So in the past 4 weeks or so I have obtained numbers a few numbers from about 3 or 4 girls. The first one, seemed to be playing games with me or something, she didn't remember who I was 3 days later.

I moved on, cause you can't wait forever on a girl. The second girl I was texting for a while. I asked her is she wanted to go for dinner and she said maybe. I told her I would call her later in the day. I did and she didn't answer. Then a few mins later she text me. The convo led to no where. I pretty much gave up cause she wouldn't make actual plans.

So I moved on. The third girl gave me her number. We texted and I asked if she want to get dinner sometime. Then ask her when the best time for her is, she stalls. Then asked her when she work and she claims to work 7 days a week. Its possible, but not probable. I pretty much have given up and am moving on.

Am I doing something wrong? What the hell should I do differently?

I might have something to do with the way you are asking these young women who don't know you all that well for that first date.

If all you have done is talk or text it is not likely that a vague invitation to go eat a meal feels really safe. Most women do not want to include alcohol in a first date with a stranger even if food is involved.

I don't know how other younger women feel but setting across the table in a yet un-named eating establish that I might or might not like is not my first choice for a date. How are you going to talk with food in your mouth? FOr women it always puts them in a difficult position to know what to order without overwhelming the gentleman's budget. Getting stuck with the bill; sadley is not rare nowdays.

The solution I would suggest is at least being a little more specific when inviteing a lady for a date. Place, time, and date are at least a minimum. It might be less than spontaneous but it shows genuine interest to ask for a date at least three days in advance and then call the day before to confirm.

If she is a single parent at least five days to find a sitter is definitely going to help your odds at an acceptance.

If you get a "stall" when you offer a specific invitation you have two choices; say "Sorry that is not going to work out" or "Sorry if you would like another day I can call you in a week or you can call me when you have a day free and we can see if we can do it later." This way you are not grilling her about her calendar but you have at shot at finding a compatiable date.

I might have something to do with the way you are asking these young women who don't know you all that well for that first date.

If all you have done is talk or text it is not likely that a vague invitation to go eat a meal feels really safe. Most women do not want to include alcohol in a first date with a stranger even if food is involved.

I don't know how other younger women feel but setting across the table in a yet un-named eating establish that I might or might not like is not my first choice for a date. How are you going to talk with food in your mouth? FOr women it always puts them in a difficult position to know what to order without overwhelming the gentleman's budget. Getting stuck with the bill; sadley is not rare nowdays.

The solution I would suggest is at least being a little more specific when inviteing a lady for a date. Place, time, and date are at least a minimum. It might be less than spontaneous but it shows genuine interest to ask for a date at least three days in advance and then call the day before to confirm.

If she is a single parent at least five days to find a sitter is definitely going to help your odds at an acceptance.

If you get a "stall" when you offer a specific invitation you have two choices; say "Sorry that is not going to work out" or "Sorry if you would like another day I can call you in a week or you can call me when you have a day free and we can see if we can do it later." This way you are not grilling her about her calendar but you have at shot at finding a compatiable date.

So in the past 4 weeks or so I have obtained numbers a few numbers from about 3 or 4 girls. The first one, seemed to be playing games with me or something, she didn't remember who I was 3 days later.

I moved on, cause you can't wait forever on a girl. The second girl I was texting for a while. I asked her is she wanted to go for dinner and she said maybe. I told her I would call her later in the day. I did and she didn't answer. Then a few mins later she text me. The convo led to no where. I pretty much gave up cause she wouldn't make actual plans.

So I moved on. The third girl gave me her number. We texted and I asked if she want to get dinner sometime. Then ask her when the best time for her is, she stalls. Then asked her when she work and she claims to work 7 days a week. Its possible, but not probable. I pretty much have given up and am moving on.

Am I doing something wrong? What the hell should I do differently?

Wow, you give up entirely too easily. Would probably do that differently.

Did you meet them online (I may have missed that part)? If so, one thing you should know is that women are pretty leery of men they meet online. If you are asking them out for dinner too soon (after, say, a couple of texts), that can be a little scary. You might consider investing more time over a few weeks with phone calls, e-mails, etc. then maybe a first date of coffee or something.

I had one guy, after talking to him via IM once and by phone once insist on getting together that night. And I mean, he was persistent. That says a couple of things (a) booty call wannabe; (b) he's desperate; or (c) he's a serial killer. Were any of those true? I have no way of knowing as I cut off all contact immediately because it was WAAAAAAAAAAY too much too soon.

It's a safety thing

Did you meet them online (I may have missed that part)? If so, one thing you should know is that women are pretty leery of men they meet online. If you are asking them out for dinner too soon (after, say, a couple of texts), that can be a little scary. You might consider investing more time over a few weeks with phone calls, e-mails, etc. then maybe a first date of coffee or something.

I had one guy, after talking to him via IM once and by phone once insist on getting together that night. And I mean, he was persistent. That says a couple of things (a) booty call wannabe; (b) he's desperate; or (c) he's a serial killer. Were any of those true? I have no way of knowing as I cut off all contact immediately because it was WAAAAAAAAAAY too much too soon.

It's a safety thing

Yes I did. But we texted for a week +, I suggested we meet somewhere public.

So in the past 4 weeks or so I have obtained numbers a few numbers from about 3 or 4 girls. The first one, seemed to be playing games with me or something, she didn't remember who I was 3 days later.

I moved on, cause you can't wait forever on a girl. The second girl I was texting for a while. I asked her is she wanted to go for dinner and she said maybe. I told her I would call her later in the day. I did and she didn't answer. Then a few mins later she text me. The convo led to no where. I pretty much gave up cause she wouldn't make actual plans.

So I moved on. The third girl gave me her number. We texted and I asked if she want to get dinner sometime. Then ask her when the best time for her is, she stalls. Then asked her when she work and she claims to work 7 days a week. Its possible, but not probable. I pretty much have given up and am moving on.

Am I doing something wrong? What the hell should I do differently?

So what I am suppose to do? Bugg them until they want to get a new number? I won't do that, I respect people. Plus like I have said, I am not going to lock my self to one girl who I don't even know.

Yes I did. But we texted for a week +, I suggested we meet somewhere public.

I agree with F&L, you gave up way too easily. These girls didn't say no, they were hesitant, there's a difference. If you persist, after they say no, that's stalkerish but before? No. You don't know them well at all, there could have been very good reasons they couldn't commit to anything right at that moment.

In my experience, being hesistant can be a sign of disinterest or lukewarm interest at best. If I was interested, but unavailable at the current moment. I would tell a man that I'm busy right now and I would also tell him when I would be available.

Yeah...and in my experience people usually don't say what they mean. Wish I knew people that were honest with their intentions, but half the time I have no clue. Hesitation is not disinterest or lukewarm interest, you don't know what they've been through in past relationships and they could be taking it slow...most of the time that has been my experience.