He is a black and white thinker. All or nothing. So to him
his experiences are the truth. He can't take others experiences
and apply them to his life.

There are shades of gray in all areas of life. He needs a good
mentor to help him see these shades of gray and not just yes or
no or all the negative.

definitely

You are so right on about this. I was going ot post my own opinion but, I don't need to now.

My first husband had the same ideas. He said a man & woman couldn't be friends because they wanted more from each other also. He constantly accused me of wanting to cheat on him & always brought up my past, which was my past, but I've never cheated ever & that includes in the past. And I will never cheat ever. Even while being physically & mentally abused by him, I never had the desire to cheat. I had the desire to get out of that relationship after 2 1/2 years though. Not every one cheats. I don't think I've ever been cheated on. I'm in a new relationship now with a guy I met on here, you all wish us the best of luck!! And same to you! This is my first post!

I wish you all the love in the world. You deserve it!!


Tammy

cheating..................................

i never understood the concept. if one is tired of the person, move on. if they are cheating, they have generally MORE than just one, and that is bountiful, so in that case, they should move on, for they have more than enough sex if that's the case. also, this means that this is all that matters to them is sex!!! not love!!!.......rather shallow. these people should always remain single.....FOREVER!!!!

what's the point in dragging someone with a good heart down?

but they do...............everytime, it seems...pitiful! once a cheater, always a selfish sociopath with no concience, or care for others....get a thrill to kill a heart? ......so lame, no excuse...sorry...

it also blends into their personality and effects the rest of their actions as well....the selfishness, and controlling aspects.......

and puts an aire of distrust, blanketing the rest of the entire society, via, all the distrust threads i see.

also, with these people, they will cheat if they think they can get away with it...........EVERY CHANCE THEY CAN GET!!! i've watched this first hand.......it was pure evil. this guy was cheating with two girls at once on a friend of mine,(a threesome in his office) i saw it, and yes, i told her, (why should i give two sh|ts about him and what he thinks! and i told him so) because she was my friend, and because of the disease aspect. she also supported him and his gambling habits. go figure....


they are divorced, and she goes out with girls only now.

Totally agree

this is true with so many i meet. and age seems to matter not....they just can't see past it, it seems. my mother is the same way.

funny, Starwars, the way of the sith.....they are all siths!

I have never cheated, and never will!

There are some who are cheaters out of habit or a sense of entitlement, the divorce rate is very high and usually there is a third person involved....
however to say ALL are cheaters is a bit ignorant.

Maybe his perspective is screwed up because the majority of people he hangs out with are his kind.

I think most non-cheating people tend to eventually see someone who cheats as poor friend material. They figure if they will betray their family why would they exhibit any better character in a friendship.

Since sooner or later cheaters put their friends, coworkers, neighbors in the position of having to cover for them. Most people resent being manipulated that way.

You seem like a nice person and it is obvious that this is causeing strife in your realationship so it is likely you will get tired of the friendship soon. So one less non-cheater in his life.

I think your friend is wrong.

I always treated my ex's like Queens and I got treated like a whore...lol. So, hopefully it's not the case with the next one.

The only good thing about having a cheating ex is when it comes back around to you and they suddenly get this feeling like they screwed up and want to apologize to you and want closure on the relationship. That's when I tell them politely to F off. And I thoroughly enjoy it.

you still sound a little bitter..

I cheat on papersmile once in awhile

when she isnt looking I move the pieces

otherwise she ALWAYS wins

Not bitter. After a month of licking my wounds I moved on. And this was a few ears ago to. I was just giving you the uber short version of what happened. Im not going to sit here and bore people out of their mind about my past relationships

And we appreciate that.

I've never cheated, so no, I don't agree with your friend. Sounds like he's trying to justify his actions.

I never cheated, and always been faithful.

Thank you!