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With me, you get what you see... I have always treated others as I want to be treated but if someone doesn't like me that's their loss..LOL I am not a "yes" person, I have my own opinions and stand up for my rights when needed.. And if I am right I will fight to the end. LOL Some of my friends think I'm different but I just like living outside the box, as they say.. I do take risks and chances sometimes but where would you get in life if you didn't.. So far on this trip cross country I have met 4 new people and will meet up with a couple of others on the way back... I intend to live my life fully until I die...
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With me, you get what you see... I have always treated others as I want to be treated but if someone doesn't like me that's their loss..LOL I am not a "yes" person, I have my own opinions and stand up for my rights when needed.. And if I am right I will fight to the end. LOL Some of my friends think I'm different but I just like living outside the box, as they say.. I do take risks and chances sometimes but where would you get in life if you didn't.. So far on this trip cross country I have met 4 new people and will meet up with a couple of others on the way back... I intend to live my life fully until I die... |
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With me, you get what you see... I have always treated others as I want to be treated but if someone doesn't like me that's their loss..LOL I am not a "yes" person, I have my own opinions and stand up for my rights when needed.. And if I am right I will fight to the end. LOL Some of my friends think I'm different but I just like living outside the box, as they say.. I do take risks and chances sometimes but where would you get in life if you didn't.. So far on this trip cross country I have met 4 new people and will meet up with a couple of others on the way back... I intend to live my life fully until I die... Morning Terry 
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I scare people...but it's cool, I have a few friends for some reason or another...I have quite a few more, but I had to force them under my stoop...now they don't have a choice but to join me for dinner whenever I want them too... Ummmmhhhhh............... Nice.   I'm guessing you won't join me for dinner? Shame, I lose more and more dinner guests that way... |
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I scare people...but it's cool, I have a few friends for some reason or another...I have quite a few more, but I had to force them under my stoop...now they don't have a choice but to join me for dinner whenever I want them too... Ummmmhhhhh............... Nice. I'm guessing you won't join me for dinner? Shame, I lose more and more dinner guests that way... Fear, are you joining Sully and I for dinner next Sat? |
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I scare people...but it's cool, I have a few friends for some reason or another...I have quite a few more, but I had to force them under my stoop...now they don't have a choice but to join me for dinner whenever I want them too... Ummmmhhhhh............... Nice. I'm guessing you won't join me for dinner? Shame, I lose more and more dinner guests that way... Fear, are you joining Sully and I for dinner next Sat? Nope, work has me next Saturday...and probably any other day that something cool might happen. My own personal Murphy's Law. 
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Anyone who is too nice is compensating for a personality flaw or they are way too fearful of rejection.
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Anyone who is too nice is compensating for a personality flaw or they are way too fearful of rejection. ...Or they could actually be that nice, just a thought there but I highly doubt every single one of them is compensating for a personality flaw or are afraid of rejection. Just a bit of level ground, not that I care...I eat them... |
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You can be nice and have a backbone; but being direct does mean that you are not always nice.
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Anyone who is too nice is compensating for a personality flaw or they are way too fearful of rejection. ...Or they could actually be that nice, just a thought there but I highly doubt every single one of them is compensating for a personality flaw or are afraid of rejection. Just a bit of level ground, not that I care...I eat them... In my experience these people are usually very insecure. That makes them very gullible, and when they have gone along with everything for a while something just gives. There is an almighty explosion, they lash out to everyone, and all of a sudden they are back to being gullible. Till the next time that is. 
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Hey, whatever, if ya gotta fake it til ya make it, so be it.
Get in where you fit in. Dont eat broccoli before bedtime. If it walks like a duck... I dont freaking know. I dont care. |
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Why does being overly nice mean that you are a push over or a "yes-man"?
