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^^ understood. It would be nice to find someone to support and be supported emotionally through some of those hard times...
OP: think of it this way... if you find one who cares about you while your current situation is "down" - how great it will be when it swings back "up"...!! |
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I am with someone who is in financial difficulty, and owns a major business.. We had a hard time last week because he was afraid to call and cancel because he didnt have the money for the trip to come see me. He didnt call me for 3 days til i finally after much prodding got him to email me back.. i told him i understood, and that im suffering as well, and he says its tougher on him cos hes the guy, and he wants to do so much for me. You seem like such a sweetie. After reading this, I got to say... there is a serious communication problem here. Huge, like pulsating pustle problem. |
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I am with someone who is in financial difficulty, and owns a major business.. We had a hard time last week because he was afraid to call and cancel because he didnt have the money for the trip to come see me. He didnt call me for 3 days til i finally after much prodding got him to email me back.. i told him i understood, and that im suffering as well, and he says its tougher on him cos hes the guy, and he wants to do so much for me. You seem like such a sweetie. After reading this, I got to say... there is a serious communication problem here. Huge, like pulsating pustle problem. nah, i handle my business.. thanks for the compliments, but he didnt know how i would take it, and was scared, hes had lots of women who were materialistic, and didnt realise i was so understanding.. OH YES that WAS a major issue, but I made it a priority to let him know i care, and am there, and he felt alot better for it, and he said he wouldnt do that again. We communicated about the issue, and he came a couple nights later the almost 2 hours to see me, even though he had to work 6 am the next morning, and stayed til 130 am with me, when he DID get the money,and he showed me how much he wanted to be with me, and apologised. he now understands Im a girl who loves him for him, and it has brought us closer. if we didnt have this occour, we wouldnt have the understanding that I am his cheerleader no matter what. |
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i find the competer type to be a turn off... to be full of themselves, id much rather have someone that wasnt worried about competition myself...
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If men aren't interesting in dating, they shouldn't be meeting anyone. Period. Get your shyt together, THEN date. The thought of going online to talk to women, to bolster their own self esteem and string someone along they have no real plan of having any sort of meaningful real interaction with? Liars. This is why women say men suck. Are there some materialistic women? Sure. But that goes for both genders. Calm down honey.....some of us are only here to socialize to relieve the lonelyness of waiting. Just cause I ain't gonna date any of these fine ladies here is no reason I can't enjoy the priviledge and pleasure of thier company. (not being combative when I say that) But, to state that "If men aren't interesting in dating, they shouldn't be meeting anyone. Period." may be a bit drastic. |
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Well Krupa, dude.... muffin... whatever.
My message was in response to the OP. My panties are still perfectly placed. Nothing is bunches or ruffled. It is obvious that my point was simply that if you enter into a situation under false pretenses, it ends badly. If a person is interested in friends and sex and no relationships, thats all well and good. But don't call a snake a teddybear. If a man is so traumatized and paralyzed by his financial situation... why is it so ridiculous to think it might be prudent to get himself together before he seeks out a peer? |
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If men aren't interesting in dating, they shouldn't be meeting anyone. Period. Get your shyt together, THEN date. The thought of going online to talk to women, to bolster their own self esteem and string someone along they have no real plan of having any sort of meaningful real interaction with? Liars. This is why women say men suck. Are there some materialistic women? Sure. But that goes for both genders. I'll weigh in, women do the same exact thing, in person as well. Thay'll say I don't know what I want then the next day they're meetin' some other dude... |
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Point taken. I see it all too frequently among the guys who I work with. Some idiot stringing along multiple women when they can't even afford to gas up thier car or worse yet, still live with mom and dad.
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They don't want to drag any woman into their current situation.
Please point these men out to me? I fer sure don't want to date someone who is "different" in their current situation then in a "better" one. To me, relationships are about equality. And when its my turn to have tough time, I want a man who will understand and stand by me. Isn't that love and acceptance? |
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I would agree that if you are on the internet to "imitate" a relationship but are doing so to keep people at a distance someone is probably going to get hurt. I can see where the situation may start as friends and "sneak up" that you have feelings. If that were the case and each person was honest to begin with then the acceptance is there. That still leaves the problem of "do I want to drag someone into this." I also agree that if that person is there in the low times then imagine the up swing.
I don't know if there is an ideal time to start a relationship. How often does everything line up....it doesn't have to be about money. If it is then something is amiss. JMO |
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I understand.
