another attention freak - ditch her, she will be fine and rest assured will ALWAYS put herself first!

you'd feel a lot worse if you'd underreacted and she ended up dead. better to have her annoyed and alive. and gayfifer is right. she needs to grow up and get help or something instead of dragging you down.

Worked answering 911 calls for 10 yrs...you absolutely did the right thing!!! Trust me, it's not pretty to listen to the alternative.

She might just be looking for attention, but it's 100% mortality rate if this is the time she's serious. Our mantra was "When in doubt, send 'em out."

And at least now she's in the system, she might be able to get the help she obviously needs.

You're a good friend.

I myself had a friend like this who threatened suicide ALL the time, she was bipolar. I called 911 several times and sure she was upset but in the end she was happy to be alive. I finally told her that I could not be friends with her anymore because she was dragging me down. That night she was in the hospital for trying to kill herself again...I didn't go. I actually had to walk away from the situation, sometimes you don't need that kind of stress in your life.
Good luck

notice they are always 'trying' to kill themselves? if ur gonna do it u'll do it and no one will need to call 911!

My cousin's 23 year old son hung himself last year.

You did the right thing.

I respectfully disagree on the last part. Someone WILL need to call 911 when the body has been found. Suicides need to be investigated, police need to be respond before the body can be removed. Unfortunately it's usually found by a friend or loved one who calls 911 because they're so freaked they don't know who else to call. And it's always heart breaking, especially when the victim's been saying it forever. The person finding them usually is destroyed because they didn't listen, didn't think they meant it this time. It really is a very sad situation.

Perhaps you're justified in being annoyed by those crying wolf repeatedly. And perhaps you don't feel sorry for them, wish they'd just get it done and over with already, that seems to be a common attitude. Guess I'm a little more compassionate, she's just sick. Whether the OP should try to stick around and help her is an entirely different question.

i have worked in mental health for years and have dealt with hundreds of people with active suicidal ideation, everything from a guy doused in lighter fluid running around with a lighter, slit wrists, o'ding on pills, etc. To me the saddest thing was that they were crys for attention, reactions to pain, frustration and depression. Genuine human contact was all I used (very successfully), but their own ability to develop and maintain and circle of friends who could offer them genuine human contact was so limited and they all failed to see their role in this and the follow up work with them was even rougher.

When people threaten suicide you ALWAYS take it as serious.

If it turns out to only be attention seeking behavior then the the expense of EMS ect. will be a deterent in the future.

If not you have saved a life by doing the right thing for her.

NOW do the right thing for you and block her number from your cell phone and your life.

It is pretty obvious she has bigger problems than you can deal with. IMHO she knew six pills (strange that she knew exactly how many if she was really suicideal) would maybe make her stoned but hardly fatal. This can be called a cry for help but it could also be called Bullying behavior. Probably no secret which I think it is.

i apologise for any offence and bow out.

well unfortunately i wear my heart on my sleeve i still want to heal and save the world and alot of times at the cost of my sanity.

shes got a lot of health problems and is on disability and shes having problems with her ex-husband!

ironically i had to stop talking to another fiend because when she would call me it would always be about her and her drama and she always found the time to hang out with druggies and everybody else but me!

i guess im just scared that if i do ignore this other friend she will go over the edge and kill herself and i dont want to feel guilty b.c i cut her out!

i think this recent friend does have a lot of stress and it would do her good to get help but i mean her daughter and son in law said she can move in with them but she said no b.c their house is smaller then her trailer and shed have to give up her pets and shes isnt able to pay lot rent and will more then likely loose the trailer!

mean while im dealing with my on going health issue and being fired for getting sick and dealing with unemployment appels!and painful cyst on my ovaries!

CAN I GETTING A FRiGGING HUG!?!

((((bee)))))

hon...you can only do so much. calling 911 is the right thing to do. hopefully she will get help but you can only do so much. you can't fix her problems...she has to want to fix them. when sh is sick and tired of being sick and tired...she will get help. But you can't carry the weight of the world on your shoulders either. If you aren't in a good place yourself...you can't do anyone else any good. you need to look after yourself first

In January, my best friend called me, she had just taken an entire bottle of a prescription of her, she was severely intoxicated and had just gotten into a fight with her fiance. She lives 1500 miles away from me, and I don't know her address.

I had to do the hardest thing EVER that night. I had to sit on the phone with her. I tried to keep her awake, but I just couldn't do anything to help her. I didn't know how to get 911 to respond to her house without an address.

I stayed on the phone with her until she passed out. I cried for hours and hours and hours thinking she was dead... When she called me the next day to appologize, I ripped her a new one. I also made sure I got any and all information from her.

You did the right thing!

thanks yellowrose,like i dont want to turn my back on her b.c shes needs more help then i can give her but im still having health issues my self!

she said shes not mad at me or never was and she has agreed to talk to a therapist!so hopefully shell be ok!

If she gives you any crap about it tell her not to "cry wolf." Simple as that. If one of my friends pulled that **** I'd call 911, go over to their house with a bag of popcorn and watch, follow them to the emergency room, and the second I got one foul word about what I did I'd tell them to call me when they grow up and walk away.

But I've been told that mine is a subjective opinion.

well she ways saying she was gonna kill me in front of cops at her house then at the hospital and i told her that will teach her to say i feel suicidal!and she had to drink charcoal which was fun for me to watch b.c after all she called suicide and i couldn't living knowing i may could have saved her and her be dead

sometimes being a good friend might mean tough love. you may need to put your foot down with her. as hard as it might be for you. you are not any good to anyone if you don't take care of yourself.

the laws in different states may vary but I would think after calling 911 enough times for her...they could admit her for observation. I learned that when someone is talking about suicide (before attempting it) that it's a cry for help. most people that truly want to die, don't want someone to help them or even know about it. so she is crying out for help. just be firm with her about getting help. maybe even offer to go with her to check in to a hospital or therapist or whatever, but you can't do it for her...she has to want help

well she actually called me later one during the day and said she got checked into peninsula so it guess its a mental breakdown place where she can really talk to people that can help her out!

between my health and job issues and helping out my pregnant best friend and my suicidal friend i think i need a paid vacation!

Not saying it to be mean but if you cut this drama queen out of your life she will probably hardly notice. If she can't get you to be her victim she probably has any number of other people she can drive up the wall.

I think there is little or no threat that this person will actually kill herself. If she does it will be an accident where she is throwing a tantrum which you can't control.

It is wonderful to be the kind of friend that doesn't cut and run when needed most but sounds like this person is not really friend material.

Friendship denotes a relationship of respect, shareing and contribution from BOTH sides. Friendships should not grow from someone always being the one to need the other.

You have made a terribly mature step deleteing one toxic friend and I can see the difficulty of deleteing a second but my guess is with your great heart the nice friends you already will come forward now that you have these pain in the necks out of your life.

Good chance by adding a slightly higher standard of behavior required in your friends it will be a lot more fun having friends and you will enjoy being their friend. Hang in there!