Does online dating really work? I am a firm believer in getting to know someone before dating them and it seems this online dating is... I dont know the word for it but im thinking of like "Rushy", maybe hasty? Does it work for anyone like this? And also answer me this, are you single? Care to chat? Lol =P jk

actually i find that normal dating is a lot more "rushy" than this would be. with online dating you take your time to get to know someone over a period of time before the relationship progresses physically.

I've had no luck

It depends. I would say being able to communicate well and able to express yourself is a big plus. It's actually harder to express ourselves, do to being limited to words. Real life dating has the advantage of reading each others' body language while getting to know each other. Here, we are impaired and only got our words and smileys.

If you are able to get your word through to raise attention, then you get a big chance. At the worst outcome, most people improve their grammar and also their social skills and starts to learn more about others, even if they never find a date online.

I was rushy with my girlfriend, that it took me 6 months to even talk to her and another year of talking to her on a friendly level before deciding to meet up.

Rushy should be a word, i like it.

slow down big boy

I should put this on copy and paste, since I keep recycling it: Online dating works depending on who you are and what you're looking for.

I'm looking for friends and victims of my obsession, so yeah it works for me.

It's what you make of it I think. I have had a few women come on to me like drunken prom dates on here and the rest ignor me. So sometimes its fast and other times its slow, but always an odd pace for sure.

I thought the women of mingle mysteriously went missing, having only guys replying, until Calleigh just showed up!

that's ok. don't mind me. i'm just your friendly neighborhood invisible person...

or formed into flightless birds and stuck their head into the sand.

MINGLE = 13 girls and like 98475095 guys

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Like most things, it depends on what you bring to the table. Showing up to a dating site expecting that your genius and wit will be instantly recognized and responded to will work about the same as it works in a bar.

Offer something of yourself, something that is substantial and meaningful and you will be rewarded. Fish with an empty hook and you go hungry.

and 90 percent of the dudes are in S&D right now posting how they wouldnt grab the a$s of the person above them

Hey, that works for me!

Wow great feedback thank you, this is my first day of experimenting with the forums, and I kinda dig it. Especially the ostrich =)

Jboy, I can see what you mean. In my experience, even recently, I've talked with many women on phone chat services and through this site. Both ways seem to be a bit hasty as you stated. I know it's unusual, but even at my age I've never really had experience in the dating world, and haven't really socialized with women much. It does seem that if I meet a woman at a club, store, at work or some other place in person that it takes so much longer to really get to know them...which I guess is normal considering their schedule, family life, etc. outside of where they met me. But if I meet her on a chat or dating service, typically we talk just about everyday and get to know way more about each other in about a week than I ever have when meeting a woman in person. It feels rather strange why it's not the other way around.