Right on, I can respect that!

So, peacepuppy, did you get anything out of this? I saw some other really good support for you around the ex too.

Right on

LOL... check out this post under love and relationships: "hello girls this is your lucky day." It totally reiterates what I said before about first impressions!

Wimps perhaps...

But men...

Reckon not... I will be your equal. I will not be your thing.

Nor will I make you mine.

If a woman feels she must LOVE to enjoy... She will lie herself into believing love is present to justify the errant pleasure.

and men do it also.

I create the emotional part, even with a stranger. I have had some of the hottest sex with women who just wanted to use me. There was a woman who used to manage the storage units down in Orem off Center street and she was a great friend of mine for years.

When I separated from my first wife, she came up to me and told me she would watch me out of the office window at the storage units because at the time I had a small woodshop setup in one of the units I rented there for woodworking. She also (very boldly and very directly) she thought I was hot as hell and wanted me for years but know I was married.

I asked her out on a date and gave her an evening of romance and one of the most steamy encounters I have ever had occurred two days later (it took her two days to do that thing women do in their head to figure it all out before they can do it with you). The relationship lasted for almost a month -- until her ex-husband found out -- then would not leave either of us alone.

Yes, even just physical can be fun. Romaance is part of the colored feather thing, and it can be for a few nights or last a lifetime in a long term relationship. I never failed to take my wife to dinner, romance her, then love her as hard and as much as she liked.

Men have an incredible capacity for creating romance and love at the drop of a hat. It's built into our DNA -- to ensure successful reproduction.

Haven;t you ever heard. "You were so charming and handsome when I met you .. what happened .. we got married .. and you are a completely different person. "

No ... same person, the women just was seeing things through rose colored classes -- why, because its built into her DNA to ensure successful reproduction -- its those colorful feathers again and that sleazy little male bird trying to fertilize those females again ....

Yes, that's my point. Why bother romancing a woman: taking her to dinner, convincing her that it's love, smoothe talking... What is the point of all that if it's true that women love sex as much as men. Men are DRIVEN by it in many ways. It doesn't drive women the same which is why the romance becomes so necessary.

I am not hunting sex.

that is small game.

I hunt a partner...

That hunt requires a keener eye the the one on my sex brain.

Sex is for reproduction. Romance is the human form of a courtship dance -- to allow th female to determine if the males DNA is suitable for copying -- she can reject him.

Romance is not the end and all of love, its a fantasy world of endorphins, pheromones, and chemicals produced by our bodies and our brains to trick us into mating and making DNA copies. It can be VERY enjoyable, and your body rewards you for doing it by makinit emotionally and physically pleasant.

You need to see it for what it is. Sex IS romance. They are not separate things, but the same thing, and Romance is SEX. Simple fact of biology.

It can be fun, hot, and enjoyable, but you don't have to traverse a mine field created by bible-belt thumping mind control and brainwashing that someone the "spiritual" element is more important than screwing each others brains out.

Sex and romance exists in our DNA at a fundamental level to ensure reproduction. It does not matter if you know a person 5 minutes or 5 years, you still have the ability to create the same quality encounter.

Romanace IS ILLUSION, just like the bird with the feathers. We are equipped with them to lure the female into mating and it FEELS SO GOOD in all ways.

Just go for it. Life is too short -- be happy.

I think it's wonderful that you're at that point in your life... seeking a partner. And I notice that you don't attempt to attract that through half nakes pictures and captions like... "hey girls, it's your lucky day." You're totally right and I wish you much success!

I did have some half naked pictures up. Once in a while I put them back in...

thanks you also on the luck.

I respect your point of view because I know that it is that of a man's. Just as I could not possibly predict what is in a man's head, I could never expect a man to understand the emotional needs of a woman. However, you did post your profile for an honest (I think) commentary and I assumed that you wanted it from a woman's perspective. I and others have suggested that you choose a different approach with the picture. You have the choice of listening to our suggestions (from a woman's point of view) or ignoring them. I have to say that sex and romance are not the same FOR women. A man who comes off too sexually from the start is a turn off. I ignore emails from men that say only "mwa mwa baby" or "hey teacher"... kinda creepy. I agree that too many women today mistake lust for love, but doesn't it all come out in the end? Love for a woman means accepting her man unconditionally. Love for a man means taking care of his woman. Neither of those can be accomplished by meaningless, unemotional sex.

