as cold as this might sound....you have to look after yourself first. I know from personal experience about looking after everyone first and putting myself on the back burner. you are human without super human powers. I used to try to save the world too...until the weight of the world crashed on me. trust me when I say to take care of yourself first and do what YOU need to do.

if I posted this topic...what would you tell me???

i would have told u the exact same thing i know its coming to a point where the stress from everything is getting to me and the last thing i needed was to have "her blood on my hands"

hon...but it wouldn't be your fault. all you can do is what you can do. you can't save someone if they don't want to save themselves. the advice you would give someone else is the best IMO that you can take for yourself....because it comes from the heart. you deserve the same straight forward, caring advice that you give others

yeah and its very true thank you!im just so used to being the healer and protector that its easy for me to feel guilty if i dont help somebody with their problem!

ive got great friends and a great family i think i need to learn to let things go a bit before i go bald!lol

i was that way for 25 yrs. I appointed myself that when I was 7 when my dad died. but 5 yrs ago....I had to learn to put up boundaries. they aren't walls...just boundaries. just like with an alcoholic or drug abuser...you need to tell them you can't sit by and watch them kill themselves. just say that you love them and will be there for them but only when they are ready for help. in a way...you become an enabler. I know I was and it doesn't help them or you. learn to set boundaries and stick to them

You did the right thing. Be proud of yourself. You are a good friend.

thanks everyone i soo much appreciate the support with what i did to help me friend out!i feel alot better!and much thanks to yellow!

bee....don't hesitate to email me any time ok???? warning though...I quit smoking today....so I might be a bear so BEAR with me

that's ok my ovarian cyst are giving me problems today so we can be cranky pals!