Yeah so I just got out of a six month relationship (longest in a while) and for the first couple of days we didn't see each, I hung out with a couple of friends, vice versa. Then she showed up at my house the day our anniversary would've been and we were inseperable for like a week. Just not dating.
Lately we've been fighting about pointless things and she's been very cold. I'm getting more mixed messages from this girl than I would if I had seventeen radios playing different stations at the same time. I'm at the point where I don't know what to do.
A major problem is I hate being alone, but I also hate being miserable. She also has had major problems letting people go.(an example being she is good friends with nearly all her ex's, even the ones who treated her like garbage)
She tells me we're going to get back together, then she'll tell me how much of a loser I am, not exactly in those words, but I get the message. I have no idea what to do.

is she bi polar????

Run away. Run FAR FAR AWAY!!!

I don;t care how much you hate being alone.

I dealt with someone like that and it turned out that she was Bi Polar.

Dude...unless she actually goes and gets help, you REALLY don't want any part of that kind of thing.

Trust me.

your young so im assuming she is young also......she needs to grow up and mature.....she's a kid!!!! Drama drama drama!!!

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zGJ8RtfRxDg

I have no idea what her medical diagnosis would be, all I know is I'm gonna need a psyche eval after this, she is literally driving me insane. I mean right now she's pissed at me because I lost my job and am struggling to find a new one. (Fortunatley I'm an optimist, unfortunately I'm also a cynic)
I mean this is making me fearful of another relationship because this is like the seventh or eighth girl I've dating that's made me feel like giving up, like I'm not even worth it anymore and I should just stop trying. (One actually told me that)
I mean don't get me wrong, she can be pretty great sometimes, but other times I wind up feeling like crap while she's sitting there telling me that I'M driving HER insane. I still can not figure out what the hell I'm doing wrong.
And I have dated a girl who had severe bi-polar and it was hellish. Espeically when we moved in together.

God damnit,
Chris

Dude. Just get out of the whole deal.

Even if she isn't Bi Polar...she is WAY too immature to even bother with.

Anyone who will verbally beat someone down like that needs to be alone for a while.

See? There's the other problem, she doesn't see or aknowledge what she's doing wrong. It actually makes me feel like it's just me. Unfotunatley at the same time I have really strong feelings for her, even still and seeing her with another guy would tear me up inside. I'm a laid-back guy and I hate confrontation but she seems to thrive on it. She even goes around to all her friends (guys and girls) and tell them any awful things about me. I swear this is making me want to put a bullet in my head just so I can have something else in there besides her nagging, angry, abusive voice. My stress is throught the roof but I can't get away from her because she'll act like her old self before catching me off guard with Psycho Woman.
I'm all out of ideas.

Run,run as fast as u can.Going back and forth with someone is no good.Plus if she calls u a loser and makes u feel like one that is one good.Noone should ever stay with someone that makes them feel like crap .I rather be alone then with someone like that. U will found someone.Those relationships that u had just weren't the right ones for u.:

Of COURSE she doesn't. My ex NEVER thought she was doing anything wrong. Even when she was holding a gun on me. She told me I ' deserved ' it and that I ' forced her ' into doing it.



Seriously....you'll get over it.



I am going to say this one last time. I have dealt with that kind of stuff and I know that your best bet is to GET OUT NOW!!!

You can do what you wish with the advice.




The ONLY idea you need is to take care of your own sanity. Stay there, and you won't have it anymore. You'll wind up a bitter, jaded person. You are way too young to allow yourself to be like that.

Yeah I guess you're right. Even still, I thought she was different, you know? Better. But it turned out she was just as bad as the others, just hid it better. I just wish she could see what she was doing to me, not just mentally and emotionally, but physically too. I haven't really been eating or sleeping for the past week or so. All I want is to be happy and hopefully find a girl who will make me happy and who I can truly make happy and keep it that way. Tired of fake love. Holy freakin' god I hate these girls.

I just gotta figure out how to get out, because, like I said she has major problems letting people go and I know for a fact she would be back at my house not two days later acting like the girl I fell for. It's maddening. I should just get out of Rhode Island.
And I feel for you with the gun thing that severe bi-polar girl stabbed me, she actually stabbed me. That was one relationship I was happy to get out of.

Yeah, your overthinking something thats totally not worth it.


ITS UNHEALTHY FOR YOU!

Thats all u need to know.

For all you know, she creeped back fo the aniversary gift!


RUN!!



you cant rationalise with an IRRATIONAL person. She WASNT RIGHT to start with!


Learn from it, so you get to the point where you see it coming.

There ya go.

It's not really overthinking it, it's mostly seeking advice and getting it off my chest. I'm good at giving advice to others, its just when it comes to me, I'm at a loss. All these failed relationships have been slowly eating at me, as more fail that is. Starting to wonder what's going on. That's all.

Get a sex change and become a woman and your problems with crazy insane women will be solved.

Uhm, a little too drastic for me. I was thinking about just stopping and waiting for the right one to find me. The more I look, the more psycho women are found. I should write a damn book about my experiences. It's ridiculous.

Just move on

Whatta ya holdin on for

Whatta ya holdin on to???

Many young women are just out of control these days. Do your best to avoid them.

I'm not really holding on to anything she is. I'm trying to not even think about her. All I have are memories, which I don't even want, and she doesn't know this but I can't stand being friends with my ex's, everything just gets all weird and I don't want to deal with it.

And it was only a few hours ago that she was here.

And yeah a lot of young women our out of control these days. A lot of them are very promiscuous and wiley. And I'm so sick of it. Where have the good women gone? I'm a good guy.