They don't want to drag any woman into their current situation. Please point these men out to me? I fer sure don't want to date someone who is "different" in their current situation then in a "better" one. To me, relationships are about equality. And when its my turn to have tough time, I want a man who will understand and stand by me. Isn't that love and acceptance? |
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I understand. They don't want to drag any woman into their current situation. Please point these men out to me? I fer sure don't want to date someone who is "different" in their current situation then in a "better" one. To me, relationships are about equality. And when its my turn to have tough time, I want a man who will understand and stand by me. Isn't that love and acceptance? ya,,,but will ya stand by me?  As they say,,,,"there lies the rub" 
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stand by you , next to you, behind you.......but you have to give me the address to your island, first.....
I understand. They don't want to drag any woman into their current situation. Please point these men out to me? I fer sure don't want to date someone who is "different" in their current situation then in a "better" one. To me, relationships are about equality. And when its my turn to have tough time, I want a man who will understand and stand by me. Isn't that love and acceptance? ya,,,but will ya stand by me? As they say,,,,"there lies the rub" |
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how hard can it be to find an ISLAND?!?!?!?!?
   ON TOPIC  see,,just another "excuse" to worship from afar 
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as long as everyone knows where everyone stands i think its fine, people should communicate, and do whatever they can thats meaningful.
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as long as everyone knows where everyone stands i think its fine, people should communicate, and do whatever they can thats meaningful. Great! I don't see why good friends in completely plutonic relationships can't hang out naked....would definitely make average chit chats more enthralling! |
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Da-mn Shes back! Kids sleeping..
I read every word everyone said. I give one person a chance because I am bold, I believe anyone can make a relationship if given the chance! And That is what i have done, I lay all my cards face up! I write all my expectations, all my dreams for the future, I put down all my living expenses to hide none! I tell my past story, I say my present situation! and i show my life can change with a new relationship, what I am willing to sacrifice to be in one. I listen to what there reply is, I listen to what there life problems are, I hear there story, and am shown the struggles that will be to come, I understand the faith of the out come. At that time both side of the deck is laid out on the table it is only two 2# jokers left that can Make or break the deal! There is also another card in the deck, it is the Rules and how to play the game, and if you don't follow the rules on this little card then one of us will have lost be fore we started. in a marriage, the rule is to not cheat, do not abuse and do not leave... in a relationship it can not be used for there is no rules just a act of faith, trust and respect. I stay alone after the day is gone. For No one will play there hand! in the Game of Love! too much of a risk taker I am... OOO and by the way. 7 yrs ago, the first man that came to my site on AM singles "Was the one I dated for 5 yrs"?... He had Parkinson's and crowns and I never rejected him but when i got cancer he rejected me.. now mine is gone, and he still has his.... I stayed he ran the end. |
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Da-mn Shes back! Kids sleeping.. I read every word everyone said. I give one person a chance because I am bold, I believe anyone can make a relationship if given the chance! And That is what i have done, I lay all my cards face up! I write all my expectations, all my dreams for the future, I put down all my living expenses to hide none! I tell my past story, I say my present situation! and i show my life can change with a new relationship, what I am willing to sacrifice to be in one. I listen to what there reply is, I listen to what there life problems are, I hear there story, and am shown the struggles that will be to come, I understand the faith of the out come. At that time both side of the deck is laid out on the table it is only two 2# jokers left that can Make or break the deal! There is also another card in the deck, it is the Rules and how to play the game, and if you don't follow the rules on this little card then one of us will have lost be fore we started. in a marriage, the rule is to not cheat, do not abuse and do not leave... in a relationship it can not be used for there is no rules just a act of faith, trust and respect. I stay alone after the day is gone. For No one will play there hand! in the Game of Love! too much of a risk taker I am... OOO and by the way. 7 yrs ago, the first man that came to my site on AM singles "Was the one I dated for 5 yrs"?... He had Parkinson's and crowns and I never rejected him but when i got cancer he rejected me.. now mine is gone, and he still has his.... I stayed he ran the end. I'm sorry he took from you and didn't give when it was his turn. |
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-Guys compete for women so many women assume that anyone who doesn't have a girlfriend, must have been loosing the competition, so they must be losers. Are you sure about that? Turn the tables and ask yourself the same question. If two women are competing for you and they do not have boyfriends, do you consider them losers? And I do not know about you, but if I was looking for a girlfriend, all I can say is that she better not have a boyfriend, husband, or manwhore on the side. |
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Are you sure about that? Turn the tables and ask yourself the same question. If two women are competing for you and they do not have boyfriends, do you consider them losers? And I do not know about you, but if I was looking for a girlfriend, all I can say is that she better not have a boyfriend, husband, or manwhore on the side. Love this reply!!! |
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