What would you do in this situation?

My sister and her boyfriend of several years feel the need to be around each other literally every waking moment of the day. I personally don't understand it but I figure if they both don't mind it, more power to 'em.

The problem arises in the fact that my sister and I live together and their time spent together involves him practically living at the house. He is a very nice guy, don't get me wrong, but it seems he doesn't understand the concept of "boundaries". He makes a habit of coming into my room when he's bored and wants to chat or use my computer. He is here even when my sister is not, just to wait for her to come back home. I often wake up to him in my room, even laying next to me on my bed on a laptop. He also sleeps over in our dining room.
Of late, I've noticed myself becoming increasingly short tempered with him, and I know it's because he's just about driving me crazy with his omnipresence.

What I'm asking is, considering he is an otherwise great and thoughtful guy, and considering that I don't want to hurt his feelings, how do I regain some semblence of privacy in my own home?

Speak to your sister about it.

Invest in a bedroom door lock...or an Uzi...

Talk to your sister about it.or him but in a nice way.

I can't discuss this with my sister, we don't exactly get along (long story). I'd have to discuss it with the boyfriend, I was curious about a tactful way I could approach that.

Two words: GET OUT!!!

start charging him rent

I guess that could work huh.

simple, be honest - tell him you don't want him in your room.

I'd also pitch the idea of sharing expenses of home as he's there just as much as the 2 of you

If he if such a nice guy, he will understand when you tell him that he is not welcome in your room for ANY reason.

Sorry, I don't see a problem, Just tell him!!!

Edit.. Or
You can move in with me, then I will follow you from room to room.

just tell'em if he's truly a nice guy he'll understand

*sigh* hmm, ok. I guess it as simple as just telling him...


Thanks guys.

tell him to beat feet woman up

I was hoping you would take the *move in with me* option

Suck up...

That's a tempting offer, if only you weren't a zillion miles away! If I did it'd make my daily commute a wee bit torturous hon'

Honestly I was faced with a situation similar to this one only difference my room mate was only a friend not a sister.

At first everything was great just her and me lived there we took care of the apartment ect.. Never overstepped each other boundaries.

Then it happened she started dating this guy regular well one thing lead to another first he was there just a few times a week then it seem to increase to a few nights next thing I know he is there every night.

Don't get me wrong the guy was nice as well but did not offer to pitch in for rent, food ect... We only had one bathroom that was real small he would leave his stuff laying around and not offer to pick it up.

Well I had enough I actually sit them both down one night and said here is the deal since you both seem to be real tight I really feel that you two need your own space as I do myself. So I really feel that it is time that ya'll get a place of your own instead. This was at the first of the month and explained to them I expected that they would find a place by the end of the month.

I had actually had the apartment by myself and had only let her move in to help her out for she did not have a place to stay but worked at the same place that I did. I felt that they had invaded my privacy and it was time to take it back which I did.

It's all a matter of communication........

Must say that was the last room mate I ever had many many years ago.... I prefer going solo.

Thanks txsgal

< ----- Phule says: Humans make great pets ... but they are to damn hard to train.

hello my dear!

even though its your sister b/f and i woke to see him next to me in bed id kick right on to the floor or have a knife near by thats too creepy even for me!