ive ran out of luck when it comes to dating. no one ever seems to notice me when it comes to dating and its really getting to me now. all ive wanted in life is someone that can love me but no one loves me. the only person in this whole damn world that loves me is my brother. i just feel so unloved and so misunderstood

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My first piece of advice is to stop feeling sorry for yourself. Ive been there. However, you need to pull yourself out of it. And trust me, no one will love you unless you love yourself first.

TV has Dr. Phil. We've got DR. JILL!!! And, she's right.

and neither one of us are doctors

Hang in there Man im in the same boat hopeful things will change L)

What she said

Being 22 & hopeless is just so, so wrong...

ive never once liked myself. ive always hated my body and my face and everything to do with me. but im gonna start liking myself and seeing myself more of a positive way :)

That just sounded way to easy to say...

What are you going to do to start liking yourself?

I also reccomend that you get in touch with a mentor...

Do you have friends? Do you talk with your brother?

Saying something is one thing...taking action is another.

Your lifetime is today.

What are you going to do today to be good to you?

How are you going to start treating yourself better?

It is your choice how you feel about yourself...no matter what anyone says to you, helps you with, or teaches you...

It is your choice to internalize the positive or not...

You are the person responsible for your happiness each and everyday.

Get involved in your community to help people less fortunate...do a random act of kindness each and every day...

im thinking thats a really good idea. thank you lighthouselover, helping other people with problems just like mine can help me figure out my problem better :)

go and do some volentary work, you`ll meet some new people and fill the spare time you currently use to sit and procrastinate
long roads, take small steps

please feel better Scotty...

reading this made me feel so bad....

You are a great guy!! Please remember that!!!

okay.

ready?

brace yourself.

so are we all invited to your self pity party?

my best friend told me once that you will never find happiness with another if you're not happy with yourself. COMPLETELY.

so..

why don't you learn to be happy with yourself?

you don't need someone else to love you.

love yourself.

do my a favor, suck it up, walk it off, and learn to accept yourself as is. then.. you'll find the changes and love flowing in.

tommorow i will be a new man. i realized i gotta love myself first but i have alot of love for you guys for encouraging me :) i made a long list of things i can do which includes helping others that cant get the help im getting :)

thats fantastic. but work on yourself first. be selfish in this situation. worry about others later. can't fix others if you can't fix yourself.

you gotta let chicks know youre interested.


that means when some hottie walks by in the grocery store u gotta give them the look

also, barking at women works too, seriously.. at least in my age group

Scotty, I understand completely. All I can say is pray about it and ask the Lord to help you to focus on what you need to now until your significant other comes along. For a while this whole situation of looking for "her" has been driving me damn near insane. We are here for your support.

Folks, for the ones that say to "stop feeling sorry for yourself", all I can say is that it's easier said than done. Their are many people out there, myself included, that have felt rejected time and time again...and for what? There are the ones that are extremely attractive people that get all the attention and have no problem feeling loved and wanted. Then there are the ones that don't get much or any attention that may not be repulsive, but may have a lack of experience or knowledge of talking to the opposite sex. Since you may be wondering about my own experience in this then I'll elaborate. Since grade school, I've been very shy and have not known how to talk to the ladies. By junior high and high school the girls wanted nothing to do with me just because of my weight problem. College years rolled around and my weight evened out and I looked better than I ever have before in my life. However, since never getting the chance or knowing how to talk to women earlier on, I had a disability of really putting myself out there. I sure didn't want to resort to bars and clubs either. So I am where I am now, still struggling a bit, yes...but nevertheless fighting myself to learn and feel good about myself. I'm handsome, friendly, funny, sexy and many other things. But reciprocation of appreciating those qualities has yet to flourish. In a nutshell, it's extremely frustrating in many ways to not have someone by your side through thick and thin who sees all those qualities in you, even the qualities we don't see in ourselves.

Have a good one, folks. Beam me up, Scotty :D

barking??

Dude, that's making it look worse than it already is for us guys and for our generation. Next time you wanna bark, look in the mirror while you do it to see how ridiculous it would look :P