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Topic: Touchy
MirrorMirror Joined Fri 10/26/07 Posts: 89680	Wed 08/12/09 11:30 AM
It is not within my power to fire him. He is a psychology student on a learning/intern rotation. I simply forwarded him mails to my boss and told my boss I was done trying to help him. As well, I said that at the moment I'm not willing to communicate with him at all. Here is his last one: No one was accusing you of accusing me. I meant only what I said. I apologize if you took my email in any way other than its intent as this was a message about impression management, and not accusations. This was SO passive aggressive, and was a reply to my apologizing if he took umbrage with my mail. I wouldn't have even done that, but his reply was very, very defensive. And my original mail clearly said just for reference, informational only. I mean, if he wants help with his training.... he's no longer getting it from me.

prisoner Joined Tue 01/06/09 Posts: 5129	Wed 08/12/09 11:31 AM
And someday this guy will be helping people with mental health issues. I stand by my theory,most people in the mental health field are nuttier than the patients. be seeing you

gayfifer Joined Sat 04/04/09 Posts: 6655	Wed 08/12/09 11:32 AM
And someday this guy will be helping people with mental health issues. I stand by my theory,most people in the mental health field are nuttier than the patients. be seeing you i agree

Snuffulluffuguss Joined Thu 06/04/09 Posts: 1041	Wed 08/12/09 11:32 AM
I'm quasi-retired, I don't really get much feedback.

lilith401 Joined Wed 10/31/07 Posts: 19593	Wed 08/12/09 11:33 AM Edited by lilith401 on Wed 08/12/09 11:34 AM
He is a PhD student, that's the scary part. That impression management comment made me laugh. Dude must not know I share all communications with my boss, and this student guy clearly saw they were all cc'd to him too. I mean, he took home court property!!!!!! He acts as if I'm vague. Or that I've not told him things five times before. Arrrrggghhhhh!

prisoner Joined Tue 01/06/09 Posts: 5129	Wed 08/12/09 11:34 AM
And someday this guy will be helping people with mental health issues. I stand by my theory,most people in the mental health field are nuttier than the patients. be seeing you i agree Edward. be seeing you

tanyaann Joined Mon 12/03/07 Posts: 32220	Wed 08/12/09 11:35 AM
He is a PhD student, that's the scary part. That impression management comment made me laugh. Dude must not know I share all communications with my boss, and this student guy clearly saw they were all cc'd to him too. I mean, he took home court property!!!!!! He acts as if I'm vague. Or that I've not told him things five times before. Arrrrggghhhhh! Not everyone is meant to work in the field, maybe someone should tell him to stay in academia! Where he can have an assistant follow-up after him. And he might not even know that you cc'ed your boss. Some people just don't pay attention.

JustAGuy2112 Joined Sun 12/16/07 Posts: 18033	Wed 08/12/09 11:37 AM
How do you like getting feedback at work? Are you the sensitive type? How do you give feedback? The same way I give it anywhere else. Honestly. When I am given feedback at work, it's normally in a good way. Respectfully. My boss knows that I am quick to pick up on things that need to be done and that I am pretty good at finding small ways to be more efficient. He also looks to me to help determine where product should go. I totally enjoy my job. :-)

lilith401 Joined Wed 10/31/07 Posts: 19593	Wed 08/12/09 12:19 PM
Dude is trying to be all nice to me now. Like I'm an idiot. I can't wait for him to ask me for help now. I'm just going to say "No". Then return to what I was doing, which lately here tends to be fixing his mistakes.

tanyaann Joined Mon 12/03/07 Posts: 32220	Wed 08/12/09 12:21 PM
Dude is trying to be all nice to me now. Like I'm an idiot. I can't wait for him to ask me for help now. I'm just going to say "No". Then return to what I was doing, which lately here tends to be fixing his mistakes. Breathe, hun! And know that he will only be there temporarily! And some other will fill the place!

lilith401 Joined Wed 10/31/07 Posts: 19593	Wed 08/12/09 12:22 PM
That's true. He was just in here, I ignored him....

tanyaann Joined Mon 12/03/07 Posts: 32220	Wed 08/12/09 12:24 PM
That's true. He was just in here, I ignored him.... It doesn't matter if its an intern or someone else.. do you really expect someone to be as 'perfect' as you are!

earthytaurus76 Joined Wed 04/08/09 Posts: 6603	Wed 08/12/09 12:27 PM Edited by earthytaurus76 on Wed 08/12/09 12:30 PM
It doesnt make much of a difference, because it rarely penetrates anyway. I always know what to expect.

lilith401 Joined Wed 10/31/07 Posts: 19593	Wed 08/12/09 12:28 PM
That's true. He was just in here, I ignored him.... It doesn't matter if its an intern or someone else.. do you really expect someone to be as 'perfect' as you are! Awww, thanks. I actually just expected him to listen and not argue with me. I'm trying to help him. Or rather, I was. There was a day he actually argued with me they were folders, not charts. No kidding.... argued. I had to ask him to leave.

tanyaann Joined Mon 12/03/07 Posts: 32220	Wed 08/12/09 12:31 PM
That's true. He was just in here, I ignored him.... It doesn't matter if its an intern or someone else.. do you really expect someone to be as 'perfect' as you are! Awww, thanks. I actually just expected him to listen and not argue with me. I'm trying to help him. Or rather, I was. There was a day he actually argued with me they were folders, not charts. No kidding.... argued. I had to ask him to leave. Sounds like you need to have a meeting with your supervisor, who needs to contact the college/university.

lilith401 Joined Wed 10/31/07 Posts: 19593	Wed 08/12/09 12:35 PM
Yeah, I agree. It's so sad. I still love what I do!! He is just going to be like a gnat now. My boss tends to just sweep stuff under the rug, he dislikes confrontation. I'm guessing that will change when this guy starts going to him for all the things I used to assist him with.

prisoner Joined Tue 01/06/09 Posts: 5129	Wed 08/12/09 12:36 PM
Lil,I think you need to pop a Klonopin. Can you swipe one from the med cabinet? be seeing you

tanyaann Joined Mon 12/03/07 Posts: 32220	Wed 08/12/09 12:37 PM
Yeah, I agree. It's so sad. I still love what I do!! He is just going to be like a gnat now. My boss tends to just sweep stuff under the rug, he dislikes confrontation. I'm guessing that will change when this guy starts going to him for all the things I used to assist him with. Best boss are generally the ones that don't care, unless their @ss in in trouble. Yep, he'll get tired of the intern going to him for stuff or having to fix stuff!

lilith401 Joined Wed 10/31/07 Posts: 19593	Wed 08/12/09 12:41 PM
Lil,I think you need to pop a Klonopin. Can you swipe one from the med cabinet? be seeing you Benzos are not at all helpful with stress management. They are like band-aids on pimples.

tanyaann Joined Mon 12/03/07 Posts: 32220	Wed 08/12/09 12:41 PM
My playground has been vaporized! Oh d@rn!