life, and also worth considering how many guys bring up kids on there own. So lets not be quick to rush around with sympathy and cups of coffee and open cheque books, best think before you leap. Bet the woman in USA who had 6 kids is reaping the rewards for healthcare and television add's and advertising, me been around to long to feel sorry for people who had options but chose not to use them. It's called compassion....ya know wishing the best for someone instead of pointing fingers and judging..... and the woman with the 18 kids, she is paying her dues with a vengeance by the mere fact that there are 18 fricking kids.. 
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Most mothers get on with it, and dont ask for help as they get on with it as most mothers do.
If she chooses to keep it then she is confident in her ability to provide clothes, shelter, and child costs free from asking the state to provide any help. If not she is choosing to burden those people who work with her costs, when those people paying those costs may want a kid but cannot afford it, and as such it's cruel to ask taxpayers to foot the bill for her unborn baby. Life is full of choices, she made her choice and good on her providing she can afford it. |
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Two sides to every story people, I would love to hear the man's side, before I wrap someone up in cotton wool and go there there. Takes two to tango so I am always told, so before we get to ahead of ourselves let's consider that she could have tried to trap the guy in order to get a free ride in life, and also worth considering how many guys bring up kids on there own. So lets not be quick to rush around with sympathy and cups of coffee and open cheque books, best think before you leap. Bet the woman in USA who had 6 kids is reaping the rewards for healthcare and television add's and advertising, me been around to long to feel sorry for people who had options but chose not to use them. What does this have to do with the OP? She's a first time mom asking for advise from other moms. |
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Perhaps you could consider the following options if you find it to hard. 1) Abortion 2) Adoption 3) Foster Care AS I said there are a multitude of support people out there for single mothers, who dont use protection and risk HIV. Or you could have the baby and be a mother and get on with it, without needing help as most mothers do. She said that she was keeping the baby. Also, it's August and it's due in January. That makes choice #1 not even a consideration. What does this mean? "without needing help as most mothers do". I wasn't gonna go there Winx but......some just don't appreciate what a single parent goes through and sacrifices madefor the well being of their children. Oh my |
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"It's called compassion", Yes buy guys have to work and make do without your "It's called compassion" thats called an uneven playing field sorry.
Equality is having choices in life, fairness even, however when a woman decides to pick a guy up in a bar, and conceives and then hides that for months then declares she is having a baby, the guy has no choice. However, the woman has choices in abundance, so compassion is indeed a two way street, but women always call the guy a dead beat, or waster. |
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"It's called compassion", Yes buy guys have to work and make do without your "It's called compassion" thats called an uneven playing field sorry. Equality is having choices in life, fairness even, however when a woman decides to pick a guy up in a bar, and conceives and then hides that for months then declares she is having a baby, the guy has no choice. However, the woman has choices in abundance, so compassion is indeed a two way street, but women always call the guy a dead beat, or waster. Compassion is not a two way street, ya either have it for all or have it for none.. This is not a girls against the boys thread...Like Winx said, the op is wanting advise from other single moms.. not those that want to point out the error of her ways, I'm quite sure she is very aware of her choices and consequences. |
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As is every taxpayer
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Edited by
Winx
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Mon 08/24/09 12:01 PM
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"It's called compassion", Yes buy guys have to work and make do without your "It's called compassion" thats called an uneven playing field sorry. Equality is having choices in life, fairness even, however when a woman decides to pick a guy up in a bar, and conceives and then hides that for months then declares she is having a baby, the guy has no choice. However, the woman has choices in abundance, so compassion is indeed a two way street, but women always call the guy a dead beat, or waster. The man has a choice the minute that he chooses to not wear a condom. And...that's not even 100%. It takes two to make a baby. And...this is not even about the topic. This is about a pregnant woman asking for advise from other moms. |
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As is every taxpayer Your in Scotland...  Peace brother |
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I agree WINX, Yep so lets assume the guy dosent wear a condom.
What choices dprd the woman have before she gives taxpayes another unfair burden. I can think of a few. She shouldnt have sex would be first, if she does she knows as well as he the risks. Secondly if he on finding out she was not on the pill as she said what can he do (nothing) What are her choices on not having a baby. As I said it's not about this girl, but about the people who always say I need help and am scared, no no no it's about choices and lifestyle's. Not Taxpayers problem but they have no choice either, did I say no choice again yes because when you look at it only the woman has the ultimate choice. Sorry |
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I will leave this subject alone, in the UK we have massive amounts of career women, and they get every benefit known to mankind.
Fed up hearing about it all the time, just wish people would think and make the right choice, and stop wi the sympathy carry on. Sorry folks if I offended anyone. |
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im soon gonna be a single mom in january was woundering if i could get sum advice from other single parents if you want to talk just email me |
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im soon gonna be a single mom in january was woundering if i could get sum advice from other single parents if you want to talk just email me I don't have filter on mine, you can email me if you'd like.
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im soon gonna be a single mom in january was woundering if i could get sum advice from other single parents if you want to talk just email me u have filters 25 and older im 20 |
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Edited by
Ladylid2012
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Fri 08/28/09 05:27 PM
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im soon gonna be a single mom in january was woundering if i could get sum advice from other single parents if you want to talk just email me u have filters 25 and older im 20 I'll change it.. done and done |
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It will be hard and lonely sometime.But every time you have these feelings look in and talk too your baby.Promise it will help.The baby won't undestand but they are listening chin up lil mamma.Good luck
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