re·dun·dant (r-dndnt)
adj.
"1. Exceeding what is necessary or natural; superfluous.
2. Needlessly wordy or repetitive in expression: a student paper filled with redundant phrases.
3. Of or relating to linguistic redundancy."-on line dictionary

Remembering that there was a time when participation in a dating site just might mean meeting someone and going out with them, I decided to be pro-active in my own quest for companionship and try something old-
the telephone.
I signed up for a dating site using my cell and I am happy to report that my social life has come alive. I've met numerous people and I have actually gone out with one person- we didn't waist time gathering information about each other and just kind of trusted in the process,
and please to say, my social life is better for it.
I'm sure that alot of you have tried this, and I'm curious to know if your experience was the same as mine?

For every one success story about telephone dating...I can come up with a hundred more failure stories...about like online dating. Everything is a risk, don't jump and you don't gain, sit idly by and you will always be sitting.

I'm sure few of us have tried telephone dating, it is by far probably one of the worst ways to date. Matter of fact there was a serial killer that preyed on women by telephone dating...you don't get called a serial killer for killing one person.

Predators of everytype utilise all forms of communication to ply their trade, not just phone.

Those odds are a fair statement. For every one success there is about a hundred failures. These sites and other forms of "People Meet" utilities are just tools for people to use to meet others with similiar intrests and so forth.

Like any other tool you will succeed if you use it properly.


O.T. - My experiences have been both satisfactory and unsatisfactory.

Satisfactory because I have met intresting people and unsatisfactory because so far I haven't found anyone I am compatible with for one reason or another.

That's assuming that the tool has a "proper" way to be used, as erratic as the internet/phone/widget-didget is there is no "proper" use of the tool. This is not a tool, you either do it and enjoy it or you do it and hate it...either or there is no "proper" way to use it.

I hate talking on the phone, so that wouldn't work for me.

I resemble that remark.

OP i am with you ... many spend too much time chatting on the internet. Need to get out from behind the screen and expereince life.

I wouldn't phone date but i can talk a lot on the phone

On the phone? Really...

Well. Yeah.

Talking on the phone is SO much better than typing on a computer.

So much more " intimate ".

LOL

Not to mention, the added benefit of having your phone number given to random strangers.

Awesome idea.

hummmm, well you can tell a lot about a person in one live conversation.

Granted.

Tone of voice, reactions to things said, stuff like that can say a lot about a person.

However, I sometimes say things in a tone of voice that may be taken as angry, irritated, whatever, but the expression on my face tells the story that my voice tone isn't conveying.

Cynicism...it really is all in the face.

i do like texting though...

What is phone dating??

I think online is easier and "funner" than the phone but online there doesn't seem to be much commitment as far as, "Okay, let's go to the International Maggot Hanging and I'll pick you up at 7:00." Folks type up a blue streak but it doesn't seem to lead to much.(for me anyway).

Sounds like you could wear just about anything and be safe.

Some really fantastic answers, folks!
If comparing the two, I have to say that they each have their strengths
I like the spontaneity of phone interaction- I also get a more precise
feeling about a person's state of being from the timbre of their voice.
As for interacting on line, I would say that it is easier to communicate beyond the point- explanation, elaboration- both seem more comfortable on the keyboard.
The safety issue is valid, but way over emphasized. I think there are
dangers in every aspect of life, but to be honest, thats the way life is. I couldn't single out any one dating method as being more hazardous than the next, and anyway at the end of the day its myself I need to trust.
In the end, I feel that dating without spontaneity is cold and calculated. I feel that profiles are a pain in the ***, and never really tell you anything in the long run. I feel it is better to know what I want to know about you in the moment, before the answer I seek is composed by your ego.
It is all risk- so buck up!

You're right... It never "goes" anywhere. Actually, this is a wonderful place to do the friendster thingy, but to be honest, that aint what I signed up for...
Maggot Hanging... Is it that time of year again?
I want to go see the Bodies exhibit-

A tool it is.... (hey I've been called that)!
Imagine that, you still haven't found what you're looking for...
That is, after all, where this leads me- neither have I. I really have met some wonderful prospects here, and they have met me... But Ive not met most. The math is staggering...