GO GET 'EM J MAN..

WE created these children.. WE bore them unto this crazy world.. and
THeir wellbeing is OUR responsibility!!

my girls come FIRST.. damn.. I've been single OVER FOUR years now cuz I
reFUSE the revolving door thang.. a year after my divorce I met a guy
and we spent 4 glorious years together.. I saw what his 'absence' after
did to my girls.. and decided THEN I'd NOT allow my girls to hurt like
that ever.. and have remained single ever since for THEM.. they are my
LIFE.. my pain in the arse's.. my angels.. everything I DO is for them
AND their future.. I just CAN'T imagine anyone NOT putting their
children first.. don't get me wrong..I'd LOVE to meet Mr. FOREVER.. just
my priorities are focused on my GIRLS lives rite now.. no matter HOW
hard is it doing this solo..

just my 1.92 cents worth

I agree, but there are a lot of ppl who think different. Once I talked
to a guy and decided he was not my type, I told him that and he made a
statement that I could not make that decision because of all my
baggage...wow he was refering to my children. Well, I told him off.
Right after my son's girlfriend had her baby he attempted to contact me
by email. I emailed him and said you donot want me...my baggage just had
baggage.
I have had several guys, two I was out on a date with, talk about
someone else they knew and make a statement how could she have found
anyone she is fat and has kids!?! Wow- that upset me! I know that guys
pass me by because I have three kids..I would never change that. My kids
are my best friends and I do not know how I would have made it in this
life without them. They are teenagers and I think they take care of me
now. They are so wise, sweet, and wonderful! I would give up any guy for
them, but they would not make me. I love hanging out with their
friends!!! Several of their friends are on my myspace and email me all
the time either to say hi or ask for advice. Seeing the world through
their eyes is beautiful.

I don't have a clue what this thread is about, but any person who would
choose a mate over their child has got to have a screw loose somewhere.

My children and their welfare, has always come first with me since the
day I brought them into the world. If you know someone who is abusing a
child, don't hesitate, turn to the authorties for help.
My house is said to have a revolving door for children, I only gave
birth to two of them, but am lucky enough to have many call me Mom. The
ones I didn't birth even come home from college to spend time here. So I
guess I did something right with raising my own, that their friends like
to call this home too.
Yes it was well worth it, some day I may meet someone who thinks Im
special. If not I always know that I am a special person because of all
the children I have been a friend, and subsitute mom to. Putting my
life, and desires on hold was well worth it. :)

to my beautiful
children i love them so!!!!

I know what you mean Snuggle, I only had one daughter, but she always
had at least one of her friends living with us, would bring kids home
who were living on the streets, had 4 extras living with us at one point
and they all called me mom. Then as they were older and had some of
them had kids their kids called me grandma. So I understand what you
mean, I could never turn my back on any kid. They always knew they had
a place to stay at my house, a warm bed and hot meal. My daughter is 32
now and they still talk about it at times. A nice memory.

I was raised being told that my father left when I was 2 because he just
didnt want me...20 yrs later I showed up on his doorstep after my marine
tour...then I learned the facts..
Whenever he came to visit me as a young child he was met by my
stepfather and his brothers, a gang of thugs who beat the crap out of
him...the letters he wrote to me over the years were kept hidden by my
mother ..I found them when I was 35...when I was 7 we moved to a housing
development and our neighbor just happened to be from the same small
town as my real father..so my father would come to visit him
occasionally and sit in his yard hoping to catch a glimpse of me..his
son....he didnt dare come over to me because of the violence of my
alcoholic stepfather..which would ultimately come down on my mother...
Children getting married too soon...having children...and allowing those
children to be used in a cruel power play...that was my lesson in all
that...

went thru years of justifiable anger at my mother...but ultimately
forgave her...

(((((DaVINCI))))) and (((((Marie)))))

You both are special people. Your intelligence, caring, sense of humor
are shown throughout the forums with your writings.

thanks snug

So sorry you went through that Davinci, that is horrible. Glad you
finally got to meet him.

Thanks Snuggle, Hugs back to you.

we did have 20 yrs to know each other before he died...and I also got to
meet 3 brothers & a sister who I didnt know...long, bizarre story...but
its ok...we aint perfect us humans...