so...

what happened was...

mum talked to the boyfriend about new rules regarding his visits to see his girlfriend. restricted access to the house excluding the bedrooms, and only when she (my sister) is at home. (no they haven't broken up).

oldest sister talked to other sister. this escalated into a huge fight in which latter sister accused family of not caring about her and taking my side. she said her boyfriend just wanted to take an innocent non-sexual picture/video of me sleeping.

as for me, now that there are rules in place about his visits, i'm satisfied that i have my privacy back and do not feel going to the police would be necessary (or very fruitful, considering there's no evidence). i'm sorry if this displeases some of you who think i'm being stupid for settling for anything less than dismemberment or capital punishment, but that's how i chose to leave it for now, especially considering the camera was off when i found it. going on my knowledge and experience (5 years) i think it's little bit alarmist to assume he's going to suddenly go against character and physically harm me. i think he's gotten the message, from myself and my family, to stay away from me.

thanks for the support

i'm now ready to put this issue behind me.

As long as you are happy and comfortable with the outcome, should he step over the line again you know what to do. There are a lot of things I could say in regards to this ( but will refrain) seeing you have reached a compromise.I will offer to send my sister round ( she lives in St Michael) and she takes no prisoners. Stay well Jas, we all love and care about you.

thanks a lot bonny. you're too sweet.

you take care as well.

It doesnt matter what anyone else thinks, as long as you are happy with the result, Jas. I would say though, dont let him get away with anything else, he got off lightly this time.

I think you handled it correctly

he is still allowed in the house? WOW! you better check the bathroom out really good before pulling your pants down to pinch one off

and she's okay with that?

that's kinda creepy

hope its all over now. but I would still be on my toes

agreed

OH MY GOD JASMINE.. JUST OH MY GOD!!


unassuming ever? ack!

I think its been resolved now

Jazz,
The resolution you and your family worked out doesn't surprise me. I can't say I am truely satisfied that he is not banned from the house but with everyone aware of his activities I hope you and your other family members are safe. I don't feel like you are from the repetative nature of these violations but my opinion doesn't count.
Sounds like your Mom believes you and at least one sister which I would be grateful for. It would be unfair to tear the family apart over this creep. Unfortuneately many times women are consider accomplicaces in this kind of situation which seems so unfair but I am sure your sister is still somewhat in shock and denial. Hopeful she will figure him out and kick this creep to the curb.
There is nothing innocent in what he was trying to do. Now that he knows you told on him and he somewhat got away with this dispicable behavior it is likely he will feel emboldend so I would be very cautious around him. Definitely put a lock on your door and keep it locked when you are in or out of it. Don't let your guard down after a little time goes by. These guys spend years cultivateing situations where they can peep on people. Age has very little to do with it either; a beautiful younger sister, a mother, or a young neice or nephew.
I apologize if wanting to rip his jewels off frightens you. I think it is just frusteration that creeps like this so often get little or no true punishment for this creepy behavior. They feel safe and women always have to look over their shoulder.
Hopefully it is a lesson to all young women to be aware.
You strike me as smart and sweet and I hope this doesn't rock your world too much. Keep you in my prayers.

Yeesh. Sounds to me like the sister is the most naive of all.

" Innocent non sexual " picture??

Without permission.

Sheesh

Yeah, like what if Jasmine had been changing clothes or something?

Jas.

I only have one more thing to say about this.

Make absolutely sure you do a very thorough inspection of your room.

Cameras can be VERY small and easily concealed.

There is really nothing to say that the one you found is the only one he has in your room, or anywhere else in the house.

What is sad is this creep has accomplished what he really wanted which was to establish he has power over these women and can see/do what he wants without any real punishment.

It would seem that for some reason he wants to humiliate the older sister. His actions clearly do that. Why she tolerates it is a mystery to me but maybe he contributes something that she is not willing to give up even if she only holds it superficially.

Can only hope that this creep crosses the wrong person elsewhere and someone gives him the punishment he deserves.

It may have been extremely bad judgment on his part

Whatever works for you, I'm just glad they're not my family. No offense.