If online dating and liking someone you've never met is pathetic, then I must be one of the biggest losers in the world. I've met someone on this site, still have yet to meet her in person, and absolutely adore her. I'm going crazy waiting for the chance to meet her in person.

In essence, if you talk to somebody enough, have great conversations, get along fine, and really enjoy the time you spend with that person; whether it be online, phone, or whatever besides actually getting the pleasure of meeting face to face, then there's nothing at all wrong with crushing somebody online.

Your friend seems to have some sort of stigma against it as a lot of people do, is not very open minded to the idea, or is hypocritical. But what I'd wonder about is why she is trying to meet people online then having some sort of aversion to having a crush on someone or someone having a crush on her. Did you meet her on a dating site? Or somehow else?

If you actually didn't meet her on a dating site, then it might not be too odd for her, in her own mind, to think that having a crush on her was weird. But hell, lots of people have crushes on people they're never going to meet, such as a celebrity crush, just because a guy looks alright and plays a guitar. Other than that, they know nothing about the person.

So who's the shallow one here? Someone who looks for looks combined with a single known talent? Or someone who cares nothing about looks and falls for a person based on good conversation? In my humble, ranting, opinion, she showed some true colors by calling you a freak and you're probably better off without her.

Sorry for the rant. The end.

I don't think it's pathetic; I admit I've had online crushes. They never went anywhere, and now I wonder why I even bothered, but they were fun at the time. Having a crush on someone you've never met isn't weird or freaky, I think it's normal, if you interact with them enough.

There's a guy on here that I think is really amazing simply because of the things he posts, and at first I called it a crush, but it's not really, because it's not romantic; I don't want to date him, I just like chasing him through the forums. So maybe it's an admiration....at any rate, we're human, we get attached, for the good or the bad. The only way an online crush is bad is when it becomes dangerous or uncomfortable, like the online stalker I had years ago, but that's a different story for a different time....

The amazing guy you are talking about must be me, right?!

I think online dating is all an illusion anyway. Its more like online emailing. I have only met one person online that ever came to anything. Lasted 3 years. I will spare you the details, but it was great til the end.
Sometimes when we meet someone on line, we create an image in our mind of how we "want" it to be. As we email back and forth we continue to build on that illusion. We build great expectatons. And rarely do they turn out the way we expected. What a let down. At the time we say "thats it for me" or something to that nature. But soon, we pick ourselves up, dust off the seat of our pants, and try to start another illusion. I guess its just a case of if you cant stand the heat, get out of the kitchen. But I never do. So here I am, still trying to connect with a soul mate...Just creating another
"illusion"

I think online dating is all an illusion anyway. Its more like online emailing. I have only met one person online that ever came to anything. Lasted 3 years. I will spare you the details, but it was great til the end.
Sometimes when we meet someone on line, we create an image in our mind of how we "want" it to be. As we email back and forth we continue to build on that illusion. We build great expectatons. And rarely do they turn out the way we expected. What a let down. At the time we say "thats it for me" or something to that nature. But soon, we pick ourselves up, dust off the seat of our pants, and try to start another illusion. I guess its just a case of if you cant stand the heat, get out of the kitchen. But I never do. So here I am, still trying to connect with a soul mate...Just creating another
"illusion"

Definitely not pathetic. Nowhere near a loser. People just have their views on how close they become to others online. I'm sorry you encountered one friend that felt negative about your feelings online with her. But all will be well. You have plenty of friends here. Real 100%. It's the only place connecting people who live far away.

Thanks :)

This brings up another question in my mind though. Is it normal, or freak, or loser, to have a majority of your friends be online?

People more readily drop needless walls when conversing in writing.
Writing seems to make people more...introspective, and honest.
Also, if you're friends with someone who might have otherwise cut you off in mid-sentence, dominating first your conversation, then attempting to dominate YOU, conversing via email, IM, etc., WAS probably frustrating for her.
...and fighting those pesky honesty feelings all the time probably wasn't very comfortable for her, either.
She probably did you a favor.
Celebrate.

I prefer to dominate all things.

I am celebrating, with a few beers (being newly 21 lol) :)

It is easier to say what you mean in writing, but it has the double edge that it may not be what you are like in real life. You can be super confident, smart, and funny in writing, but just a dimwitted doofus who stumbles over his feet in real life.

Thats hardly the case normally, and I have to agree writing is a nice form of meeting people.

that's true, sometimes things can be taken the wrong way in writing, which is a drawback, but on the whole, i prefer writing things down over talking, because i can get my point across better.

happy late bday, you're legal now, woot!!!

i'm just sayin'