My wife and I have recently decided to spererate. We were high school sweethearts. I want to try and date but I am an introverted person. I find it hard to talk to people let alone talk to women I might be interested in. Does anyone have any adivice for me?

Give yourself some time, I would think get divorced first...
But hello and welcome

See how you go with this. You dont have to talk, you just have to type. It might be perfect for you. Maybe you will have soe luck.

Yeah im a bit shy too, but through typing and the phone, its a lot easier to let personality shine. :)

No smart arse Brit comments???

Who are you and what have you done with Dan???

I agree finish the divorce, I for one will not date men that are seperated. Too much unfinished business going on.....its a difficult time period.

Maybe this is a glimpse of the real Dan!





Every arsehole has to take a break once in a while!

Nope. I'm not buying it.

You've been kidnapped by aliens and replaced with a clone.

First things first....get the divorce ( if that's what it's gonna come to ) because dating someone while there is still uncertainty isn't fair to anyone you might date. You can't give yourself to them while thinking there is a possibility of reconciliation.

Second, I know how you feel. I can say just about anything that comes to mind when dealing with women here, but in a real life situation, if I am interested, I just clam up.

It's something that you are going to have to learn to deal with.

Good luck to you.

I will make you even more suspicious.





My apologies OP for this hijack. I wish you all the best.

It's GOTTA be that Pink Lady is there making you behave or something....lmao

I agree he should take time to finalise his current situation, so maybe this online stuff is a good way to get back into the scene later own the line. If he is willing to take it slow, build soe friendships, it might help give hi soe confidence(FKN M BUTTON STOPS WORKING..pardon me, sorry) ahem! and as you know it can be a long old process online anyway.

Ok. the M button mini rant showed that you are actually still Dan....lmao

It takes practice. Start with people you are not at all interested in: the old lady in line behind you at the grocery store, the mom with two kids at the bus stop, the cashier at the hardware store. Then move on to women that are attractive but are complete strangers.

DON'T try to pick them up. Just engage them in some trivial conversation. "Wow, who thought there would be so many choices for crayons?" Whatever. It will quickly become a habit and it will feel natural to talk to people. You can go out of your way to cross paths with a woman in a store, as long as you can keep it from being obvious. (that woman never knew I wasn't REALLY looking for crayons for my daughter)

I do this all the time and I love people's reactions. All women love to have attention, (marred, single, old, young, with kids, fat, ugly, beautiful, etc.) even if you just ask them which toilet bowl cleaner works best. And they WILL talk to you, as long as you're not being creepy. Keep the conversation completely inocuous. I constantly mess with kids when they're acting up in stores. "Hey kid, did the circus come to town, or are you just out of control?" Kids freak out a little, but they stop what they're doing and their mom's love it because they don't have to yell and make a scene.

You will stop being shy when you start to enjoy talking to people, women included.

Lewis gave some pretty good advice. I've been thinking about posting something to help all the shy men around here. But, I'm sure the women would say I'm full of **** if I did.

Well...it wouldn't be the first time they thought you were full of s**t.

You should be used to it by now....lmao