If you are young, what you say is true.

When you are approaching 50, and have children and grandchildren (I have daughters who are older than you are) you are not so fixated on securing a mate to take care of you.

At your age and from your perspective, you are right -- you are looking for a workhorse to care for you and your children.

Older people like me and the rocket scientist libra have paid our dues to our children and done our part to spread DNA copies all over the place -- we get to have fun now.

For folks in our age group, sex and romance are now FUN and no longer HARD WORD involved in rearing children and all that you refer to.

I agree with you but I am not looking for an inexperienced person to be with, but a mature women who know what she wants.

You know what you don't want, but I do not think you know what you want. People in my age and women my age know what they want, as well as what they do not want -- and we are not selecting a mate for qualities of long term endurance under YOUR LASH.

When I translate what you are saying it reads CONTROL CONTROL CONTROL. I am not a 29 year old man anymore. I want a partner as free and unfettered as I am, and women in thisd age group have little risk of pregnancy. If I wanted to make more babies, I know full well how to lure in a 29 year old with smoochipoo romance talk.

I want a mature women who just wants to have fun with me ...

Got it?

I agree...
sex is easy to find.. that is not what I'm looking for either. I'm seeking a spiritual partner, a friend, lover, companion, someone to grow old with. That is a whole different part of the brain and heart working..

Right on then. You know what you're here for and it IS "just a good time." So keep the pic because that's what it says. By "taking care of his woman," I did not mean just financially. Yes, I'm at the age where I would be looking for a "family man." Someone to marry eventually. It's not about control, it's about honesty. I do know what I want and age does not always equal wisdom. I wish you luck in you adventures.

And have fun with the person they get old with -- since at our age we deserve too. :-)

They must have long arms.

The OP asked that his profile be rated. IMHO it is a good profile. You get a feel for his way of thinking and some of his cultural values.

I am not a big fan of revealing photos but for the life of me I can't see what anyone would get all worked up about. This is a head and shoulders only shot that is tasteful and flattering. Certainly plays up one of his assets, good hair.

I think he could improve the profile with a more forward faceing photo smileing probably with some flattering color shirt. Conservative is generally better for and introduction which a profile is suppose to be.

However if he is having "adjustment" problems with his Ex I think I would save a portrait shot to send in later emails once someone has expressed interest.

I would not suggest including a picture of his son as with visitations it is too easy for someone to connect him and then the child if that were the goal and unfortuneately there are preditors in the world. Were my grands living in my area I would not included them in my profile and did so with the express permission of both parents. To antagonize and ex who is already jerking him around on visitation is fool hardy.

I really don't get all the hostility. What is so wrong that a mature man has said that he wants a sexual relationship with a female that also wants a sexual relationship versus a female that wants to develope and emotional bond first or in conjunction with sexual activity. While my preference has been, and is, for the latter I assure you that you do not speak for all women, of all ages, in your view that women are not sometimes purely attracted on a sexual level and that sex is inherently only and emotional need.

It is perfectly fine that you disagree with me on the emotional aspect of sex for women. I'm kinda tired of talking about it anyway. There is nothing wrong with his wanting a sexual relationship as long as he is clear that is what he's here for. It just took awhile to get to that point. "Rate my profile" really should include intent. I mistakenly assumed he was looking for more when I read his original post, in which case, a more conservative picture would be more effective. However, now that we've gotten to the bottom of intent, the pic is entirely appropriate. That's all, no one's worked up, we're good. I totally agree with the kid's in the pic statement too. Can never be too careful.

If I get involved with someone as a friend, sex or not, and I like them then I can and may pursue more with them, but that's my choice, and its totally dependent on the person and where it goes.

If someone wants a hot guy to curl up in bed with and snuggle on a cold winter night and have as a companion then that's fine too. I am not here to "take care of someone" forever. I am financially independent and I would hope whomever I meet is too or at least mature enough to make this a non-issue in a relationship. I am not looking for someone who wants a co-dependent male unless I meet someone I am willing to do that with again, and it takes time to decide that.

I've done that for almost 30 years with two women, and I am not going to do that again unless I want to. Right now I am looking for a friend, and anything goes and is possible in that context, fun, friendship, hot steamy sex, intense romance, but whoever it is needs to be independent and able to stand on her own two feet. I am not a charity giving out handouts.