I try to be overly nice in my day to day life. It doesn't mean that I don't have my own opinions or that I am spineless. I just find that being nice is a really good way to get what I want. Maybe I learned this from my job where I have to motivate people to do things that they don't want to do. I can use logic all day long, but more often it is an appeal to personality that works best. When it comes to discussions or debates, I can disagree with someone while still attempting to see their point and trying to understand how they came to their conclusions. I just don't see any problem with having a "public persona" and a private face. |
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OK, here we go,.. theres no "too nice" there are ********, and there are nice people. Anyone who would judge you ill for being "too nice".. is an *******.
Healthy people grasp the concept, that you shouldnt extend yourself to someone who doesnt deserve it, or who will take you for granted. So.. if your in a situation where someone calls you too nice, they did you a favor, now you know they are an *******. |
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"Too nice" is when a person is a doormat and never stands up for him/herself.
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I am generally nice, I will disagree if I disagree... I have had some debated here that ended with new friendships. I think it's always just best to be as real as possible, even in line.
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"Too nice" is when a person is a doormat and never stands up for him/herself. I agree. |
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How'd you know?  Because you let me become a member without charging me. 
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How'd you know? Because you let me become a member without charging me. You better give me your credit card details asap, I'm sure I just overlooked you because I thought you were............ ummmmmmmmmhhhhhhh............. NICE 
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Edited by
Dragoness
on
Wed 08/05/09 09:24 AM
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Now, none of us come here to make enemies, quite the contrary I would think. But would you want to be liked by everyone? Not only online, but in real life too? I never claim to be nice, because I’m not. I’m opinionated, I have an attitude and I have a sometimes wicked sense of humour. So I’m not everyone’s cup of tea to begin with. And, to be honest, I don’t want to be, because there are people that would just put me off, that’s me, and that’s the way it is. Of course, I do have my times when I’m sorta moody, or when I get angry for that matter. Then I log off and wait until I have my cool back, no biggy. Of course, we are all different. I see quite a lot like me, then there are the ones picking an argument whenever they can, and there are the ‘sucker uppers’. Now, these are a totally different kettle of fish. They agree with everything anyone might say, and if they have to take a different position 3 times in the same thread, they will do so. It seems they want to be liked by everyone, no matter how high the price, they just want to belong. And when they think someone looked the wrong way at them, they hide their profile and sulk, but never for long, after a few minutes they are back and post some place else. Quite a moody lot it seems. I was thinking about that, and wondered if I ever wanted to be like that. And I decided, no way. I’d rather be me, have a few friends and no need to pretend to be something I’m not, and that is NICE. I was wondering whether it is just insecurity that makes people wanting to be nice. Also, how do others perceive these ‘jay – sayers’? Would others want to date them? I mean, people are not like that by nature, and sometime something just has to give. Is it not some kind of deception when all is said and done? How would you like to be seen? Being you, even if it means to step on toes every now and then? Or as one of the ‘yes’ people? So, how far would you go to be liked, and how high a price are you prepared to pay for it? Being "nice" has stopped being a concern for me since I observed what "nice" really consists of ie shallow frivolity. It seems to consist of two facedness. Examples: Tell your friend that she looks great in the trendy balloon dress that looks like crap is considered nice. You would do her more of a favor if you let her know that the dress doesn't do a thing for her and she would look better in something else. Encouraging another woman to be promiscuous and then tell everyone what a slut she is when she isn't around is considered nice. Women in bars do this to each other all the time. Letting people step on your toes and telling everyone else they do it but not the stepper is considered nice. Etc..... Being real and honest should be of more concern than being nice. Consideration and respect of others can be done without being two faced or "nice" and still allow you to keep your integrity. |
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How'd you know? Because you let me become a member without charging me. You better give me your credit card details asap, I'm sure I just overlooked you because I thought you were............ ummmmmmmmmhhhhhhh............. NICE Sorry Sir, I no longer use my credit card for the purposes it was intended.............It makes a rather nice scraper for getting ice off my windscreen.  I still maintain you are nice.
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