If you were trying to not meet someone, sounds like that's working. Were you expecting the opposite to happen or something?

Why wait around? If you find someone you'd like to meet, ask them to meet. Waiting around may get you nowhere.

I met my love,in the sex and Intamacy forums,just be patient,mingle,make friends,ya never know

You said this....."meaning i have been trying to "try" not to meet someone ".

I said this......."I think you are just trying to not try way too hard".


So is that not the same thing just reworded?

If not, you got some 'splainin to do Ricky!

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=H0lKmznjgfQ

It's like that line from the car commercials: "Your mileage may vary."

I have seen people meet "the one" here fairly quickly; I've seen others meet "the one" after being here awhile.

I've seen people find someone they THOUGHT was "the one" here, only to have it all fall apart, resulting in some pretty nasty and pointed exchanges in the forums. The "train wrecks," if you will.

I've been here 2 1/2 years and I'm still hoping to run across someone compatible. The site is growing, there are new people signing up every day, and you never know who might show up tomorrow.

As for the "not trying" thing -- there's this old hackneyed cliche about "it'll show up when you're not looking." I've heard that all my life, but have yet to see any indication that it's any more true than "step on a crack, break your mother's back."

ya, you ought to just give up..it doesn't look like its going to work out for you

roko

you said, "Awwwwwww hun, I think you are just trying to not try way too hard.
Just be you, and eventually someone will appreciate you for just you.......I've been all over the map with what I thought I wanted out of Mingle. At this point.....it's absolutely nothing, and that's NOT a strategy."


next time realize im a guy and when i read anything that starts with "Awwwwwwwwww hun," I get stupid and forget to read the rest...LOL

So I take back what I said, you understand too

i think youre right roco/roko - i'm going to be single the rest of my life - should tell that to the girl i'm planning on hanging out with tomorrow

i didnt click that link - only bc it does not state anywhere what it is that i will be viewing

I been in a bunch of relationships - where I looked for that perfect girl - thought I found her in 2 days - then gave up on the rest

did I mention I been in a bunch of relationships?

I havent been looking in the sex and intimacy forum - thats for sure - lol thanks for the tip

I like your style - and your views ----- its kind of funny though, how everyone thinks the threads are sort of a "playing field" when you dont have someone and then when you do youre "not looking for someone" - you following me at all? What I mean is this: If I find someone, I will know 2 months into it. I think that is answering your statement? 2 and a half years I bet you've had a couple "shots" at tryin...but you didnt succeed, or so you think? I believe that you did. Because if you were with that first or second one...you'd be even more miserable

What?! Do you think I would rickroll a stranger? Oh, don't be a hero.

"If you try to fail, and succeed, which have you done?"

we try and fail then try again and again until we find that someone we know that will always be there that's all part of the fun the Chase but still i do wish it wasn't so hard lol still we all try

Yeah, but different people handle that differently. I have friends here who are in a committed relationship but who stick around because of the friends they've made here. As long as you've got your boundaries figured out, it doesn't have to be a problem.

I like the "playing field" line -- it works on a couple of levels, actually, and I think it's a real speed bump for some people.



Right. By 2 months in, you usually have an indicator of where (if anywhere) it's going. Don't go by me though -- I'm almost always out by 3 months....



Surprisingly (or maybe not so surprisingly?), no -- no shots, not even a loud bang or a muffled drum roll.



I like to take each new situation, each new person, as an individual, completely unrelated to the last few dozen catastrophes I've endured!

That's not always easy, and residue is likely to show up (or at least to be perceived) -- it's human nature to want to clarify things by making connections, some of which aren't necessarily legitimate or realistic.

Which is one reason I have a real loathing for the "blanket statement" --

Well heck when ya have been here as long as I have and not met anyone yet then ya can do some complaining shshshshh

I have met some from the site but as friends only still waiting for that one but.........then guess if your not trying it is hard to really met anyone in that aspect. Ohhh well guess I expect them just to jump out of nowhere