Suck it up and grow a thicker skin.

Believe it or not, if you get rejected it rarely has anything to do WITH YOU.

Plus she might say yes.

Reasons I say no, I might not be feeling well, I might be dating someone else, I might be under a lot of stress, you might be a professional contact, etc. But rarely do I say, eww no way and just refuse.

So start asking.

great advice i know all of that but have you ever been rejected it takes 5 years off your life.lol

OK I SHOULD BE DEAD ABOUT 40 YEARS AGO........

Yeah, I have been rejected. I took it just fine. Not everyone's going to like me. That is called life. And I'm an adult.

HEY I BEEN REJECTED SO MUCH , I NEED HELP IF SHE SAID YESSSSSSSSSS

look i know all of that, it just makes you feel like an idiot even thinking she would have said yes and then there is that walk of shame as you leave. bleh

With that attitude, you're not going to get far.

dont have to tell me that, usually i wait until she makes the first move, then there is no fear but i have let girls slip away by not asking anything then tell myself she wasnt interested or she would have said something. make sense

Stop worrying so much. If you like someone, ask them out. Rejection happens to everyone. But, you're not going to get past that unless you actually ask someone out.

NOTHING VENTURED ,NOTHING GAINED....... I THOUGHT I WAS BAD OFF, AT LEAST I HAVE THE COURAGE TO ASK........................

ya im pretty sad the only thing that scares me more than asking, is spiders those two things make my blood turn cold lol

nothing ventured, nothing lost.



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Like I should be giving advice.....

Don't go right to the "Hey, you wanna go out sometime?". Start with small talk... note something about her that you can talk about and ask her about it. Listen to what she's saying and respond to it. Be funny if you can. You'll be able to tell from body language whether she has any interest at all. If she doesn't show additional interest, then say "Hey, it was good to meet you" and move on. If she seems interested then introduce yourself and ask her if she's single. If she says yes, then ask her if you can call her and ask her out sometime. Or ask her out then.

There doesn't need to be rejection. Just start the conversation and see where it goes.

see, you just did it!! Just leave off the qualifier at the end [just following your advice]... so you don't sound like 'the nice guy' DOH! (did I just say nice guy?)...

Ok, first off I want to say is that I know how you are feeling. I have looked around and found some helpful info. I am still working on my own shyness. But just start by taking baby steps. You can start when you go shopping or any where in public. Just smile at a lady. You can also just strike up a small conversation with any one, just make it topical to the situation. The conversation can be really short. Or message people on line. It is like learning to swim. It really is, so practice and the buddie system is not a bad idea either (in some situations). Oh and here is a tip about questions. Try to make your questions open ended and not the yes or no type, that way they have to talk more and explain. Doing that will give you more chances to find some thing to talk about with them. And above all listen! there is a lot more like humor and flirting, but like I said before, we need to start out with baby steps. THe more comfortable you are just talking to some one, the more you can be yourself.