TAMI!!!! control yourself woman

Hey now Kim, I am just having fun with the newbie

You have to admit he is HOT!!!!

nope, because in my opinion that is setteling. And i vowed iam not doing that anymore.
And like me as i am, and tahts everything about me

Haha! When are these? I just joined last night.

Oh TRUST me, I will let you know about the next one. They are normally posted in the Texas forums. We were thinking Austin next

well now...I didn't say he wasn't...just saying....

If that's the case....

Then why is it that people are always looking for that ' perfect ' ( for you, me who the hell ever ) person????

i wouldn't change now, someone needs to just fit into my life and i into theirs or it wont work. simple as.

Nah, I just would ditch them.

The shining armor actually makes up for a lot of it.

Some change may take place, with me it is what it is, i am who i am, take or leave it!

No. You cannot change people nor should you want to.

Right up until the flaws start making the armor tarnish. Then they realize, once again, that the " perfect person " doesn't exist.

Just the same as they have realized it once, twice, ten or more other times.

Change has to be for yourself first...if someone else benefits, that's fine. It might be good for the relationship to act on a change opportunity, but without that self-interest, it's unlikely to be a genuine change.

If you liked them the way they were in the beginning that is the way you should let them remain. We are who we are and should never change unless it is for ourselves.

There are times in life we reflect upon who we are and decide to change those things that we finally see that we have done wrong. But unless it is for those reasons then we should remain as we are.

When someone tries to change another they will never be completely happy being someone that they are not.

Depends on what it was. If hmm just making up an example, if I cursed or he did in front of one of our parents who found it offensive, I might point out that it would be best not to do that in front of my parents, (or him point that out to me). That would not bother me in the least. That would be information I'd like to have. I think some people get so bent out of shape jumping up and down yelling "they're trying to change me". I pointed out, not so nicely once, that someone was NOT to use the "N" word at my table over Christmas holiday when they came back with "I use it all the time". Not in my house you don't. So yeah, I expected that to change under my roof, or they'd be asked to leave.

whats the 'N' word - email it me if u have to!

A racial slur

Well to me that is out of respect heck my kids were raised not to use that word myself that and using the F word every other word is a big no no. But then if that was something they did all the time I assure you I would not have dated them from the beginning for our views in life would clash way too much. So they would not be one I would have considered in having a relationship with in the first place.

Kristi, well this wasn't a date that did this. I just used that as an example of something I would speak up about to a date about.