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I met a man only a week ago and sparks flew. We have tons in common and he even told me, he could see falling in love with me. I feel the same. We have seen each other almost every day and find more in common with each conversation. Chemistry is awesome.
Now the kicker. He tells me he has jumped from one relationship to the other (as have I) and he just wants to date other people too. But he thinks we have something special and he just needs his space for now. Please, help me sort through the emotional B.S. I'm going through and tell me (especially you men) what I should do. I'm not one to just "date" people. I like one on one to get to know that person and I told him that. I also told him I don't understand how he can have feelings for me and want to see others. (BTW, he is 10 years older than me.) Am I an idiot for believing him? Do 54 year olds still play games???? LOL stupid question, huh? |
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I met a man only a week ago and sparks flew. We have tons in common and he even told me, he could see falling in love with me. I feel the same. We have seen each other almost every day and find more in common with each conversation. Chemistry is awesome. Now the kicker. He tells me he has jumped from one relationship to the other (as have I) and he just wants to date other people too. But he thinks we have something special and he just needs his space for now. Please, help me sort through the emotional B.S. I'm going through and tell me (especially you men) what I should do. I'm not one to just "date" people. I like one on one to get to know that person and I told him that. I also told him I don't understand how he can have feelings for me and want to see others. (BTW, he is 10 years older than me.) Am I an idiot for believing him? Do 54 year olds still play games???? LOL stupid question, huh?  Sounds like he is trying to let you down easy
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yes 54 year old men still play games!!!!!!!
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yes 54 year old men still play games!!!!!!!  I am not sure that is what this guy is doing
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I don't think he wants to break it off. We just played golf today and have plans to do more things together. He talks all the time about doing things together. Even taking golf lessons which isn't a short term thing!
This is the second guy I've met that has said this. I broke it off with the first one because I couldn't stand the thought of him "sleeping" with other people if we got intimate! |
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You should just tell him that you are not built that way, and then see what happens, if he goes you know the deal, if he stays and agrees to not date others then you know thats what it really is.
Don't let him dictate how the relationship is going to go, it has to be mutual respect or you may as well walk away from it. Just my opinion |
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He's not trying to let you down, but more sounds like he's using you for a backup while he trys to find something else. I know it sounds horrible, and i hate to be the guy to say this. The older guys are worse than younger ones ive come to find. Somethin about men getting stupider as we age. Now the question is can you live with it or not! I wouldnt take that kind of crap.
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I told him I would give him some time - he just broke up with someone a few days before we met so i understand that. But I also told him I wouldn't wait very long. If he can't see what I see between us, then he's got his head up his a$$!
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Depends on what he has gone through maybe he is just being honest. Jumping from one thing to the other usually doesn't work. My 2 cents.
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I don't think he wants to break it off. We just played golf today and have plans to do more things together. He talks all the time about doing things together. Even taking golf lessons which isn't a short term thing! This is the second guy I've met that has said this. I broke it off with the first one because I couldn't stand the thought of him "sleeping" with other people if we got intimate!  I don't think he is playing games, because he is being honest with you. But it sounds like he is shopping around before making a final decision
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I personally would be very leery of anyone who seriously thought it was a good idea to commit to one person after one week, regardless of how good the chemistry might be. That's just too fast.
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Theres this movie...."Hes just not that into you"....check it out.
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You should just tell him that you are not built that way, and then see what happens, if he goes you know the deal, if he stays and agrees to not date others then you know thats what it really is. Don't let him dictate how the relationship is going to go, it has to be mutual respect or you may as well walk away from it. Just my opinion agree with this one. |
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i've told him how I feel about it and we have been totally open about it. I just don't know whether to believe it or not being the leery person that I am having been in the dating pool for 7 years now!
I've seen "he's just not that into you" and read the book. I think if he wasn't that into me he wouldn't want to see me every single day - him calling and asking, not me. |
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yes 54 year old men still play games!!!!!!! |
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I met a man only a week ago and sparks flew. We have tons in common and he even told me, he could see falling in love with me. I feel the same. We have seen each other almost every day and find more in common with each conversation. Chemistry is awesome. Now the kicker. He tells me he has jumped from one relationship to the other (as have I) and he just wants to date other people too. But he thinks we have something special and he just needs his space for now. Please, help me sort through the emotional B.S. I'm going through and tell me (especially you men) what I should do. I'm not one to just "date" people. I like one on one to get to know that person and I told him that. I also told him I don't understand how he can have feelings for me and want to see others. (BTW, he is 10 years older than me.) Am I an idiot for believing him? Do 54 year olds still play games???? LOL stupid question, huh? |
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Edited by
MelodyGirl
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Fri 07/17/09 02:41 PM
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HI
 It IS what it IS.  Don't wrap yourself in pain, or try to figure him out. He was honest and that is that! If he wants more, he will tell you but just accept what he said. It's not healthy for you to dwell in this situation. Let it go, have fun dating him or move on to someone that provides you with stability if that is what you seek. You control you. If you don't like the roller coaster - get off the ride. 
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He's not trying to let you down, but more sounds like he's using you for a backup while he trys to find something else. I know it sounds horrible, and i hate to be the guy to say this. The older guys are worse than younger ones ive come to find. Somethin about men getting stupider as we age. Now the question is can you live with it or not! I wouldnt take that kind of crap. |
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Sounds like he is playing the field But he likes you too
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MelodyGirl that is what I need to hear. Thank you.. its been so long since I felt this way about someone - especially so damn fast that I'm scared to death. He is really a special person and I don't want to screw it up with jealousy and other crap!
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