The best way to fix all those radio signals is to turn them all off and get a cd player.

You have to find happiness within yourself before you can find it in anyone else.

J.M.O.

Update for whoever is interested. So I wound up spending the night with her last night, kinda forced into it. We didn't do anything but it was just for the simple fact that she is really screwing with my head. Because this morning after dropping me off, she went to go hang out with an ex who has told her he wants her back and even tried sleeping with her the day after we broke up. She keeps telling me that I'm the one then she'll go and do all the crap that I've pretty much been listing. (Not to mention his interference that sent me and her into the break, i.e. he called and texted her all the time. I also noticed that we would fight whenever he would make his presence known)

At the beginning of the break up she acted like we were still together, which gave me a little hope. Recently we started not getting along at all, and then go back to everything being ok starting to get whiplash.

And everyone keeps telling me I'm overthinking it, but I'm not. It's just hard not to think about when she shows up every day.

I either need a rebound girl or someone to tell her off for me because I've tried and it got me nowhere.

Sounds like you prefer being miserable over being alone...
and that can't be good. Alone time can be helpful

It's not that I'm miserable, it's just that I really like her and I don't like the fact that she's messing with my head. If I could have it my way, we wouldn't have broken up in the first place. Maybe not intentionally, but she's definitely doing it. Besides run away, I don't know what to do.

Ok

Don't run then

Stay and take it like a schmuk!!

We tried to tell ya

What more can we do?

Would someone who really liked you/loved you "mess with your head" like this? Love feels good;it doesn't hurt.

I don't think anyone would really understand where I'm coming from unless they take a look at my profile and get a better idea of who I am. The only actual advice I've been getting is run away, which is kinda unrealistic.

hand her a broom and say..."ride on outta here"

yeah, your right, realistic is staying with some mentally ill girl who has a boyfriend she lives with, or whatever.


Your a back up, accept it.


Nothing your doing is sane. Why even post? Sympathy?


yeah, people are telling you, walk, run, leave.


If you enjoy being crapped on, keep trying to deal with a psycho.

Good luck.

I read it. Okay. Fact remains that she maintains relationships that were abusive in her past. She is telling people awful things about you. She has a hard time letting go of people from her past. Yet, there you are, still allowing behaviors that are clearly troubling for you. Yes, most said run, which is nearly always the answer given on here. In this case, I'd agree. Don't you think you deserve better? Someone who will put you first and treat you well? You say in your profile that you want those things. Are you getting them??

okay ready?

brace yourself.

your ex girlfriend is a pyscho who can't live without a man but doesn't want you.

due to this fact, you've been chosen to keep her company when she can't handle being alone but when that fades she makes it clear how much she hates you.

ready?

LEAVE. RUN. GROW SOME AND MOVE ON.

you might love her but its time for you to learn to be happy with yourself alone and on your own. learn to love you. hang out with you. you take yourself on a date. you... buy yourself something nice.

and on the date that you seperate from her... 1 year later.. celebrate your freedom anniversary from EVERYONE but yourself.

then.. then maybe you can handle being in a relationship with someone else.

and watch for the warning signs.

if she might slightly seem nuts...

SHE'S NUTS!!!

okay i hope that helped you. shoot.. it helped me.

be strong.

EDIT!!! oh and by the way.. disavow any contact you may have with her and watch her go stalker. but you need to do this. walk away completely.

face it dude, she's using you and YOU ARE ALLOWING IT. so its no one elses fault but your own.

He just wants someone to co-sign his bs.. sorry, not gonna do it.

She wants cash, cha ching $$$

It wasn't for sympathy, I just needed more to get it off my chest. Kinda needed it put into perspective. Which it kind of has been. I just got kinda hooked on her.

shes taking you for a mug mate,kick her in the arse and get a real woman and not waste ya time on this girl,or you will end up as NUTTY as her.sorry mate just my opinion

Reading this thread it is pretty clear that not only the people you bring into your life are out of control but so is your life.

At 22 years old you really are not being a bad guy to refocus your life on yourself. You have a job? OK but what would be wrong with putting a little energy into finding a career? Being sporadically unemployed/broke ars busted is a drag on the self esteem for anyone.

You said you are not eating or sleeping. That is not a good thing. It is hard to think clearly when your brain is deprived. Since this sounds like Depression symptoms I would suggest going to the National Alliance for Mentally Ill and finding someone to help you to assess and maybe resolve what is a big mountain to climb on your own.

Lonliness is tough. If you don't want to be lonely and like sports I can't strogly enough recommend Special Olympics, Big Brother's/Big Sister's, YWCA/YMCA, or community parks and recreation programs. Being a volunteer or even applying for sliding scale assistance can make things a lot more afforable.

Last but not least you might want to consider if you really have the skills to help someone with the personality problems you are describing? People who are this volitile and verbally abusive need professional help. You might want to be powerful enough to generate that kind of passion but if you were not the victim I assure you she would be taking that anger out on someone else. You mention several times how much you care about her so why not try staying out of her pants before you either accidently get her pregnant or get her killed by any one of her lovers past or present in a jealouse rage. Or get her arrested in a domestic violence episode that I will bet good money to bad is in her immediate future. Is it possible playing bed bouncy is affecting her rest and nutrition and access to medication? Yes. Can you stop her from doing it with others? You have already confessed you can't. But you could be one less.

Good luck.