i was sure from the title, you were going to be a tranvestite

but your actually very cute

just to clarify, your not a man are you?

I want kids. Even wouldn't mind if the one comes with her own from previous relationships, but I'd also like to have my own at the same time. It's a difficult search for those too, because either she doesn't want anymore or doesn't have any now and just doesn't one any, period.

Seriously? Where are you running into women like that? Because I've been looking for her for ages....!

5 so far. I have to say they are all in a financial problem and just don't see of having any children in the near future or ..ever.
I loose interest in those, for one the reason of not wanting children and the other, because they are finance driven, not feeling or wanting to be with someone.

My great grandparents lived in poverty for 50 years and yet they had 13 children anyway.

just because a man is open minded doesn't mean he doesn't have opinions or preferences

You are very beautiful and if you were closer and a lot older, I would be throwing you a wink. Listen, your not the only one with these issues, I have them too. I have 2 girls ages 9 and 7 and their mom and I still get along because we have to for the kids. We do this for our kids and it makes things so much easier, but a bunch of ladies out there cant handle me talking to my ex on the phone regarding my kids, if she says something to me about something they did that was cute or funny and it makes me smile or laugh, I am accused of being in love with her still, it is crazy and madness, but I will not change or put my kids off for anyone.

If I thought you put out all of the time, I wouldn't want to date you or marry you cause that means your an easy catch and any Joe Blo could have you at anytime. At the same time, if you go into explaining that you haven't been with anyone for a very long time, then it looks like you are ready to be with someone right now, which will attract role players that act out something they are not.

There are lots of guys out there that can and will love and respect a woman and her kids, but they frown on a 19 year old cause your age group shouldn't be tied down with kids and they don't want to be tied down with you.
The bottom line is, its your age and having a child at your age that turns the guys away. It is not your looks and it is not that your doing anything wrong. You just hang on, be respectful to yourself and DO NOT ACT DESPERATE or you will attract pervs and players. Be strong, have faith, and don't give up. Your a winner.

Message me if you would like to talk, I am a volunteer with the state and church organizations and I mentor young kids that need help or are depressed in my free time, most of them are young girls with children. I will be an ear if you need someone to listen.

Good Luck...

Unless I've experienced having kids of my own, I don't think the responsibility of raising someone else's kids and trying to have a romantic relationship is a good idea, yet.

Every bloke is different,some would see it as barging in on another bloke's family,some might not want the responsibility that goes with having to help bring up children.

There will be others that are'nt bothered by it,it wont phaze them at all,or they may relish the challenge.

The right man will take you and any children you have,if he wants you,simple!

That's too bad that he's not involved in a more responsible matter. He's missing a lot, and so are the kids! You're not alone. I have 2 little kids and most of the women I meet run away when they find out that I am so committed to them (equal custody takes a lot of time, too), regardless of how old the woman is. And women under 30 tend to shy away completely as soon as they find out I am a single, involved dad, no matter how interested they were before that. I think being young is a large part of it - and you are young! I know when I was under 30 I wouldn't have wanted to get involved with a woman with kids. I just wasn't ready for that kind of responsibility.

I think any mature, responsible man wouldn't care about how involved the father was. The guy is interested in you and will take it for what it's worth. Hey, and I'd date you, if that's worth anything!

Wow! I can truly identify with that... It has made me broaden my horizons a bit, though. I used to only think about women who were within a couple years of my age... I've thrown that out the window.

I think a woman who has kids can be a good thing. They can obviously take care of themselves and are more responsible. I don't think men think women with kids are hoes just that they have more baggage, but sometimes or alot the opposite is true. Your pretty by the way mochadelasia

Mocha...sweetie (I just wuv you!)
You need an older man of means who's shootin' blanks, but still has some "starch" left!

Open minded men scares me.. because their definition of "open minded is way beyond liberal minded.... not same as ours women". I've emailed several men online who claimed to be (they are) open minded and I found out later that their definition is not what I expected to be. I will not go in details what they are and what they meant to them...but they are creepy and scary!

Very true, and very sad.

Most men in their fifties and lonely will think that a girl should think "open minded" means "open ended".

That's sick! I am ashamed to share my gender and my age bracket with myself.

Some people just don't want to deal with other peoples children..men and women..
so what, who cares. I don't blame them. There are men out there who don't have a problem with you having children..
I have kids, some men have a problem with that, some don't. The kids are here, can't send them back..it is what it is..
If a man loves you he will learn to accept your children because he knows they are important to you. In the mean time just be a good mommy.

no obviously if i could carry a child i would think that have to have a female anatomy

i have 13 brothers and sisters and think family is a very important thing in life and i didnt plan to become a parent when i did and i was not finacially stable at that point when my son was born but i pushed on and now am able to support both of my children and live comfortably... i definetly want more not yet i want to be married for a while and in a stable relationship

thanks