I agree with what the other women said; not all girls/women go to bars for "the hookup." I used to go to bars with my girlfriends years ago, just to have fun. If we met someone we liked, cool, if not, no biggie. We just had fun.

I also agree with the idea of talking to a girl you like and getting her number so you can meet up later, when you're both sober and can have a decent getting-to-know-you conversation. Good luck!

thanks everyone for the input.. sorry if its a post you've heard or are sick of hearing.. just thought I would stirr up convo and opinions. Thanks again and sorry.

dont' ever apologize for posting a thread because you had a legit question.

if people have probs with it they can go read other threads.

and the point of these threads are to invoke thought opinion and conversation.

which you did. :)

Uh uh, no apologizing for a post unless it's mean, nasty or overall distasteful.

don't apologize, your thread wasn't whiny; so it's not a nice guy thread. the whiny ones annoy me.

GIGO= Garbage In = Garbage Out, if you don't want to change then stop complaining about it

ooohh its like sh*t or get off the pot!

I would like to point out that this phrase does not account for the possibility of constipation.

Good one Bro.

My dad always told me to be particular as to what garage you parked in.

och't balderdash they are no different from guys in bars.

TRY CHURCH.........

Got that right. If she's in a bar, I'm not interested.

I agree. It's a great post. and like others have said already....not all girls are one nighters. I go to the bar to shoot pool...I'm not into one night stands.

yes but same goes for a guy in a bar (well for me anyway)

What's with the social stigma associated with a bar? Ya know, there are genuine, good people who like to go out for drinks every now and then. Is the way you look at the opposite sex in a bar how you want other people to look at you when you're going out for a drink or three? If you want to judge people based on their surroundings you might as well not approach anybody anywhere. Like don't approach women jogging in the park; they're health nuts. Don't approach women in the library; they're nerds. Don't approach women walking their dogs; they're too defensive. Don't approach women on Mingle; they're all lonely and have no life. It's up to you to get what you want out of a first conversation anywhere. If you're too drunk at a bar to realize that that the woman is only about partying and sleeping around, and get you all worried about never talking to you again, then you are the sucker.

very well-rounded reply, i've met fantastic people, and possible friends in multitudes of different places, and i've met my share of, ...umm....less compatible to my personality let's say, in places "suitable for the so called norm", and sheezy's right, it's boulderdash! to put stereotypes on anything, because as soon as you think you've got it pegged,....it isn't...... there's always an exception................. they are just us! we are them..........or maybe we're.................they!


or those people!

Hmm women & bars.......sounds like a plan

I guess it all comes down to personal preferences. I've lost way too many I loved to alcohol in my life -- I don't have any interest in going through that again. I don't drink and I don't want to get involved with anyone who does. It doesn't matter to me whether they are "genuine good people" -- that's all too subjective, anyway -- it matters about the choices they've made (or haven't made) in their lives.



It isn't about surroundings, per se, not for me anyway. The bar is shorthand, really -- the preeminent, obvious milieu for a drinker. That's not the point -- I wouldn't be interested in anybody who drinks, anywhere. The bar just permits an easy framework for discussion purposes.



Everybody's got their own standards -- I'm not put off by health nuts or nerds.