Come on, have some fun! Do you know how many people complain about being in a relationship? (Almost everyone after the first year or two). You are attractive, smart, and with it, so enjoy all that you are.

Bull

You have the greatest smile!!!!

Beautiful in the morn!


Tammy

good! you have reached step 1.

I'm not alone,I pretty much have a date every night. And when I join a certain pay site I plan on meeting a lot more ladies for dates. be seeing you

it's called "weeding", and it takes time...........and careful consideration. there are compatible people, and then there are those miracles that come around every, well, twenty to thirty years. the one in a million, seems make especially for you.

i had a most incredible, smart, and wisdomic friend tell me once, (recently, i might add) that if one comes around, and you accidently miss it, they through fate, will somehow come around again, but you have to see it and make the desision, and the connection, or else they may fade into the past chances that you will have. i believe her! do your research of what you want on people, and be specific on what you want yourself, and the odds aren't as bad then.....

i am, you would think it would not be so damn hard, guess i'm destined to spend the rest of my life alone with my cat!

When I was younger, I bought into the hype that I would only be truly happy if I were with someone. As a result, I made some horrible choices when it came to the guys I dated. I married a man who was not a good match in the relationship sense, and it ended up hurting everyone involved when the inevitable occurred.

Now I am older and wiser. I know that I am complete as an individual, and when the right one comes along, he will enhance that feeling. Until that happens, I am content to remain alone. I would much rather be by myself than to be miserable with someone who isn't right for me.

I know that waiting is hard, and that sometimes it feels like it will never happen. Just don't let impatience turn into desperation, because the end results will be far worse than if you had taken your time and waited for someone great :)

I bet your cat would be hurt if he/she knew you said that

I stopped looking a while back

And caring ... why should i care?

If they don't care

If you getting bitter at 23 you are really going to be wrinkled by the time your my age... yes, bitterness causes wrinkles.

My favorite is "You'll find it when you stop looking." Guess what? That doesn't WORK! Oh no, now they'll have to find a different stone age cliche to haul around with them....

People from "Real Life" can't believe I'm single.

When I tell them that the ONLY on line people who are EVER interested in me are people I could not POSSIBLY get involved with (the ones who send e-mails complaining about my profile because I had the NERVE to explain what I want and what I DON'T want, and I am SO SO WRONG for doing that), they say things like "Well, those people obviously don't understand you."

Right, and Montana is bigger than a duck. Thank you.

I wish I could run into somebody who would say "I like you" without having to add "....but the most important thing is that I change you into the opposite of who you are."

once you stop looking and can live without someone, that is when they appear...yes, kind of sucks, but it's life.

Lex, I like you

Oh lex!

Come on over to new York and have a wild time!!!

Wait a minute, you forgot the last part....!

Oh, I wish I could....

Believe me, if I had half a chance, I'd go just about anywhere other than here....! Indianastan has turned out to be something of a disappointment....!

lol nope, that's it...I like you. You have a goat, and I love goats!

Not me

I'm waiting for that one person who is going to list The Ramones as their fav music. I think I will be waiting a very long time.

So... in case it's NOT blatantly obvious, I wasn't entirely sober last night. Had a pretty harsh night. The worst part was that I was in a bad mood before I even went out.

You'd think I would know better than to drink in that kind of mood.

Has anyone else here been out with friends and been the only single one? THAT was fun. Ugh.

ANYway, I digress. I read through the entire thread, and I want to thank each and every one of you for your advice and compliments. Usually I'm OK. For the most part I'm enjoying being single, for many reasons. But there are those nights... ya know?

I MUST reply to a few particular posts...

sillyatheart3, my mom found hers at 50. So you're still ahead.

misswright, your posts are always so great. They have made me smile more than a few times. I don't see you being alone forever, at all.



Intimidating? I find it honest, is all. It's annoying to me that SO many mens' profiles are so short and simple. To each their own, I guess. Though that's what you said, too, huh? College may be a good place to meet someone, but I'm still not entirely sure I can even go, because of financial aid crap. But, as I said before, usually I'm OK. We all have our weak moments, right?

