do you actually start moving on? Been seperated a year, divorce is in the works and on the weekend's my soon to be ex has the kids I still feel lost.

Other than being a wife, mother, full time employee, I kind of lost myself and am not sure where to find her. Most people have hobbies. I have a sister who could make a quilt out of two pieces of grass (I swear). Not sure how to figure out what I like and I'm kind of stuck.

Any guidance from the Minglers out there.

Honestly, I had no idea what to do when I got divorced and found myself "on my own". I started trying things that I thought I might like but never tried before and even a few things I had never thought to try before. Some things were fun, some not so much. But you never know until you try!

I'm lucky to some extent because I had my lightbulb painting, sewing and direct sales stuff to kind of help me some. But I was still lost and not completely enjoying those projects as I once did. But I'm coming around.

Just happens as time goes by... everyday you find yourself more and more.
Probably a good idea to get with some friends, go out.. laugh. Go to funny movies..comedy clubs. Just don't beat yourself up.

Good Luck, feel good.

I wish I could answer this. I moved away from my family and friends and it made everything worse. I tried for 2 1/2 years and just couldn't do it.
I had no hobby, didn't want one, I did absolutely nothing.

I came back this weekend and everything seems to "fit" into place.

As far as hobbies... you just have to look into things and find something you truly enjoy. You don't even have to be good at it, you just have to like it. Eventually you will find you niche.
You just have to get out there when you're ready. No one can tell you when it's a good time.
Just remember that everyday you put it off, is another day in your life gone.

When to move on, the next day. I never forget past love but I never dwell on them, it hurts, you wanna die sometimes but you move on and for me it's right away. Doesn't mean I look for another love the next day but i do close the last chapter.

You know yourself and if you can't find how to live the after relation then nobody here will be able to help. Don't try to find things to make you forget just live what makes you smile and happy whatever that is.

It takes time honey. Finding a hobby or activity you enjoy does help. I have found great comfort in my music. You will find yourself. Take care......

All you can do is put one foot in front of the other!And try to not go backwards.Good Luck to you sweety.Try to find yourself,And you will soon not feel so lost.

Thank god for my women friends!

They rallied around me!!

Amen to that! I wouldn't be here today without them.

Chrissy u still need time lass lots o time

It's funny but the month before he left my two best friends moved. Most of my other female friends have families and no free time. I did take up exercising and I actually enjoy it but I feel a little like Forest Gump. You know, run forest run.

i know hun but u'll get there, u wont even realise it at 1st

Take up golf u WILL get your frustrations out on that little white ball!!!

Mikey, I had a blast cutting branches this weekend. I've decided to buy a chainsaw. I do love power tools.

get a sawzaw cuts in hard to reach places

Guess I was lucky when my ex and I separated we had horses I took mine and my son's and we were involved in different things with the horses. So our lives was pretty full at that time and actually did not have time to think about my life being empty. Heck I was so busy life seem to go by in a blur at that time.

It's a hard place to be Chrissy, I just realized I have been out of the house 2 yrs, this past wk-end.
Seems like I just moved in, other times, seems like forever.
I still have the same roles, just played out differently

Parent, economic support, driver to appointments,
home owner.
Apt. renter.

I've done a lot of things alone, things I enjoy doing.
Spent a lot of time here on Mingle.

Chrissy, I don't know where you live, or what's available in your area....so some suggestions may not fit you...


Bellydancing!!! It's a hoot, and fun, and you get to feel all female, and sexy....even when you look at the other women learning, and they all look like a gazelle, and you feel like an epileptic giraffe!

It's such a laugh, and the other women are having as much fun...friendships may bloom..


Poledancing....same thing, it develops fitness, you get to feel sexy, it's fun, and hilarious!


Burlesque....as above.

Salsa, anything that helps you feel sexy, and totally female.


Pottery....learn how to throw a pot, (and not the saucepan variety out of frustration).....create....tap into the inner artist.

Painting lessons...

Yoga....or some naturopathy course...

Horse riding lessons...


Indoor wall climbing, that can grow into absailing...


The best part of the ending of the journey you just took...(marriage)...is that now there are no boundaries, as to what you want to do!!!

You get to be anything you want to be!!!!

...D@mn! I need to try that!