Aww thats Sweet. I offer a Chin Job some lasik and full Citezenship.
Wtf?
Lol

anyone going through a bad divorce or otherwise having everything taken
away from them however it's being/been done, let them have all the
material things just don't let them take your happiness, freedom, pride
or dignity

I guess its really hard to understand the whole situation. Like I said
before, I tried to focus on my children or something good. Just don't
let it get to the point to where you are so much into "hating" him and
trying to get even with him. In return...you will only hurt yourself.
Divorces can be very messy thats where its nice to have a best friend
that lives really close. Instead of staying home all the time, so out
and do something with your best friend...don't dwell on trying to "hate"
him.
Honestly, I try not to "hate" anyone....oh sometimes its very hard!!
Dwelling on things can drive you crazy!! Good luck

i have given him all of the material things. I am not interested in the
material things. I am looking for tranquility. I guess it is difficult
for people to understand and sympathize. I am a calm person and I don't
need anger management!!!

A Rebound relationship. While I don't recomeded for everybody, it
worked for me.

Maybe I don't understand what people mean by 'anger management.' It
sounds to me like something which can benefit calm people, as well. It
sounds like something which could benefit anyone who is not comfortable
with their own anger. No one is suggesting you have trouble
controlling yourself - but at this moment you are having -some- kind of
difficulty with your own emotions, no?

QUEENS I THINK AT SOME POINT OR OTHER..MOST OF THE TIME..EX'S HAVE THAT
EFFECT ON EACHOTHER..BREATHE!!
YOULL BE THE BETTER PERSON FOR FORGETTING ABT HIM AND WHATEVER IT IS
BOTHERING YOU.
I HOPE YOU DONT HAVE KIDS INVOLVED IN THIS WHAT SEEMS LIKE A VERY BAD
SITUATION!

HERE.. ...NOW COUNT TO 10...100...1000!
JUST CALM DOWN GURLFRIEND!

EXCERSISE.....................TAKE UP KICK BOXING !


I AM SERIOUS!



WORKS WONDERS ON THE SOUL , SO DOES YOGU, MEDITATION,
JOURNALING.........ETC.......

FEED YOUR SOUL WITH POSITIVE PHYSICAL AMD MENTAL EXCERSIZE.


THERE WILL ALWAYS BE SOME ANGER AND FRUSTRATION...


bUT THERE ARE GOOD OUTLETS TO TRY TO STAY MENTALLY HEALTHY IN THE MEAN
TIME.

My dear queens girl...
Just as I told you yeaterday over the phone, I am here for you, been
there and done that. It is Ok to feel that way and you got the right to
do so.
I love you and you know that I am here for you

besos amiga

my first suggestion is to only look for friends on here not a
relationship till u resolve this issue not fair to the other person...
second it takes time... so give that to yourself.... time does heal

go to a bar get tanked and beat up a stranger



that'll help some

Queens...

I'm sorry that you are having such a hard time of it. Your anger needs
to be VENTED, as far as I can tell. I'm in the middle of a divorce right
now myself, BUT, we gat along as well as can be expected. I would try to
figure out WHY you are so angry. What has lead to your divorce? I think
talking it out and getting out the house...going for a nice long walk,
just ESCAPE...would be my BEST advise to you. I fell so bad for you
right now. I hope this anger passes...soon.

Just go beat him & beat him & beat him!!!

IT WILL FEEL SO AWESOME!!!

Do you want him to still be able to control you???? Because as long as
he has control of your emotions...ie. anger and hatred...He has control
of you...I suspect since you are in the middle of a nasty divorce and he
is a controlling person that you feeding in to exactly what he
wants...What can you do????????

Don't give him the reaction he is looking for...Take back your emotions
and take back your ability to control them and talk, write, scream,
vent...whatever you need to do to get out your frustration...BUT realize
he is in control of you right now!!!!!!!!

WOW, you hit it right on the nose!!!! You are absolutely right!!!!
1000000%!!! Part of the reason why I demanded a divorce was because of
his manipulative ways. He, somehow, has had the ability to control me
and UNFORTUNATELY I HAVE ALLOWED IT TO HAPPEN!!! YES, you are right! I
AM TOTALLY ALLOWING THIS TO HAPPEN!!!!
How foolish of me!!!!

Native grl39,
Thanks for that boost. It was just what I needed. I have a 12 page final
due tomorrow and I couldn't CONCENTRATE.
I am packing up my things right now, going for a walk with my ipod
blasting with my favorite music, Coming back home and finishing my work
TODAY!!!!!! TO ****ing DAY!!!!
Man, thanks for the kick in the ass...THAT WAS A GOOD ONE!!!!

See now doesn't that feel much better????...Don't give him the
satisfaction anymore g/f!!!!!!!!!


Good Luck to YOU!!!!!!!!!!

NYCgirl, I would be in worst shape if it werent for you!
MUAHHHHHHHHH!!!!!!!!!!!

Native grl39,
THANKS AGAIN...where did you learn how to kick like that? I actually
felt your foot up my ass!!!!

Queensgirl you dont need anger management at all.i had a manipulative
control freak i was divorcing and i dreamed of stabbing his ass.it made
me feel better when i had to smile as he dragged the divorce on and on
cause he wanted to win the divorce.who the f@#$k wins in a
divorce.Needless to say the divorce is over,he is alive and well and
sorry folks i still hate him even though i smile and try to get along
for my son's sake.the son he hasnt visited since Christmas..