Marree, I'm pretty sure ya gotta be Catholic to be a nun.

Sig, we all run the gauntlet of emotions, methinks.

Oh, Billy... you know how I feel about everything you said, and about you in particular.

mry, I have no idea what you mean...

Gos and 2kidsmom, pull up some chairs and join me girls! Hell, let's include everyone else too!



Thank-you Tazz. So, you agree that my profile is intimidating then? Should I change it to something baser? I don't know if I could even do that... I'm a novelist. Hell, even the poem I posted here is LONG!

Blackbull, thank you. That was a really sweet post.

ddn, I have thought I reached step one a few times, then found myself back to square one. Pfft. This whole being human thing is overrated, methinks.

Prisoner, I have a SNEAKING suspicion that in person you are a HOOT!



Who knows? I've often wondered if I'm too picky, but I never used to be and ended up in relationships that were NOT healthy for me. So I decided to start enforcing my "list". There have been more than a few chances to be with guys, but I have turned them down. I don't want to be alone, no, but there are prices that are too high to pay, and relationships that are FAR worse than being single.

Just gotta remind myself of that a lot, I guess.

trgirl, join our party girl! Your cat can join us too!

Ladywolf, those are major words of wisdom. Words I have tried to follow myself. Like I said, I need to NOT drink with non-single friends when I'm in a pissy mood to begin with.



WORD. My mother's second marriage was HORRIBLE. The man was evil. Seriously. And he was my stepfather from the time I was 3 till I was 14. I asked her once why she married him. She said it was because she was afraid of raising my big sister and I alone and that she felt sorry for him. NOT good reasons to marry someone. I swore when I got a divorce that I wouldn't do that. Ever. My children are far better off with me alone than growing up with an evil man in the house, and I am worth more than that, myself. That's another reason I decided to start being picky.

If we can't learn from our parent's mistakes, we are doomed to repeat them.

Plus the simple fact that if I did marry someone like my ex stepfather, my ex husband would murder him the moment he TOUCHED one of our children. I don't need that on my conscience either.

Romeo, someone cares. Problem is, she may not be anywhere near where you are.

Seriously, where the hell ARE those scientists and why haven't they created transporters yet?

Ladylind, I'm 32, but thank you. I needed that.



Sorry... the Montana Duck thing made me snort. See, that's EXACTLY how I feel when someone says I'm intimidating or tells me to "dumb down" (nobody here told me that -- friends irl have though). It's like, why? I can't be happy with someone who's not able to hold a conversation and can't get my quirks, and basing a relationship on such a HUGE lie is not a good way to be with someone AT ALL. I don't understand how anyone can have a relationship like that. Isn't who you're with supposed to be your best friend? And best friends don't hide themselves from each-other.

Still, Lex, you and I (and many here I have noticed), are unique in many ways to the majority of society. I know there's that whole "what is normal" BS, but you have to accept that there IS a norm. A standard of social and individual being that we just don't fit, and never have. This is a GOOD thing, to me. I enjoy being me. I just wish that finding another like me wasn't so freeking hard.

For you, Lex:

Buttah, I've been told that many times, but ya know what? I don't think I'll ever STOP looking. I'm in a place in my life now that I won't settle for just anyone, and most the time I don't even look for anyone when I'm out and about. (Hell, when I DO notice a man, my mind automatically goes to "yeah, I wonder how HE'S nuts".) But to say that it's not on my mind at least once a day is a lie, and I can't really see myself ever being able to not do that. It's like breathing. I hate to quote the Bible, (there's a reason I do NOT post in the religion forum here) but "man should not be alone", right? We're naturally prone to want to be with someone.

Even when we are in the right frame of mind to find the right one... we still WANT the right one.

Oh, and I love the Ramones!

WHEW! OK, so that took a long time. Worth it, though. Thank you all.